It doesn’t have to hurt! It shouldn’t hurt. That is the #1 reassurance you need to give your partner if there is even a hint of fear.
Carol Queen, in Bend Over Boyfriend, emphasizes talking about anal sex before you do it. One way to bring up the subject is to talk about your fantasies with your partner, preferably while you’re fully dressed, but after making love is a good time too.
Sometimes it’s hard to talk first. Reader Gaye from New York City writes to suggest rolling over on to your belly while making love, then sticking your ass up in the air.
Later on, say to your lover, “I really liked it when you touched my ass.” See what your partner’s reaction is, and use that as a basis for later conversation.
Recently, a customer called to say that he’d heard about Bend Over Boyfriend because a friend of his wanted him to “try it, and be open to it.” She told him to watch the DVD and then they’d talk about it. Good idea, we told him.
Another idea is to write a love letter to your honey, and just say, “I want it!”
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