Our next-door neighbors took their kids to summer camp. Yesterday they didn’t come out of their house all day! We thought, bet they’re in bed experimenting like mad.

Here are three down-and-dirty suggestions for trying something new this summer vacation—

–Bend Over Boyfriend
If you haven’t tried doing your boyfriend up his butt yet, or if you want your girlfriend to do you, this is the place to start.

Already tried it but need or want some more inspiration? Try Bend Over Boyfriend 2. Or try them both in the special BOB 2-fer package and save $10.

–Female Ejaculation
If you’re even remotely curious about how to female ejaculate, go to the FE goddess herself, Miss Deborah Sundahl, to learn how and where your G-spot lurks. This is pure fun and requires no equipment. Your fingers will suffice. Enjoy!

Never done it? Start here: How to Female Ejaculate

Want to try it with your hetero partner? Try Female Ejaculation for Couples

Prefer the company of women? Then you need Female Ejaculation: The Workshop

–Catch Up on The Crash Pad
If you’ve like some people we know, maybe you never quite “got” the Crash Pad craze. Well, now’s your chance to catch up.

The Crash Pad Gift Set is perfect for the beach. If you’ve got a summer house or share with like-minded friends, these vids make the perfect basis for sexy party games. 

Plus, you get to choose which three Crash Pad videos you want—just put a note in the Comments section during checkout.

Our favorite remains The Crash Pad Series Volume 2, which we said was “beautifully filmed and pussy-licking good!”

Get nasty this summer…and tell us your stories!

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Remember to bring a gift when you visit! You can see all Fatale’s packaged and gift sets here.

Deborah’s complete workshop schedule gives the details, and she has two workshops upcoming in September.

If you can’t make it to one of her popular workshops, we recommend you check out her female ejaculation DVDs, particularly Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

Valuable information in a workshop setting about how to find the G-spot!

Dear Fanny,
I used to be able to female ejaculate, but lately it seems it’s not as easy as it used to be. Is there anything I can do to make it easier again?

Anonymous in New York

Dear Anonymous in New York,
The ability to female ejaculate is often characterized by sensitivity to one’s connection to your partner and also to yourself. If it is not as easy to ejaculate as it once was, this situation often reflects a change in your relationship from closeness to more difficulties or distance.

If you’re not in a relationship, this can reflect a change in how you relate or perceive yourself; perhaps you’re not feeling as attractive as you used to feel about yourself.

Sometimes for women who are very profuse when they ejaculate, they begin to have problems or doubts about ejaculating so much liquid. They then curtail their desire to ejaculate or don’t do it as frequently. If they are not conscious of these doubts, it can seem to them as if it is becoming more difficult to ejaculate, when in fact they are holding themselves back due to not wanting to create such a big pool of water every time they are sexual.

Lastly, if a woman has been performance-oriented and trying hard to ejaculate, she may find her ability waning somewhat, due to pushing too hard (both literally and figuratively). As I have said many times, the surest way to not ejaculate is to pressure yourself. Relax and enjoy the process! 

In the same vein, a change may be coming over your sexual desires. Perhaps you have been having lots of sport sex, and now you want to go more inward and explore what your sexuality would be like from the perspective of expressing love and intimacy with yourself or a partner. 

Bottom line: don’t worry about this change in your ability to ejaculate. Use it as the opportunity it is: to take a look at your erotic life for changes, or changes you are beginning to want to make.

Deborah

Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Dear Deborah,
Is it true that a woman’s G-spot is like a muscle and that if you don’t exercise it then you can’t ejaculate?

Caroline, New York

Dear Caroline,
In general, yes to your question. Use it or lose it, as they say. 

But as I have been saying for many years now, the G-spot is not a muscle or a wildly erotic spot on the vagina. The G-spot is the female prostate, which we feel through the roof of the vagina, and all women of course have a prostate just like all men do!

“Not using it” is a female ejaculation slumber that most women are now waking up from, thank goodness!  All women can ejaculate, by the way, if they want to. Please don’t pressure yourself to ejaculate if you don’t want to.  And also apply the no-pressure rule if you are learning. Relax and enjoy the process.

Good luck!

Deborah

Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Our friend Deborah Sundahl was visiting over the Easter holiday and subsequent week that many take as spring break. And she got us thinking about rediscovering the G-spot, and rediscovering the power of female sexuality.

There are still some people who deny the existence of the G-spot and the ability for women to female ejaculate. But Deborah’s longtime dedication to showing the G-spot on video should leave no doubt in anyone’s mind.

If you’re a novice when it comes to the G-spot, start with Deborah’s bestselling classic, How to Female Ejaculate.

If you’re in a couple and want to explore female ejaculation and the G-spot together, try Female Ejaculation for Couples and watch as Deborah guides three straight couples through the steps to achieve this most spectacular of orgasms.

Really, there’s nothing quite like it. And what better time than springtime to allow your body to open up and rediscover pure orgasm like no other in the world.

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. “Adventurous Couples Unite” is a female-ejaculation gift set with three Deborah Sundahl videos. You save 17%.

P.P.S. You can see all Fatale’s DVDs here.

Dear Fanny,
I think I have experienced a clear and odorless ejaculation before, but more noticeable are the ones where I feel they have an odor (only because of how my partner smells afterward). I think when it happens, I feel no control because of the intensity. I’m not sure if I’m pushing too hard when it happens. Like I said, I don’t think I have control when it happens. But I have “pushed” quite hard before and no fluid is released. There are other times I experience a vaginal orgasm though and nothing comes out! It seems to be at random.

Maybe it’s just best to empty my bladder before sex at all times and just leave it at that? I know that female ejaculation is a mixture of different fluids that could include urine.

All the best,

Stephanie

Dear Stephanie,
No, female ejaculate does not include urine. Female ejaculate is mostly prostatic fluid and some glucose.

The noticeable ejaculations would be the ones that smell like urine. So, let’s back up a step. To the non-urine ejaculations! You are ejaculating! Congratulations!

Now, going from there, you say that sometimes your ejaculate smells like urine, when you have an intense orgasm, and you don’t feel yourself ejaculate. That is when it smells mostly like urine, correct? Therefore, you are pushing hard, but not consciously. It’s just the nature of the intensity—in all likelihood.

With intensity and with pushing hard, or both at once, I have noticed that this is the situation when some women experience urine in their ejaculate. I am not sure why that is, but now I am suspecting weak PC muscles. Try doing more Kegel exercises for a few months and see if that helps.

Of course, if you are new to ejaculation, don’t worry about the urine right now; worry about understanding your body and this ejaculation phenomenon, okay? Cut yourself a little slack right now. I have noticed a type of personality that approaches female ejaculation with a dose of worry. Also, I’ve seen performance-oriented women who experience this urine in their ejaculate, and then they worry about it. Maybe relax a bit. Don’t try so hard.

As for pushing out and nothing comes out, many women cannot ejaculate with something in their vaginas! Is this happening? Also, you may be trying too hard, and this can cause a “misfire.”

Please be good to yourself and let this process unfold a bit more. Also, thank your partner for the amazing orgasms you are having that cause you to ejaculate, and ask him to be patient while you figure out the urine leakage problem.

Most of all, I want you to focus not on the bad, but the good. Focus on the times your ejaculate is clear and refreshing! Celebrate, please! For from this vantage point you will learn the most about how to clear up the other problem.

Best to you,
Deborah

Want to find out more about female ejaculation? Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Now Deborah is up in Canada giving talks and lectures on female ejaculation—she’s in Halifax now—then she’s off to Europe for her female ejaculation workshops . Scroll down and you can see where Deborah is scheduled to appear in England and Scotland, Holland and Germany over the next couple of months.

A special five-day female ejaculation workshop is scheduled for the Black Forest in Germany in November – http://www.isismedia.org/workshop_registration.html. Now is the time to sign up!

Deborah Sundahl is the female ejaculation expert who writes the “Ask Fanny Fatale” Q&A column for this blog. We expect to be getting new columns from Deborah from Europe. Stay tuned!

Hi Deborah,
My name is Dave. Thanks for your great info online. I heard about you from that Playboy Radio show.

My question is this…

My wife has been a squirter for years. We are both very oral…and she swallows my semen quite often, an act I believe to be common and not dangerous, when we have oral sex.

On the flip side…is it safe to swallow her ejaculate???

I know that what comes out of me is semen. I’m unsure what it is that releases from her body. Some say urine…some say other fluid…

I would assume that swallowing urine would give me some kind of staff virus or other disease…

Please let me know if you believe it to be safe to swallow this fluid.

I have in the past and I don’t mind the taste. Are there ways to change the taste?

I appreciate your time and look forward to hearing back from you. Thanks.

Dave in Boca Raton, Florida

Dear Dave,
Thank you for writing me with your question! Was it not clear on the Playboy Radio Afternoon Advice show (Sirius and XM 99) with Tiffany Granath that female ejaculation is not urine?

Female ejaculate is prostatic fluid, and it has the most fresh and uplifting smell with no taste. Female ejaculation also contains a good dose of glucose (sugar), with tiny amounts of urea and creatin.

Urine does not seep into female ejaculate any more often than it seeps into male ejaculate, which some men experience rather often. Same for women.

As to your question about urine, yogis and some alternative health people drink their morning’s urine every day to stay healthy, and sometimes to cure illnesses. Other health uses include those by Mexican laborers who, when using their ancient tradition and beautifully skilled craftsmanship in building rock walls, pee on cuts to their hands to stop infections or to cool down the pain. Ditto the sting of bug bites, to name only a few other medicinal uses for one’s own urine. So, a little urine doesn’t hurt anyone, and could do you good.

I would look online for things to make the urine less darkly dense and offensively smelly; these would probably – in general – also do the same to keep the ejaculate fresher – both yours and hers.

Of course, if you had an STD (sexually transmitted disease), that could be transmitted to your partner by your semen-ejaculate. The same would be true for female ejaculate.

Hope this helps! Keep enjoying and loving!

Deborah

To learn more about female ejaculation and the G-spot, check out Female Ejaculation for Couples.

Deborah is also the female ejaculation expert who writes the “Ask Fanny Fatale” Q&A column for this blog.

Nan and Deb sat out in the garden for while, then came back for a dinner of baked pasta and mozzarella before Deb headed off to her lecture on female ejaculation at the local sex shop.

We found these pictures of Nan and Deb taking a hike up in the mountains, from earlier this summer when we last saw Deb.

This weekend, Deborah is off to Austin, Texas, for more female ejaculation workshops, then she plans to return for another few days’ visit come Monday. We’re happy to have her here!

If you have a question for Ask Fanny about the G-spot or female ejaculation, send it to askfanny at fatalemedia.com and put “Ask Fanny question” in the subject line.

To see the latest Deborah Sundahl’s latest DVD about female ejaculation, check out Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

Dear Fanny,
I am one of those women who have been traumatized by the fact that I ejaculate when I climax. I am very multiorgasmic (as long as the man can hold out, I can continue climaxing) and by the time a lovemaking session ends, the whole bed is soaked!

At first I thought it might have been incontinence, yet the sensation was different than that of urination, and the liquid was totally clear and practically – if not completely – odorless.

As time went on, the experience became uncontrollable, more intense and much messier. I have gone to several doctors and once they get over their dismay, they tell me there is nothing to do about it and to just enjoy it.

Problem is, I am presently single, and I don’t know how or when to approach the subject with a man. I am embarrassed to be too candid up front, yet I would be even more mortified if they were turned off by sharing the experience or, worst yet, if they actually thought the liquid was as a result of incontinence.

Do you have any suggestions on how to approach the subject? I would love to once again be intimate with a man, but I let my fear of rejection hold me back. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Cee
Los Angeles, CA

Dear Cee,
Since you obviously have female ejaculation and multiple orgasms working in your sex life, it seems odd that you are not that free when it comes to telling your potential partners about your wonderful ability to be so orgasmic and free-flowing!

When you find a partner you want to have sex with, it is always a good idea to tell him upfront that you ejaculate. The best way to open up the topic with partners is to ask them if they have heard of female ejaculation. If they have not, then you need to tell them that is what you do and then see their reaction. If it is anything less than curious and somewhat enthusiastic, don’t go out with them again.

My guess is that you have had partners in the past who do not appreciate or express themselves sexually in the sophisticated and open way that you do. And that in fact they have put you down for it. I believe this is the problem, not what to say to a potential sex partner.

A woman just came to my workshop who learned to ejaculate for the first time. She went back to her new partner, who didn’t know about female ejaculation, and she did not ejaculate. This is not surprising to me.

Do not be afraid or ashamed of your wonderful way you express yourself sexually. If your partner cannot meet you with this, find another. Do not waste your precious sexual life force on someone who will denigrate it by withdrawing, ignoring or withholding interest and sexual partnership.

Good luck!

Deborah

Want to find out more about female ejaculation? Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples.