G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

You mentioned the “Crystal Wand” in your book. I’m looking to purchase one, but I’m having a hard time finding any advice on how to use it. Can you tell me the proper technique?

Thanks,
Bryan in Michigan

PS: Thanks to your book, I’ve helped my last 2 girlfriends ejaculate!!!

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Dear Bryan,

Well, congratulations on helping women to ejaculate!

Because the Crystal Wand is lucite, please make sure it is always moist. It dries out quickly and when it’s dry, it hurts.

The best description of how to use the magic wand is in my video Tantric Journey. You can see quite clearly how Corrynna uses it to ejaculate.

But in general, use one curled end to slip behind the “tail” of the G-spot -the “back end” of the female prostate organ. Use the tip to push (prod and poke) toward the vaginal roof where the tail ends. Explore the “crevice” where tail ends and vaginal roof begins. The tip works nicely to find that one spot that is still sensitive in most women who are just learning to awaken their G-spots. Since it is a hard tool, don’t poke too hard.

If she doesn’t feel anything, she is numb there and needs to reawaken her sensations, which takes lots of time–sometimes years.

You use the 2-3 inches or so from the tip, to gently pull forward on the tail of the G-spot.

As with all toys and bodies, everyone is different. Not all women will feel the same. Different women have different desires and what they like done. And as with all techniques, best to get the general idea and then let the moment lead you.

Hope this helps!

Fanny

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop

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In last month’s poll, we asked: Do you like spanking during sex?

We got totally called out on this one and added an option, because some of you—a lot of you—like spanking and getting spanked.

See all the results here.

This month we ask: What do you most want to get for the holidays this year?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com

We’ve been in the business of lesbian sex movies for a long time, over 20 years, but this was a new one on us: scissoring. Supposedly a sex act where two lesbians interlink their legs to form two sets of “scissors” and rub their girl parts together, not only the term but the act itself is one we’ve never seen or done!

What gives? Is this some new position lesbians have suddenly “discovered”? Is it a term made up by some guys who haven’t really witnessed lesbian sex in the flesh or movies?

An article, “It’s Lesbian Sex 101 with Professor Tam,” first clued us in to this odd expression. And no, scissoring is not the same as tribadism, which is our experience is usually done face to face.

The idea of using a double-headed dildo in this scissors position crossed our minds, but women’s insides aren’t shaped like shotgun apartments. That’s why most double-headed dildos are shaped like the letter U.

Besides, what fun is sex if you can’t kiss each other, play with each other’s nipples and watch her face as she comes?

What do you think? You can comment here.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com

Do lesbians like anal? You bet we do! Lesbians have come out of the closet about liking anal sex with big dildos, too. Some of the sexiest lesbian anal sex we’ve seen lately has been in Shine Louise Houston’s Wild Kingdom.

Never tried anal with anything bigger than your pinkie?

If you’ve never tried anal with your girlfriend, be reminded of the cardinal rule of anal and women: You can go from her vagina to her butt, but never go from her butt to her vagina. You can change condoms on a dildo, or change the glove on your hand, but when it comes to bare fingers, you must wash your hands!

Lube lube lube! Don’t forget it. Her wetness is not enough to handle a dry butt.

Start with a finger—wear a glove—if you’ve never tried it. Work your way up to a small dildo, sometimes called a butt plug. You may have to experiment to find the most comfortable position for her and for you.

When you’re ready for explosive sensations, try a slightly larger dildo. Remember the lube because you can tear the sensitive skin around the anus without a lot of lube.

Lube her up, go slow and ease the dildo inside her butt. Play with her clit, if she likes that, and try a finger or two or three inside her pussy too.

Talk to each other. If she doesn’t like the sensations, stop and gradually ease back out. Next time, if she agrees, go back to the smaller butt plugs or your (gloved) finger.

Remember, change that condom or glove before you go back inside her pussy.

Many of you know g-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In “Ask Fanny,” an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Fanny,

What is the best toy for female ejaculation?

Just Wondering

Dear JW,

The best toy for female ejaculation is a glass toy with a pronounced “lip” at the end—specifically, a slender handle with a “ball” at the end is best. The reason for this is that many woman who are first learning to ejaculate need extra stimulation, and jelly rubber, silicon or other material is too soft. Mind you, this is not a toy to be banging away with. This toy is for delicate exploration… that requires you lie back and try to feel erotic sensations on the tail of your G-spot that you may have not felt before (or only every once in a while.)

Throw out all vibrators when exploring your G-spot. Because the G- spot has a different nerve than the clitoris, it therefore has a different orgasmic sensation. And, therefore, requires a different method of stimulation: more emotional, energetic connection: opening and surrendering into feeling the sensations of your body. This is the opposite of the stimulation we are accustomed to doing with the clitoris–ramping up more and more stimulation, tensing and holding our breath.

Use gentle and firm strokes, relax and breathe. This is the general technique and the best way to approach and awaken your G-spot and that will bring you the most pleasure over the long run.

Glass toys are expensive, but they are safe (if you buy quality and not cheap knock-offs), last a lifetime and are easy to clean. I recommend AsstroKnots, and you can check out their Web site through my Web site at http://www.isismedia.org/products.htm.

Keep gushing!
Fanny

Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

To learn more about G-spot orgasms, see Fanny’s How to Female Ejaculate DVD.