Our next-door neighbors took their kids to summer camp. Yesterday they didn’t come out of their house all day! We thought, bet they’re in bed experimenting like mad.

Here are three down-and-dirty suggestions for trying something new this summer vacation—

–Bend Over Boyfriend
If you haven’t tried doing your boyfriend up his butt yet, or if you want your girlfriend to do you, this is the place to start.

Already tried it but need or want some more inspiration? Try Bend Over Boyfriend 2. Or try them both in the special BOB 2-fer package and save $10.

–Female Ejaculation
If you’re even remotely curious about how to female ejaculate, go to the FE goddess herself, Miss Deborah Sundahl, to learn how and where your G-spot lurks. This is pure fun and requires no equipment. Your fingers will suffice. Enjoy!

Never done it? Start here: How to Female Ejaculate

Want to try it with your hetero partner? Try Female Ejaculation for Couples

Prefer the company of women? Then you need Female Ejaculation: The Workshop

–Catch Up on The Crash Pad
If you’ve like some people we know, maybe you never quite “got” the Crash Pad craze. Well, now’s your chance to catch up.

The Crash Pad Gift Set is perfect for the beach. If you’ve got a summer house or share with like-minded friends, these vids make the perfect basis for sexy party games. 

Plus, you get to choose which three Crash Pad videos you want—just put a note in the Comments section during checkout.

Our favorite remains The Crash Pad Series Volume 2, which we said was “beautifully filmed and pussy-licking good!”

Get nasty this summer…and tell us your stories!

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Remember to bring a gift when you visit! You can see all Fatale’s packaged and gift sets here.

The review—in French—is here at minorites.org.

Fatale even got a nice mention in the article:
“Tout ce mouvement ne surgit pas de nulle part, On our Backs, le magazine lesbien sexe et Fatale Vidéo fondés par Déborah Sundahl et Nan Kinney ont ouvert la voie dès les années 90.”

Roughly translated (using Google Translate) and smoothed over (by us):
“This whole movement did not spring from nowhere. On our Backs, the sex and lesbian magazine Fatale Video founded by Deborah Sundahl and Nan Kinney, led the way from the ’90s .”

On Our Backs, the magazine, is still online here –
http://www.onourbacksmag.com/home.html

Marie-Hélène tells us that some of the films may travel, and if so we’ll let you know. We’ll also try to get at least Courtney Trouble’s and Madison Young’s new flicks!

You can watch trailers from the film fest here: http://vimeo.com/12433254

Fatale’s gift sets are perfect for showers, birthdays and weddings, too. Along with complimentary gift-wrapping and gift notes, you can’t go wrong.

Add in the free shipping within the U.S., and your gift-giving is a done deal. Shipping outside the U.S. is very reasonable too.

Good ideas for lesbians: “Favorite Lesbian DVDs.”

Good ideas for adventurous couples: “Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set.”

See all Fatale’s Gift Sets.

Dear Fanny,
I used to be able to female ejaculate, but lately it seems it’s not as easy as it used to be. Is there anything I can do to make it easier again?

Anonymous in New York

Dear Anonymous in New York,
The ability to female ejaculate is often characterized by sensitivity to one’s connection to your partner and also to yourself. If it is not as easy to ejaculate as it once was, this situation often reflects a change in your relationship from closeness to more difficulties or distance.

If you’re not in a relationship, this can reflect a change in how you relate or perceive yourself; perhaps you’re not feeling as attractive as you used to feel about yourself.

Sometimes for women who are very profuse when they ejaculate, they begin to have problems or doubts about ejaculating so much liquid. They then curtail their desire to ejaculate or don’t do it as frequently. If they are not conscious of these doubts, it can seem to them as if it is becoming more difficult to ejaculate, when in fact they are holding themselves back due to not wanting to create such a big pool of water every time they are sexual.

Lastly, if a woman has been performance-oriented and trying hard to ejaculate, she may find her ability waning somewhat, due to pushing too hard (both literally and figuratively). As I have said many times, the surest way to not ejaculate is to pressure yourself. Relax and enjoy the process! 

In the same vein, a change may be coming over your sexual desires. Perhaps you have been having lots of sport sex, and now you want to go more inward and explore what your sexuality would be like from the perspective of expressing love and intimacy with yourself or a partner. 

Bottom line: don’t worry about this change in your ability to ejaculate. Use it as the opportunity it is: to take a look at your erotic life for changes, or changes you are beginning to want to make.

Deborah

Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

These are just a few public masturbation dens. Yummy!

Here are some of our favorite reader comments so far:

“I like to do it in my car while I am driving. One time I orgasmed as I was transitioning from the 15 freeway to the 805 in very heavy traffic. Now that I am a little older and live in a rural community, I like to take my convertible out for a drive in the summer evenings while naked. Could someone please spank me?”

“Bathroom at boot camp.”

“I did it in the forest while searching for mushrooms in France. I went off the track behind bushes and sat down. I had great orgasm and squirt.”

You can submit your own comment here at the blog.

What about toys? Vibrators? Almost no one has mentioned using toys or vibrators, although a couple comments specifically mention the squeezing together of legs or using a water jet to get off.

Tell us! We want to know. What’s the most public place you’ve masturbated?

We think voyeurism counts too, especially Christi, having lived in New York City for so many years. When does your apartment become a public space? What about a beach house? Same issue?

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Need some inspiration? Put on Talk to Me Baby: A Lover’s Guide to Dirty Talk and Role Play, and just revel in the sound of Shar Rednour’s voice. Oh, sweet honey.

P.P.S. You can see all Fatale’s DVDs here.

May used to be devoted to masturbation, but we haven’t seen a whole lot going on nationally this year. Still, we were curious to see a question put out there on another Web site about the “most public places” you’ve masturbated. So that’s the basis for our main poll question this month: How often do you masturbate?

(You can vote on Fatale’s home page.)

After you vote, you get a bonus question: What is the most public place you’ve ever masturbated? Tell us! You can be as anonymous as you want to. Simply put only your first name or a pseudonym in the “Name” section of the Comments when they come up. Your e-mail and Web address (if you have one) will not be published.

Don’t be shy! Vote now.

We’ll see you in a couple weeks. For now, we’re headed off for a sexy weekend away to celebrate Nan’s birthday. Whether or not you’re in the mood for a weekend away, we hope you have some sexy fun alone or with your partner(s)!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. One of our favorite masturbation solo acts in a lesbian video is in The Crash Pad Series Volume 3. Dylan, having watched from inside a curtained closet the steamy sex scene between two lovers, throws herself on the bed after they leave. It is still, in our opinion, the best scene in the movie.

1. Bend Over Boyfriend

– “Many straight guys love anal penetration because it allows them to relax and receive passive pleasure.” – Playboy.

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2. Bend Over Boyfriend 2

– “It’s rare that an ‘educational’ movie is able to straddle the line between information and hot sex, but BOB 2 does it.” – Sexilicious.com

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 3. One Night Stand

– “The porn for you if you like your lesbians real, your fucking diverse, your pussies wet and your tranny boys hung.” – Slutgrrls

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4. Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels

– “Dyke drama at its finest, Hard Love is the story of two former girlfriends who can’t resist a last roll in the hay….The plot’s climax between the exes—[Jackie] Strano and newcomer C.C. Bell—is genuine, explosive, and one of the best lesbian sex scenes ever made.” – Tristan Taormino, Village Voice

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5. Coming Home

– “The first of this series of vignettes features a big, curvy butch-femme couple: the deliciously hot women we never get to see in mainstream porn…” – LesbianLife.About.com, “Best Lesbian Porn”

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See all Fatale’s sexy DVDs.

Dear Deborah,
Is it true that a woman’s G-spot is like a muscle and that if you don’t exercise it then you can’t ejaculate?

Caroline, New York

Dear Caroline,
In general, yes to your question. Use it or lose it, as they say. 

But as I have been saying for many years now, the G-spot is not a muscle or a wildly erotic spot on the vagina. The G-spot is the female prostate, which we feel through the roof of the vagina, and all women of course have a prostate just like all men do!

“Not using it” is a female ejaculation slumber that most women are now waking up from, thank goodness!  All women can ejaculate, by the way, if they want to. Please don’t pressure yourself to ejaculate if you don’t want to.  And also apply the no-pressure rule if you are learning. Relax and enjoy the process.

Good luck!

Deborah

Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Our friend Deborah Sundahl was visiting over the Easter holiday and subsequent week that many take as spring break. And she got us thinking about rediscovering the G-spot, and rediscovering the power of female sexuality.

There are still some people who deny the existence of the G-spot and the ability for women to female ejaculate. But Deborah’s longtime dedication to showing the G-spot on video should leave no doubt in anyone’s mind.

If you’re a novice when it comes to the G-spot, start with Deborah’s bestselling classic, How to Female Ejaculate.

If you’re in a couple and want to explore female ejaculation and the G-spot together, try Female Ejaculation for Couples and watch as Deborah guides three straight couples through the steps to achieve this most spectacular of orgasms.

Really, there’s nothing quite like it. And what better time than springtime to allow your body to open up and rediscover pure orgasm like no other in the world.

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. “Adventurous Couples Unite” is a female-ejaculation gift set with three Deborah Sundahl videos. You save 17%.

P.P.S. You can see all Fatale’s DVDs here.

“Law to ‘Cure’ Homosexuality Refuted.”

Datelined Sacramento, California, no less.

Thanks, Chuck. We do appreciate the clips and links!

And in case you missed this gem, check out “Can Animals Be Gay?” by Jon Mooallem in the April 4, 2010, issue of the New York Times Sunday Magazine, about “The science of same-sex pairings in the wild.”