Valentine’s Day gifts tend to have a predictable rhythm that nonetheless is tried and true, oftentimes expected and not at all dreary in that you can be creative, there’s some variation on the themes.

Chocolates? Yes! Flowers? Definitely!

In our experience, it’s what goes with the chocolates and flowers that can take Valentine’s Day from being just another gift-giving holiday to something special and memorable.

With that in mind, we offer five surefire Valentine’s Day gift ideas:

1.  Where the Heart Is. The most romantic of all Fatale’s gift sets, this 3-DVD set also has the worthwhile amateur Afterschool Special mixed in. Carolyn Caizzi’s lovely real-life couples come alive in the other videos included in this set. Free Priority Mail shipping in the U.S.

2. Butch/Femme Rules. This 3-DVD set is a mash-up of romance (Special Delivery by Carolyn Caizzi), classic Nina Hartley with the remarkable Miss Sharon Mitchell (Suburban Dykes) and pure lust (Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels by Shar Rednour). Free Priority Mail shipping in the U.S.

3. Talk to Me Baby. For an under $30 gift, Shar Rednour’s Talk to Me Baby is perfect for gay or straight, queer or trans, male or female. Everybody should know how to talk dirty, and this is the definitive tape. First class shipping in the U.S. costs only $2.95.

4. Nostalgia. We were talking with an old friend and longtime Fatale Media customer the other day. He told us that his favorite  Courtney Trouble video was Nostalgia. We went back and watched it again and were once again simply delighted! This is an excellent video, a queer porn parody starring all manner of lesbians. Under $30, with domestic shipping starting at $2.95.

5. Sugar High Glitter City. If your sweetie has a sweet tooth, this is definitely the Valentine’s Day gift that will satisfy her yearnings. Nominated for Best Soundtrack, Best All-Girl Feature and Best All-Girl Sex Scene by AVN, this is one of our favorites by far. Another excellent under $30 gift with a reasonable ($2.95) domestic shipping fee.

See all Fatale’s DVDs for even more ideas.

Yours in good love and sex,

Christi and Nan
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Valentine’s Day gift wrap is now available as an option at Fatale Media, as is birthday gift-wrap. Select your option—it’s free—at checkout.

P.P.S. Want it by Valentine’s Day? Order by Friday, February 3rd 2012 for shipping outside the U.S. Order no later than Friday, February 10th 2012 for shipping within the U.S. For overnight shipping, order no later than 4 P.M. PST Monday, February 13th 2012.

Recommended:

 * * * Live Sex Show – New! from Courtney Trouble

You can’t go wrong with the invincible Nina Hartley and oh-so-willing Jiz Lee.

* * * * Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set – Save 15%

The perfect gift for curious couples

* * * Talk to Me Baby

Straight, gay, lesbian, you name it.

Shar Rednour reveals her deepest secrets in talking dirty for lovers.

* * * Sugar High Glitter City

Fantasy to the max! Sugar is outlawed, and these dykes will do anything to get it, even selling their own bodies!

SHOP NOW!

Happy Holidays from Fatale Media!

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Courtney Trouble has a new DVD out, and it’s in stock at Fatale Media and ready to ship. Called Live Sex Show, the movie was shot live at a San Francisco Masturbate-a-Thon. Lucky for us, there’s a lot more than just solo performances here.

Mostly real-life couples perform in this DVD, but the highlight is a lovely, long scene with Nina Hartley and Jiz Lee. It’s sexy and humorous at the same time, worth every moment.

Like the event, Live Sex Show benefits the Center for Sex and Culture, run by Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence. You may also know Carol and Robert as the main stars of Bend Over Boyfriend.

You can watch the trailer, see pictures and order the DVD now at Fatale Media. The new DVD is in stock and ships within 24 hours.

Yours in good love and sex,

Christi and Nan
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

This art show is one we’ll be at for sure this coming Friday evening.

From the Au Boudoir Web site:
“The first public showing of the Rudolph Rossi original photographs of the 1950s. Rossi was an amateur photographer who took part in the informal ‘camera club’ outings around New York City during the early 1950s. Among the models hired for these illegal photography sessions was Bettie Page, where she was discovered. Rossi (along with noted photographer Weegee and others) photographed Page and dozens of her friends…”

The photographs were hand-colored, and more photos can be seen in the book Camera Club Girls: Bettie Page, Her Friends and the Work of Rudolph Rossi, by Jim Linderman.  The author’s blog is Vintage Sleaze, www.vintagesleaze.blogspot.com.

We were in Minneapolis a couple weeks ago, when the Minneapolis SlutWalk took place, on October 1st, 2011.

The Minneapolis SlutWalk video, courtesy of Mill City Times, shows a typical cross-section of relatively young, relatively white Minneapolis, a city that with its sister city of St. Paul has a population of approximately three-quarters of a million people. That’s where Nan went to college, too, at the University of Minnesota, Minneapolis.

SlutWalk Minneapolis was bound to be tamer than SlutWalk London, which was held in June, or SlutWalk New York, which was also held on October 1, 2011.

More men, it seemed, were in attendance at the Minneapolis protest, than at other protests. One was shirtless. The state was breaking autumn heat wave records, and it has turned out to be the hottest stretch in 132 years. In the 80s every day, ugh.

SlutWalks originated last spring 2011 in Toronto, when, according to a CBC report, a Toronto police constable in January told a York University personal security class that “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.”

The antiviolence SlutWalk protests are sex-positive, unlike the mostly anti-porn Take Back the Night marches of the 1970s and 1980s, before women reclaimed their right to be sexual beings.

In response, and an historic turning point, On Our Backs was born, the brainchild of Deborah Sundahl, Nan Kinney, Myrna Elena and Susie Bright.

Women and lesbians began celebrating sex and sexuality in a way they hadn’t before. Women’s desires were shown in all their glory in On Our Backs magazine and those first Fatale videos.

For a perfect example of a now-classic lesbian video, don’t miss Fatale Media’s Clips. Nan and Deb star, and there is one scene in there from Deborah that is still our favorite.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

We read with interest the article about the naughty teacher who’s been charged with inappropriately sexting her student. Here’s the Huffington Post article about the Chicago-area high-school teacher.

In our last poll, we asked if you enjoyed sexting, and it seems like now and then it’s not such a bad thing. View the September 2011 poll results.

The article about the sexting teacher got us thinking, though: When you were a student, did you ever have an intimate relationship with your teacher?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

We’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you deliciously hot sex,

Nan and Christi

www.fatalemedia.com

P.S. Afterschool Special is still our favorite schoolgirl fantasy video.

Hot hot hot, and we’ve yet to find real-life size-EEEE boobies like Ms. Hussy’s anywhere else!

In “Ask Fanny,” a regular Fatale Media newsletter column, G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Fanny,
I have three kids in grade school and to be honest our lovemaking is taking a beating. There just is no time for quality time together sexually, much less learn about female ejaculation, which seem to take a lot of time to learn.

Do you have any suggestions?

Signed,

Swamped in Pennsylvania

Dear Swamped,
Every parent I know has the same problem, and yet the answer is what parent guides have been saying for years: you must take time for your relationship!

I firmly believe that once a month you MUST schedule a weekend together, alone and uninterrupted. Sexuality and lovemaking and time together form the glue that keeps your relationship strong. If you starve it, you end up hurting the entire family in the end. You must put your relationship first, and you must spend the money to invest in this.

Often, the grandparents are all too happy to babysit the kids. One couple I know had 10 brothers and sisters and grandparents all in town, happy to watch the kids, but he didn’t want to “impose.” For one thing, cousins want to see each other, and second, to the vast majority of grandparents, their grandkids are the most important thing in their life and gives them great joy. I told him he was not only robbing his immediately family but his extended family as well.

No family around?  You must develop your neighborhood network of swapping and watching one another’s kids.

Logistics and commitment aside, once you have a weekend together, believe me you will have plenty of time to learn how to female ejaculate!

Practice, practice, practice. That’s the key, in my experience, to learning new sexual techniques.

When you see how good you feel and how restored your relationship is, you won’t hesitate to make time for you and your sweetheart.

Good luck!

Fanny

P.S. Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples.

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Fanny,
What is tantra? Is it all New Age sex stuff? What does it have to do with female ejaculation?

Caroline in New York

Dear Caroline in New York,
Tantra is about sexual energy. Tantra is also a religion and a science that goes back about 3,000 years or more.

People then believed that sex was sacred. Their temples were carved with statues from floor to ceiling, depicting individuals, couples and groups in every imaginable sexual position and behavior. They developed hours-long rituals to set every nerve on erotic fire. And because they were meditation and yoga masters, they could hold these positions a very long time.

Margot Anand, M.A from Sorbonne University in France, is responsible for bringing this knowledge to the west in early 1980s. Her book, The Art of Sexual Ecstasy, is the sourcebook of Tantra and I highly recommend it. (These links are both to her site, margotanand.com.)

Where Tantra enters the picture with female ejaculation – and which I talk about in my lectures and classes – is using the Tantra technique to reawaken the dulled sensations of the G-spot, the female prostate. Men know the prostate is ultrasensitive; why can’t women feel theirs? Numbed out due to the way we ram it in, in Western culture.

Tantra teaches us to use the breath and energy to develop exquisite sensations of erotic pleasure, pleasure that the G-spot is capable of and is the source of.

Good luck!

Fanny

P.S. Check out Deborah Sundahl’s DVD Tantric Journey to Female Orgasm.

Another letter from a friend surprised us when it arrived last week. What about “talking dirty?” he wanted to know.

Surprise! Talk to Me Baby is a DVD from S.I.R. Video that is the crème de la crème for talking dirty. Director and dirty-talk expert Shar Rednour, the “Diva of Dirty Talk,” offers:

–Tips on how to use dirty talk to seduce a lover
–Pillow talk as a prelude to passion
–Sex fantasies played out in scorching detail.

Smut Magazine wrote: “Shar Rednour is, as always, the perfect hostess. She’s her usual vampy, campy and out of control self. What I love about this video is that anyone can get something out of it.”

What gives even more spice to dirty talking is a little added fetish. Our friend writes: “I also like the fetish ( I adore sucking women’s toes) before talking to a woman. I look to her toes, and hands…”

For all the talk of Representative Anthony Weiner—and we do not believe he should resign—and his “dirty tweets,” actual dirty talk is sexier than any tweet or posting.

The tenor of the voice, the smooth soft lure of a honeyed sexy voice… The greatest writers, even those who write great tweets, can’t match the thrill that sparks up and down the spine when the seductive dirty talk starts.

What do you think?

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Check out Talk to Me Baby. Just so you know, the couples who illustrate the dirty talk here about both straight and lesbian.

P.P.S. Fatale Media’s Gay Pride Special is on through June, 2011. Ten percent off everything plus free shipping in the U.S.

Not long after we wrote about “bushy” last month, we got several e-mails from readers. We thought we’d share them here. (Letters are edited for style and spelling only.)

“I’m a 45 y.o. male from Tulsa OK. I hate bush!!! It just gets in the way of everything !!! If I go out with a lady that has a bush then I’ll do her but won’t go down on her. I love the look, feel, taste & everything about the shaved pussy, it just doesn’t get any better than bald!!!”

“Love the comments today. I love women with hairy bush. Do you have any videos for sale with women with hair?”

“I’ve been on your e-mail list and have purchased films this past Christmas. Do you have more films with bushy women than the one in this month’s e-mail blast? Yes, I’m a sort of kinky straight male, if I have to label myself. Actually a lot more, lol, but more on that later ….thank you.”

Okay, so here goes on the “hairy bush suggestions.” If we’re leaving any off, let us know and we’ll post more next time:
Afterschool Special (a double DVD with Turn Me Up Over and On) – some nice bush in evidence, especially on Ms. Hussy, the star dyke!

In case you’re wondering, that’s Ms. Hussy with the size EEE boobies lying down.

Full Load: Scenes from ssspread.com. The last scene is a particularly nice one.

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These two gems by Carolyn Caizzi both have some “bushy ladies,” as Carolyn says, as well as some smooth:
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