{"id":159,"date":"2008-10-15T00:02:52","date_gmt":"2008-10-15T04:02:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/2008\/10\/15\/sex-tips-learning-to-enjoy-the-bum\/"},"modified":"2008-10-15T00:02:52","modified_gmt":"2008-10-15T04:02:52","slug":"sex-tips-learning-to-enjoy-the-bum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/2008\/10\/sex-tips-learning-to-enjoy-the-bum\/","title":{"rendered":"Sex Tips: Learning to Enjoy the Bum"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>No, we\u2019re not talking about your lover! But your butt, your behind, your bum, your rear, your tush.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Enjoying anal penetration<\/strong> comes naturally to some people. They \u201cget it.\u201d They just naturally relax and enjoy without a care in the world.<\/p>\n<p>But anal sex doesn\u2019t come easy for everybody. There is the <strong>taboo of touching<\/strong>, let alone probing, the anus. It\u2019s <strong>a private place<\/strong>, to be sure, which makes it hard for some men and women to allow entry.<\/p>\n<p>When Fatale released <a href=\"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/videos\/bend_over_boyfriend.html\">Bend Over Boyfriend<\/a> ten years ago \u2013 yes, it\u2019s the 10th anniversary of Bend Over Boyfriend, a cause for celebration \u2013 Carol Queen and her lover Robert Morgan showed how <strong>role reversal<\/strong> can spice up your sex life.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Women, too, can be skittish<\/strong> when it comes to their boyfriends touching or penetrating their rear ends.<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re ready to open up and enjoy this delicious sex act, there are some steps you can take to <strong>make anal sex a real pleasure<\/strong>:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8212;<strong>Wash up<\/strong> before you begin any lovemaking. Make sure nothing hurts or is sore down there. If you ever see blood in your stool or coming from your anus, tell your doctor right away.<\/li>\n<li>&#8211;Find pleasure in the familiar. <strong>Make love<\/strong> the way you always do. Treat your sweetie with kisses and caresses and <strong>find your comfort zone<\/strong>. Have as many orgasms as you like.<\/li>\n<li>&#8211;Touch yourself first. Do you feel happy? Talk to your lover. Do you want to feel <strong>your partner\u2019s gentle touch<\/strong>? Tell him or her exactly what the touch feels like.<\/li>\n<li>&#8211;Remind yourself: Nobody\u2019s going to hurt you. This is not about pain. This is about <strong>pleasure<\/strong> and exploring new sexual territory.<\/li>\n<li>&#8211;Stop there. Wait for next time to go any further.<\/li>\n<li>&#8211;Next time, repeat the process all over again. Only this time, using some <strong>water-based lubricant<\/strong>, allow your lover\u2019s <strong>finger<\/strong> to come inside just a little bit.<\/li>\n<li>&#8211;Stop there. Wait until next time to go any further. You can even take a break and wait a couple more times before you <strong>try a small dildo<\/strong>, with a condom and lots of lube, of course.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And if your partner is the one who is <strong>struggling with anal sex<\/strong>, go slow, be gentle, restrain yourself until your partner feels confident to take it to the next level.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Ultimately, learning to enjoy anal penetration is about trust. You must <strong>trust each other<\/strong> for there to be true pleasure associated with anal sex. Or, we would argue, any other kind of sex.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/videos\/bend_over_boyfriend.html\" title=\"Bend Over Boyfriend\"><img src=\"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2008\/10\/bend_over_boyfriend.thumbnail.jpg\" alt=\"Bend Over Boyfriend\" style=\"padding-right: 10px; float: left; padding-bottom: 10px\" \/><\/a>Check out <a href=\"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/videos\/bend_over_boyfriend.html\">Bend Over Boyfriend<\/a> for more tips on how to enjoy anal sex.<\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>No, we\u2019re not talking about your lover! But your butt, your behind, your bum, your rear, your tush. Enjoying anal penetration comes naturally to some people. They \u201cget it.\u201d They just naturally relax and enjoy without a care in the world. 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