\nI’ve purchased both your book<\/a> and video<\/a> in my desperate quest to join the female ejaculation phenomenon<\/strong>. Years ago, when I was younger, I ejaculated and like everyone for the first time, I had no idea what it was<\/strong>.\u00a0 Fast forward 16 years later, now at 38, I’ve been trying for a few years–little squirts but a strong smell of urine, even after using the toilet.<\/p>\n
After reading the book<\/a>\u00a0 I went back at it the next day–nothing<\/strong>! Now every day since then, still nothing. I’m getting the “pee” feelings, feeling orgasmic<\/strong>, relaxed and ready, so I push…little trickles<\/strong> that ultimately smell like urine.<\/p>\n Help!! What am I doing wrong?<\/strong><\/p>\n Signed,<\/p>\n Looking for G-Spot Ecstasy<\/p>\n Dear\u00a0Looking, So, that being the case–years<\/strong> of controlling and holding back ejaculate<\/strong>–do you think it is just going to magically spout forth because now we want it to? No! Our bodies are not machines, and most certainly our G-spots are not. Rather, the G-spot<\/strong> is the gateway to higher love and intimacy<\/strong>.<\/p>\n The other problem is feeling “desperate “<\/strong> Desperation causes pressure. In my book I write that pressure will make you not<\/em> ejaculate. We don’t want desperate.<\/p>\n Time for a big, deep breath. Relax. Breathe. Treat your G-spot and vagina like tender gold<\/strong>, okay?\u00a0 Sweet and soft, loving<\/strong>. Slow down<\/em>. You would not believe how many women I have to advise to slow down!<\/p>\n Letting go<\/strong> is of course the biggest obstacle for women in learning to ejaculate, especially because of the fear of urinating.<\/p>\n You also cannot expect to ejaculate the same “big” way the next day! Your body needs a rest<\/strong>, especially if you are just learning. As men know<\/strong>, if they masturbate too much, they will blow out their prostate glands (that “dull ache deep inside” that men can get is from too much ejaculation).<\/p>\n Therefore, yes, you were getting the pee feelings<\/strong>, and feeling orgasmic, of course, because you are arousing yourself, but then you can’t go any further. I’d say this is because of a combination of 1) it being too soon<\/strong> since you last ejaculated fully, 2) also you\u2019re still new at it<\/strong> and 3) you\u2019re probably trying again too hard<\/strong> and\/or too soon to push.<\/p>\n You have to make sure that you take time to build up the arousal<\/strong>, and the best way to do that is to enjoy yourself without wanting to do it too fast. Relax! Take your time<\/strong>. Enjoy the process. Breathe deeply<\/strong> to work up such a big orgasm. This can be a months-long learning process.<\/p>\n In a way, what you described about the \u201clittle trickles\u201d could be the perfect description of \u201cclearing out the pipes\u201d!<\/p>\n Big hug for your really great work so far! Next step: celebrate yourself<\/strong>. Second step: slow down, breathe and relax<\/strong>. Please keep in touch, and let me know how it is going.<\/p>\n Let It Flow,<\/p>\n Deborah<\/p>\n P.S. Do you have a question about female ejaculation and the G-spot<\/strong>. for “Ask Fanny,” a.k.a. Deborah Sundahl<\/strong>? Write to askfanny (at) fatalemedia.com. Your letter will be kept in strictest confidence, reprinted here only with your prior\u00a0approval.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. Hello, Deborah I’ve purchased both your book and video in my desperate quest to join the female ejaculation phenomenon. Years ago, when I was younger, I ejaculated and like everyone for the first time, I had no idea what […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[4,3,6],"tags":[547,38,546],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2922"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2922"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2922\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2931,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2922\/revisions\/2931"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2922"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2922"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2922"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"Deborah](\"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/01\/deb_at_ces_4_2_opt1-225x300.jpg\" "\\"Deborah")
<\/a>I continued to be confused and unsuccessful<\/strong>. After purchasing the video, last week, I did it<\/strong>–and it was a big gush<\/strong>. It was everything I’ve read–no smell, different taste and no trace of it once it dried. I was so proud<\/strong>.<\/p>\n
\nThanks for writing to me. First off, congratulations! You ejaculated!<\/strong> Go out and celebrate<\/strong> the reclaiming of your womanhood at age 38, after stopping it all these years because you didn’t know what female ejaculation was! For that is what women do–we unconsciously just stop doing it, because it could be pee or worse. Who knows! We just don’t think about it. I am glad you are proud!<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/11\/fe_workshop_200w-106x150.jpg\" "\\"Female")
<\/a>I would say the urine you initially smelled was because you were perhaps pushing too hard<\/strong>? Without knowing the details, I would say that watching the video–which one was it? I\u2019m assuming it was How to Female Ejaculate: The Workshop<\/a>–unconsciously helped you to let go.<\/p>\n