{"id":3174,"date":"2012-11-16T08:05:22","date_gmt":"2012-11-16T14:05:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/?p=3174"},"modified":"2012-11-15T15:24:04","modified_gmt":"2012-11-15T21:24:04","slug":"sex-tips-can-porn-help-you-know-if-youre-a-lesbian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/2012\/11\/sex-tips-can-porn-help-you-know-if-youre-a-lesbian\/","title":{"rendered":"Sex Tips: Can Porn Help You Know If You\u2019re a Lesbian?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Are you gay?<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is a real question. Who wants to know? Parents, friends, sisters and brothers, aunts and uncles, cousins and all the rest of them. Believe it or not, knowing if you\u2019re lesbian, gay or bisexual isn\u2019t always obvious. Can porn help?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Queer<\/a>The benefits of watching porn, besides being a\u00a0huge turn-on<\/strong> for many people, is that you can discern which sex acts are of interest, which\u00a0sex acts\u00a0you like<\/strong>, if you react strongly<\/strong> for or against certain images.<\/p>\n

Will it help you know if you’re a lesbian? Or bisexual?\u00a0Or something else?<\/p>\n

Probably. If you like watching\u00a0women have sex with each other, and you’re turned on, then there’s at least some\u00a0lesbian twinges<\/strong> happening inside you.<\/p>\n

Does it mean you’ll be a lesbian forever? Maybe. Maybe not. Like a lot of things, it depends on what you make of it.<\/p>\n

Some women are\u00a0only interested in women. Or they are sometimes,\u00a0and sometimes with\u00a0men, or multiple partners, or they’re equally turned on by men and women and others.<\/p>\n

What about transgender impulses<\/strong>? There are whole\u00a0cultures of transgender people who are not necessarily transsexual but who dress and behave in ways traditionally different than their given\u00a0gender. In the Chicago Reader<\/em>‘s blog The Straight Dope<\/a>, Cecil Adams captures the essence of what psychiatry terms “gender identity disorder”: “you think you\u2019re the wrong sex, and you\u2019re not happy about it.”<\/p>\n

On the other hand, “What’s So Bad About a Boy Who Wants to Wear a Dress?<\/a>”\u00a0the New York Times Magazine<\/em> asked not long ago. Gender-fluid<\/strong> is the way they describe parenting boys who like girls’ stuff.<\/p>\n

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Queer pornographers such as Courtney Trouble<\/a> and Madison Young prefer the word genderqueer. They’re breaking new ground in blurring the boundaries<\/strong> between straight and gay and queer and trans.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Are you gay? This is a real question. Who wants to know? Parents, friends, sisters and brothers, aunts and uncles, cousins and all the rest of them. Believe it or not, knowing if you\u2019re lesbian, gay or bisexual isn\u2019t always obvious. Can porn help? The benefits of watching porn, besides being a\u00a0huge turn-on for many […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[14,15,16,6,9,10],"tags":[412,115,413,258,556,140],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3174"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3174"}],"version-history":[{"count":14,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3174\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3190,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3174\/revisions\/3190"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3174"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3174"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.fatalemedia.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3174"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}