Sex parties or play parties even today are usually still quiet affairs…meaning you don\u2019t advertise, you don\u2019t tell your neighbors, you don\u2019t tell all your friends.<\/p>\n
If you want to host a sex party, remember to provide plenty of room for sex play and space too for downtime. Be selective about who you invite and determine your own rules, but don\u2019t make too many rules that will stifle spontaneity.<\/p>\n
As at any party, you provide the food and drink. It\u2019s a good idea to buy extra lube and condoms, but your guests should bring their own toys. Turn the heat up if it\u2019s cold outside. You don\u2019t want to see your guests freezing and covered with goose bumps as they try to get in the mood for sex. <\/p>\n
\u2022 Dress nice. Sexy leather and latex, corsets, whatever turns you on\u2026Use your imagination. Creativity counts.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Shed your daytime identity at the door<\/p>\n
\u2022 No gawking, no crowding the players<\/p>\n
\u2022 Obtain permission to touch<\/p>\n
\u2022 No means no<\/p>\n
\u2022 Gloves, condoms and lube – use \u2018em<\/p>\n
\u2022 BYOT: Bring Your Own Toys, whips, handcuffs, dildos, butt plugs<\/p>\n
\u2022 Discretion – \u201cHey, you\u2019re the president of the most important corporation in town!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 Observe the house rules. No pot allowed? Don\u2019t smoke it there.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Safe words. Have one for you and your partner. If this is a new partner, agree before you start playing what your safeword will be.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Respect safe\/down space versus play space. Don\u2019t start screwing around in the kitchen if that\u2019s where people are chatting.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Clean up your act. Wipe down equipment you\u2019ve used, stow your toys.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t overstay your welcome. Sex parties don\u2019t mean you\u2019re invited to stay the night.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Thank the hostess. Call the next day or write a thank you note.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019ve been invited to a play party, don\u2019t know the hostess and aren\u2019t sure what the etiquette is, ask whomever invited you.<\/p>\n