No, we’re not talking about your lover! But your butt, your behind, your bum, your rear, your tush.
Enjoying anal penetration comes naturally to some people. They “get it.” They just naturally relax and enjoy without a care in the world.
But anal sex doesn’t come easy for everybody. There is the taboo of touching, let alone probing, the anus. It’s a private place, to be sure, which makes it hard for some men and women to allow entry.
When Fatale released Bend Over Boyfriend ten years ago – yes, it’s the 10th anniversary of Bend Over Boyfriend, a cause for celebration – Carol Queen and her lover Robert Morgan showed how role reversal can spice up your sex life.
Women, too, can be skittish when it comes to their boyfriends touching or penetrating their rear ends.
When you’re ready to open up and enjoy this delicious sex act, there are some steps you can take to make anal sex a real pleasure:
- —Wash up before you begin any lovemaking. Make sure nothing hurts or is sore down there. If you ever see blood in your stool or coming from your anus, tell your doctor right away.
- –Find pleasure in the familiar. Make love the way you always do. Treat your sweetie with kisses and caresses and find your comfort zone. Have as many orgasms as you like.
- –Touch yourself first. Do you feel happy? Talk to your lover. Do you want to feel your partner’s gentle touch? Tell him or her exactly what the touch feels like.
- –Remind yourself: Nobody’s going to hurt you. This is not about pain. This is about pleasure and exploring new sexual territory.
- –Stop there. Wait for next time to go any further.
- –Next time, repeat the process all over again. Only this time, using some water-based lubricant, allow your lover’s finger to come inside just a little bit.
- –Stop there. Wait until next time to go any further. You can even take a break and wait a couple more times before you try a small dildo, with a condom and lots of lube, of course.
And if your partner is the one who is struggling with anal sex, go slow, be gentle, restrain yourself until your partner feels confident to take it to the next level.
Ultimately, learning to enjoy anal penetration is about trust. You must trust each other for there to be true pleasure associated with anal sex. Or, we would argue, any other kind of sex.
Check out Bend Over Boyfriend for more tips on how to enjoy anal sex.
while once haveing sexwith my wife she stuck her finger in my ass and pumped it hard while giving me head i told her i wanted her to use a dildo or a strap on on me but that hasn,t happen yet i hope it happens soon what a explotion i had with her finger in there while giving me head
very nice article, I have been trying to look for this. Thanks!