|
 |
Fatale Media Newsletter February 2004
|
|
|
In This Issue:
|
Happy Valentine's Day!
|
|
Dear Friend,
Las Vegas was sexy and warm, a sultry 65 degrees Fahrenheit when we arrived last month for the Adult Entertainment Expo, sponsored by the Adult Entertainment News.
Take Her Down! Lesbian Erotic Oil Wrestling Party was nominated in the Best Specialty category and director Sondra Goodwin was hyped. Ditto oil wrestling stars and real-life lovers Raven and Butch, who'd driven up from New Mexico for the festivities.
Saturday night at the Venetian Hotel was packed with thousands of fans who'd come to watch the stars parade down the red carpet to the ballroom.
Sondra, a photographer in her own right, had her trusty camera with her and got some fabulous shots with the porn stars in attendance, including Nina Hartley, star of Fatale's own Suburban Dykes.
We got an early start on our Valentine's Day celebration, having a sexy, romantic weekend on the Strip, visiting with friends Kat Sunlove and Layne Winklebeck who run the Free Speech Coalition and drinking glasses of perfect Champagne with a toast to the cast of Take Her Down!
We didn't win, but that didn't stop any of us from painting the town red.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
|
|
|
|  |
|
Erotic massage can be a prelude to hot, steamy sex, or a sex act in itself, with no need to continue on to traditional lovemaking. It's an especially good technique to use when you're just not in the mood. As a way to seduce your partner, or to go slow with a new lover, erotic massage is a true gift.
To start, we find it's best to begin with your lover's feet. If you know anything about reflexology, you know that feet and hands are conduits to all parts of the body. No one can really resist a foot massage, although we recommend going easy if your lover is a dancer. Dancers, in our experience, have feet issues, so you might want to begin with her hands instead.
You don't need any gel or lotion or oil, but after the feet (or hands), you might want to get comfy for the sexier massage moves to come. Give your sweetie a kiss and find a comfortable position in which you can easily reach her neck with one hand and her butt with your other hand. Encourage her to lie on her belly or her side or her back, whichever position is most comfortable for her. Pretty soon, she'll be opening her legs for more.
If you've been working on her feet, keep one hand on her foot and begin on her hand with your other hand. Rub the overworked muscle between her first finger and thumb, then work your way up her arm to her shoulder. Gradually move your "foot hand" up her leg, but don't go near her crotch! You want her to ask for it, beg for it, before going near her privates.
From her shoulder, move straight down her breastbone, between her breasts, without touching her nipples. Okay, maybe flick her nipples with your thumb, just to tease her a little bit. Drag your other hand up near her pubis and then use both hands on her butt. Those muscles are often neglected, too.
By now she should be warmed up and ready for a little more direct contact. Go for her breasts—lovingly and slowly, pinch her nipples, maybe take a taste or two.
If she's on her knees and you're behind her, let one hand trail down her back to her butt. Again, tease her butthole by tracing circles around it, then return to her breasts.
If she's on her back, you can move from her breasts down to her inner thighs, massaging those muscles and letting your thumb graze her clit. Don't forget to kiss her, because erotic massage is slow.
Where to go from here? You could go down on her with slow, sensuous tongue moves. Or, if she wants it, dive into full-fledged gyrating sex. Or draw a hot bath and hop in together. Or fall asleep with a promise for more the next morning. Any which way you go, the power of touch will bring you closer together than you may have imagined.
E-mail your tips and tricks to christi@fatalemedia.com. You could be published here!
|
|
|
| |
|
Many of you know G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In "Ask Fanny," an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the G-spot.
..............................................
Hello Fanny,
Recently my girlfriend and I decided to try female ejaculation. I read a lot of information on how to do it, but it doesn't seem to be working. I turn her on by licking her neck, chest, etc. Then she is lying on her back and I lick her clitoris until she says it feels good. After that I move my finger on her G-spot (I know it's there because she says it feels like she has to pee). Then I continue to lick her clitoris while moving my finger on her G-spot. She has an orgasm, but she does not ejaculate.
Do I have to make her reach orgasm only by moving my finger on her G-spot? Or is there something that I'm not doing quite right? If you could get back to me about what you think, that would be great. Thank you.
Matt
. . . . . . . . . . . .
Dear Matt,
In my new book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, I have a section on some reasons why women don't ejaculate. There are many factors like strength of the pelvic muscles, where she is at on her monthly cycle, and attitudes about letting go or fear of urinating.
You appear to be doing everything "right":
1) Giving her time to warm up with lots of caresses and kisses
2) Arousing her before you play with her G-spot
3) Both of you know where her G-spot is
4) Stimulating her G-spot with slow, firm movements.
So I'd say it's not necessarily your technique, but likely other factors.
First, try to attempt ejaculation in the middle of her monthly cycle, when ejaculate is most profuse in most women. Check the strength of her pelvic muscles—can she clench your finger very tightly with her muscles? That ability aids the ejaculate to be expelled. If she is worried about peeing or making a mess, assure her you won't be offended, since you are experimenting anyway.
Please write me back and let me know how it is going.
Fanny
..............................................
Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.
|
|
|
| |
|
In each issue of Fatale News, we want to hear your ideas, opinions, comments. This month, we've got something a little different to ask you.
Christi has been assigned to write a piece to celebrate the 20th Anniversary of On Our Backs, the lesbian porn magazine started by Nan Kinney, Deborah Sundahl and Susie Bright.
Christi is looking for quotes and comments from porn lovers of all stripes about the magazine, when you first discovered it, what you thought about it then, what you think about it now, what you'd like to see in the future.
Stories and anecdotes are most welcome. Did your mother find the copy, and suddenly you felt like you were outed? What role, if any, did On Our Backs play in your coming out?
Your words will only be used with your permission. You can remain anonymous or you can be quoted with your name. But certainly Christi hopes you'll allow her to use at least your first name in the article.
Deadline: March 1, 2004. The article is scheduled for publication in the June 2004 issue of On Our Backs.
Send an e-mail to christi@fatalemedia.com. Please put OOB in your subject line.
Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!
Happy Valentine's Day!
Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com
|
|
|
| |
|
|
|
|
|
