Dear Friend,

Calling all dykes, queers, perverts and other “deviants”...

If you haven’t read Chris Hedges’ new book American Fascists: The Christian Right and the War on America, we do recommend it.

Suddenly that gay rainbow flag that hangs just underneath the Episcopal flag at a nearby church takes on new meaning—about the congregation that supports it, that welcomes gays and lesbians to their services and ministry, and to the act of defiance it represents.

Not everyone in town is happy about that flag flying there; the church has been vandalized more than once.

We used to see the gay flag as a symbol of tolerance. After reading Hedges’ book we realize it is much more: a symbol of acceptance.

It is also a refusal to kowtow to Christian intolerance. It is the antithesis of Christian right-wing extremists’ views on homosexuality, which call for “cures” of “same-sex attraction.”

Tolerance, Hedges argues, must not become a tolerance of the intolerant. Is this an argument against free speech? We say no. Hate speech is not free speech.

Like Hitler in Germany, the Christian “Dominionist” movement—and we emphasize that these are not traditional Christians or even traditional evangelicals—attacks gays and lesbians, their first, easy target. The rest of us—the “unsaved”—are next.

Hedges’ ultimate argument, and we urge you to read his book for the full argument, is that the Christian Dominionist movement is determined to crush the kernel of human kindness that exists in all of us human beings.

This is from a Harper’s article Hedges wrote in May 2005. It is also included in American Fascists:

“I can't help but recall the words of my ethics professor at Harvard Divinity School, Dr. James Luther Adams, who told us that when we were his age, and he was then close to eighty, we would all be fighting the ‘Christian fascists.’

“He gave us that warning twenty-five years ago, when Pat Robertson and other prominent evangelists began speaking of a new political religion that would direct its efforts at taking control of all major American institutions, including mainstream denominations and the government, so as to transform the United States into a global Christian empire. At the time, it was hard to take such fantastic rhetoric seriously. But fascism, Adams warned, would not return wearing swastikas and brown shirts. Its ideological inheritors would cloak themselves in the language of the Bible; they would come carrying crosses and chanting the Pledge of Allegiance....

“Adams told us to watch closely the Christian right’s persecution of homosexuals and lesbians. Hitler, he reminded us, promised to restore moral values not long after he took power in 1933, then imposed a ban on all homosexual and lesbian organizations and publications. Then came raids on the places where homosexuals gathered, culminating on May 6, 1933, with the ransacking of the Institute for Sexual Science in Berlin. Twelve thousand volumes from the institute's library were tossed into a public bonfire. Homosexuals and lesbians, Adams said, would be the first ‘deviants’ singled out by the Christian right. We would be the next.”

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Anal sex isn’t as complicated as it might seem when you’ve never tried it, but discovering the pleasures of anal sex is an unexcelled delight.

For women who like to take it, there’s nothing quite like the feeling of fingers inside and another finger poking in the back door. It’s also an utter turn-on for stimulating the G-spot.

For those who like it with a dildo, there are three main positions that come in handiest when you’re in the mood.

Missionary position: Anal sex in the missionary position (one of you lying on your back, the one with the dildo facedown on top) takes lifting your legs higher in the air, and some strategic kneeling if you’re on top. Put a pillow under your butt. This helps raise your pelvis and provide a “good opening” for that anal dildo.

Doggie-style: This position is the easiest for first-timers. That butt is right in front of you and you can stand up while your partner leans over the edge of a bed, couch, chair...or even the kitchen table! Try it. If you’re the bottom and trying this for the first time, spread your arms out and grab hold of whatever you can find. And relax! This is the easiest entry for mind-blowing fun.

Sitting up and facing backwards: This position doesn’t really have a name. We used to think of it as “girl on top,” but really if you’re the one who’ll be getting it, you’ll be facing away from your partner, not facing each other. We think this works best if you’re using a butt plug or dildo—they have good smaller ones for this type of activity—but it’s great for a finger or two, too.

Gay guys no doubt have a zillion more positions to enjoy this most enjoyable sex act, but these three are, in our opinion, good for starting out.

And remember the three bending over “bare necessities” whether you’re on the top or the bottom:

1. A condom or latex glove
2. Lots and lots and lots of water-based lube
3. Relax

From the inimitable Shar Rednour comes Healing Sex: The Complete Guide to Sexual Wholeness.

Susie Bright wrote, “This DVD is revolutionary—in the truest sense of the word.” We agree.

For men and women who have experienced sexual abuse, this DVD is part documentary, part educational, including mind/body exercises. Directed by Shar Rednour and hosted by Staci Haines.

Many of you know g-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In “Ask Fanny,” an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

Why is it that sometimes I ejaculate and sometimes I don't? My partner notices a wet spot when she uses her lovely fingers on my G-spot, but when we use a strap-on, it seems I can't ejaculate.

Signed,

On-Again, Off-Again

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Dear On-Again, Off-Again,

I may have said this before, but it is a very important point: some women cannot ejaculate with something in their vagina!

When you use your vaginal (PC) muscles to push out the ejaculate during orgasm, push out whatever is in your vagina, especially a large penis-dildo toy! For many women, this includes fingers, too. But in your case, you are obviously able to ejaculate with your lover's fingers inside you, but not when its something larger than her lovely digits.

You might, in fact, find that you will "arc" ("squirt") instead of "flood" if she also takes her fingers out of your vagina when you ejaculate!

And, this, too, is worth repeating: don't worry if you don't ejaculate all the time. No woman needs that kind of pressure regarding her ejaculation abilities. It takes time to get to understand your body and how it works with different partners and different situations.

Fanny

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Each month, we welcome your letters—about any related topic you wish to comment on.

An anonymous reader wrote:

“I’m FTM and am beside myself for now the porn I’ve always longed for is finally available for us...! Life is good!”

See below for another letter about anonymous sex.

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Send your letters and comments to christi@fatalemedia.com.

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In last month’s poll, we asked: Have you ever had anonymous sex?

We received 124 votes. Either you have and loved it or you want to, that much is clear!

But an interesting comment came in through Fatale Feedback, one worth reflecting on:

“I did have anonymous sex and clicked the ‘I loved it’ button, but I should clarify that it happened long ago, before HIV/AIDS, and I can't imagine such a thing happening now. Sex is fraught with complications now and the liberating, haunting freedom I experienced from anonymous sex in the early ‘70s might only be possible today if approached from an entirely different direction, one of trust and informed, enthusiastic permission. Would be curious to hear from others about this.”

Write to us and let us know what you think about this point.

See the full results of the February 2007 poll here.

This month, we ask: Have you ever had, or given someone, a gushing G-spot orgasm?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com