Dear Friend,

We first met Carolyn Caizzi when she won Fatale’s Real Lesbian Sex contest. She was a young art student in Chicago and had filmed two friends in Turn Me Up Over and On.

Carolyn has a new lesbian DVD out! Coming Home gathers four real-life lesbian couples to have sex for Carolyn...and her camera.

“When I shot Turn Me Up it was just me, my two friends and my camera in the room,” she says now. “With Coming Home, it was a very different experience, probably because I’m more experienced.”

When asked about the last vignette in her new lesbian DVD, featuring Tinkerbelle and Peter Pan, Carolyn laughs. “Each couple did whatever they wanted to. I was very hands-off; I didn’t dictate what the couples did on screen. Miss Angelene and Chance are into role-playing, and Tinkerbelle and Peter Pan was their idea.”

We personally love Coming Home. We salute those real lesbians who have the courage to show the world what real sex between lesbians looks like.

It’s Gay Pride Month, and we’ll be in New York City for the parade and LGBT Pride Week. Nan is also being filmed there for a new documentary on lesbians and sex.

In celebration, we’re offering a LGBT Gay Pride Special - take 10% off all items at Fatale during the month of June.

Happy Pride!

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

While we were reviewing Carolyn Caizzi’s new lesbian DVD, Coming Home, we noticed that each lesbian couple in the movie—and they’re real-life couples doing what they do naturally—at some point demonstrates this time-honored lesbian act.

Straight folks: If you haven’t tried it, don’t knock it.

Straight gals: Check out Bend Over Boyfriend for how to finger-fuck your boyfriend.

When we were younger, much younger, finger fucking could upon occasion produce major anxiety—were our nails clipped just so, no hangnails or raspy edges? Would she like it? Should we use a condom? Were there such things as “finger condoms”?

After exploring dozens if not hundreds of lesbian bodies, finger fucking seems as natural as kissing.

One of the best ways to get started is to go down on your girlfriend and lick her good. After she’s wet and open to you, gently ease your finger inside.

If you find you need some lube, the bottle should be next to the bed where you put it before you got all hot and horny with your girlfriend.

Slowly explore the ridges—feel her G spot just inside and along the roof of her vagina? Don’t press it at this point, but if she’s bucking like a rodeo horse, go for it!

As she begins to respond to your finger inside her, you can quit with the cunnilingus—your neck is probably stiff by now anyway—and move up alongside her, and keep stroking her with one finger. You’ll find your rhythm.

Slide a second finger inside. She’ll let you know if she’s open to it. You can try a third finger too, but often, one or two fingers do the trick.

By now you may really need the lube, or not. If she’s wet enough, you may not.

(To read sex tips about fisting, click here.)

Many lesbians view finger fucking as a prelude to “real sex” with a strap-on dildo. But it can also be the finger-fucking that brings her right to her first orgasm.

If she likes to have multiple orgasms, then consider more stroking with your fingers or donning your strap-on.

We’re assuming here that you’re both lying down, but try sitting up behind her. You can play with her breasts and nipples, stroke the inside of her thighs and get off on feeling her leaning up against you.

Finger fucking her doggy-style—an act you probably like a lot—is another way to reach her G spot and let her spew.

Just remember: Don’t ram her too hard. Your fingers should be loosely curled around to her natural shape.

You can also ask her if she likes it. Be willing to ease up a little and look at her face, kiss her. Is she enjoying herself?

If you’re the one getting finger fucked, remember to talk to your partner and let her know what you like and what you don’t. You can just say, “That hurts” or “Too hard” or “Harder.”

You can also guide your partner’s hand toward or away from your vagina. Take her wrist and push or pull her where you want her.

You can also finger fuck each other at the same time, a delightful experience if you like mutual, concurrent sex.

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What’s your advice? Send your comments to christi@fatalemedia.com.

Take 10% off all items at Fatale through the month of June—in honor of LGBT Pride.

Many of you know g-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In “Ask Fanny,” an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Hello, Fanny,

My name is Christina and I am a 20-year-old college student. I bought your book Female Ejaculation and the G Spot for my boyfriend. It is his fantasy to have me ejaculate.

At first I was skeptical but now I think I can do it and I really want to. I have been masturbating by myself since I was about 10 with strictly clitoral stimulation and I always orgasmed. I never felt like anything was missing until recently. Also, with my boyfriend, I rarely orgasm and never with the amount of muscle contraction that I get when I do it myself.

Do you think that if I just keep working at it with him and learn to ejaculate then that will make me orgasm more often with him? It worries me a little that when we set aside time for me to try to ejaculate it just feels painfully like I have to urinate, there really isn’t much pleasurable about it. I feel like I am breathing and relaxing as much as possible. Also, I can’t really try it myself. I have difficulty reaching inside myself enough to move my fingers for stimulation. Do you have any suggestions?

I also recently observed something when I was making love to my boyfriend. When he gets into the position where he is over me and my legs are up on his shoulders, I don’t feel anything pleasurable like I am about to orgasm (at least like how it feels when I do it myself), but I begin to have difficulty breathing and start crying. This worries me and my boyfriend. Is this normal? Is there anything wrong with me?

Thank you so much for your help. Your work does a lot of good for a lot of women.

Sincerely,

Christina F.

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Hi Christina,

First of all, I want to thank you for writing me. It seems you are having a happy enough sex life with yourself and with your partner, and that's a really great accomplishment at your age. So, let's just take a breath together and be happy about that.

You said you do really want to ejaculate. I assume it’s not pressure from your boyfriend making you say that, okay? Or wanting to satisfy his fantasy? Because if it is, you really shouldn't try right now, and that's okay, and I'm sure it will be okay with your boyfriend. You do it for YOU, when YOU are ready - even if its years from now.

Why don't you orgasm with your boyfriend as much as you do by yourself? Is it self-consciousness, or are you not doing the same thing with him as you do yourself. If so, can you get him to do the same thing with you that you do by yourself?

If it’s self-consciousness, then that's another matter. I bring this up because you talked about a vulnerable sexual position that makes you cry. My guess is that you aren't quite ready to be that vulnerable with your boyfriend, or perhaps any man - and that is okay.

If that is the case, please listen to yourself and respect that. You are not abnormal. If you can't breathe, you can't breathe, so don't go there. There is so much else to enjoy with sex, not everyone can do or wants to do everything that is possible or imaginable.

SEX IS PLEASURE, so if it’s not pleasurable for you, stop immediately. If your boyfriend pressures you, Christina, get another one!

That said, and assuming that he is not pressuring you (or that you are pressuring yourself to fulfill his needs), and that he's a great guy, then yes, in time you will learn how to orgasm with him, and also to ejaculate.

As I say in my book, BE PATIENT. As for having the painful feeling of having to urinate, is that not ejaculation knocking on your door? (Please reread chapters four and five!) And remember, the biggest obstacle to ejaculating for women is “letting go” - both emotionally and physically.

It sounds like he is stimulating you well, but if it’s too intense, remember you need to feel relaxed, safe and ready, or you won't ejaculate. Also, remember many women cannot ejaculate with something in their vagina - is he removing his fingers when you feel you need to push out the ejaculate? When you feel that “urinating” feeling... go with it for a minute or so and then push out. See what happens.

I think you are “on the verge” of ejaculating. See if these suggestions help. Take your time, don't pressure yourself or be pressured, and enjoy your lifelong development of your sexuality. You are on a good path, just let it develop.

As for using your own hands, you may need a toy when you want to practice by yourself.

You go, girl!

Deborah

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Larry from Birmingham, Alabama, wrote:

“First of all, hi and I really love what you do... I am really tired of the "Frat Boy Lez" porn sites. I would really like to be able to download your videos. Is that possible?

“I do love the chemistry and realism found in these (butch femme) type movies. REAL lesbians doing what they love and not the so called Glam Lesbians doing all of the uuuuhhs and ahhsss for the cam.”

Thanks for your kind words, Larry. We’re sorry to say that at this time you cannot download Fatale’s videos and DVDs. Maybe in the future. If you do want to download other videos and DVDs, you can check out Gamelink.com.

Send your letters and comments to christi@fatalemedia.com.

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Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi
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