What Women Want

theothersideofdesirebergner1We were curious to see Charles McGrath’s review of Daniel Bergner’s new book, The Other Side of Desire (Ecco, $24.99). Subtitled Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing, the book is about “people most of us would call perverts or weirdos.”

Ah! Pervs and weirdos. That’s us.

So imagine our surprise to see the next day, a week ago, the cover story of the New York Times Magazine: “What Is Female Desire?” by the very same Daniel Bergner.

Our first thought: Nobody asked us!

But after reading this fascinating article about women sexologists exploring the inner reaches of female sexuality, we were sold that they’re doing good work.

But we know there are lots and lots of women who know exactly what they want. Is this still an issue? Apparently so.

Here’s the letter Nan sent to the New York Times:

To the Editor:
As someone who has catered to women’s tastes for sexually explicit material for 25 years, I read with interest Daniel Bergner’s article “What Is Female Desire?” and applaud the work of Meredith Chivers and the other sexologists. Although I am not a scientist, I nonetheless have observed over these past 25 years that women will seek out and spend money on sexually explicit material that they know turns them on. In other words, there are plenty of women who know exactly what they want.


Nan Kinney
Fatale Media, Inc.

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