In “Ask Fanny,” a regular Fatale Media newsletter column, G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Fanny,
I have three kids in grade school and to be honest our lovemaking is taking a beating. There just is no time for quality time together sexually, much less learn about female ejaculation, which seem to take a lot of time to learn.

Do you have any suggestions?

Signed,

Swamped in Pennsylvania

Dear Swamped,
Every parent I know has the same problem, and yet the answer is what parent guides have been saying for years: you must take time for your relationship!

I firmly believe that once a month you MUST schedule a weekend together, alone and uninterrupted. Sexuality and lovemaking and time together form the glue that keeps your relationship strong. If you starve it, you end up hurting the entire family in the end. You must put your relationship first, and you must spend the money to invest in this.

Often, the grandparents are all too happy to babysit the kids. One couple I know had 10 brothers and sisters and grandparents all in town, happy to watch the kids, but he didn’t want to “impose.” For one thing, cousins want to see each other, and second, to the vast majority of grandparents, their grandkids are the most important thing in their life and gives them great joy. I told him he was not only robbing his immediately family but his extended family as well.

No family around?  You must develop your neighborhood network of swapping and watching one another’s kids.

Logistics and commitment aside, once you have a weekend together, believe me you will have plenty of time to learn how to female ejaculate!

Practice, practice, practice. That’s the key, in my experience, to learning new sexual techniques.

When you see how good you feel and how restored your relationship is, you won’t hesitate to make time for you and your sweetheart.

Good luck!

Fanny

P.S. Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples.

Another letter from a friend surprised us when it arrived last week. What about “talking dirty?” he wanted to know.

Surprise! Talk to Me Baby is a DVD from S.I.R. Video that is the crème de la crème for talking dirty. Director and dirty-talk expert Shar Rednour, the “Diva of Dirty Talk,” offers:

–Tips on how to use dirty talk to seduce a lover
–Pillow talk as a prelude to passion
–Sex fantasies played out in scorching detail.

Smut Magazine wrote: “Shar Rednour is, as always, the perfect hostess. She’s her usual vampy, campy and out of control self. What I love about this video is that anyone can get something out of it.”

What gives even more spice to dirty talking is a little added fetish. Our friend writes: “I also like the fetish ( I adore sucking women’s toes) before talking to a woman. I look to her toes, and hands…”

For all the talk of Representative Anthony Weiner—and we do not believe he should resign—and his “dirty tweets,” actual dirty talk is sexier than any tweet or posting.

The tenor of the voice, the smooth soft lure of a honeyed sexy voice… The greatest writers, even those who write great tweets, can’t match the thrill that sparks up and down the spine when the seductive dirty talk starts.

What do you think?

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Check out Talk to Me Baby. Just so you know, the couples who illustrate the dirty talk here about both straight and lesbian.

P.P.S. Fatale Media’s Gay Pride Special is on through June, 2011. Ten percent off everything plus free shipping in the U.S.

Our dear friend Tony wrote to us with some more insights into the oftentimes mysterious world of straight kinky relationships.

We’ve known Tony for years, and he has shared his perspectives on sex and politics and the geopolitical shifts that allow our worlds to intersect. In another place and time, our worlds would probably have never met.

But that’s the fun thing about what we do! We meet people from all over the world and from all walks of life. This business offers a wonderful place for intersections.

Our friend’s latest letter was edited slightly to avoid the e-mail censors; this is his original letter to us:

“I would like to see posting the issue of pubic hair. As I told you before, my four girls have bushy pubic hair, which gives me a great sexual appetite for a good fuck.

“I did some surveying here [in Massachusetts], asking many women if they shave or keep growing their cunt hair and why? The women who shave believe that it will be easy for them to masturbate and to be licked from both sexes.

“The other women keep growing their pubic hair, because while masturbating they love to feel the hair and touch it, especially this excites them while they are taking a shower, see the shampoo on their pubic hair, as they believe this makes them feel that their privates are special, different from others’. When it comes to sex, they get more orgasm feeling, from the tongue on their pubic hair and the dick.

“As for me I adore the pubic hair to be bushy, because once my girls finish peeing on my face and in my mouth, I suck dry their pubic hair, while doing that my girls and me, we get extreme sexual excitement.”

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. To see bushy public areas on display, check out Full Load: Scenes from ssspread.com. The last scene, down in the laundry, is a particularly nice one.

P.P.S. To read the letter that preceded this one, see “Advice on a Sexual Issue (Drinking Pee).”

We’d like to put our hat in the ring and say, “We too defend marriage.” For anybody. For everybody.

All this Defense of Marriage Act back-and-forth has reached, as the New York Times put it, “a tipping point.” Adam Lipak’s article last Sunday, “A Tipping Point for Gay Marriage,” pointed out that the legal community is often ahead of the curve when it comes to forward-thinking ideas and acceptance of those ideas in the general public.

Long before gay marriage becomes legal throughout the United States, legal decisions such as Lawrence v. Texas, decided by the U.S. Supreme Court in 2003, which in essence legalized gay sex (sodomy, to be precise).

Now we have international law firm King & Spalding, based in Atlanta, withdrawing from a case that would have put them in a position to defend the Defense of Marriage Act. Marriage should be between one man and one woman, that act says. The law firm doesn’t want to alienate its law-school recruits, among other things. Good. Let them withdraw.

If it takes the legal community to lead the way in legalizing gay marriage, so be it.

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Check out Shine Louise Houston’s new lesbian DVD The Crash Pad Series Volume 6. A keeper for sure!

P.P.S. Check out all Fatale’s DVDS.

In the last month or so we’ve gotten a couple interesting e-mails…not about exhibitionism or voyeurism, per this month’s poll, but about what’s out there now, and what’s new at Fatale.

Here’s one note, from an old friend we’ll call S.:
“It’s been a while. Was just wondering how things were going at Fatale. The last time we conversed was about fisting and the political implications. I’m not sure if the present administration had anything to do with it or not, but the truth is you can find it almost anywhere on the Internet now. I was wondering if you guys had anything new featuring this or any plans for the future.”

It is our understanding that this act–lesbians fisting–is still verboten when it comes to lesbian and specifically lesbian-made explicit films. And from what porn we’ve seen online, the dykes aren’t real. If you know otherwise, let us know.

Here’s a second e-mail that warmed our hearts because we think women in men’s clothes is still a sexy sight. It’s from a fan who wishes to remain anonymous:
“Sometime back I sent you a list of female celebrities who wore men’s clothes (e.g. Madonna, Salma Hayek).”

He goes on to mention several celebrities, including Britney Spears (“Me Against the Music”); Heather Morris, who wore a similar outfit in the Glee episode “Brittany Britney”; Christina Aguilera (“Ain’t No Other Man”); Rihanna; Lady Gaga; singer Janelle Monae (she even wears masculine shoes); and one can find many other photos of women in men’s clothes on Flickr and Youtube.

He adds: “I should point out that sexual orientation doesn’t necessarily play a role when a woman chooses to dress like a man.”

Here’s a follow-up note headed “Women and Neckties” from this same anonymous correspondent:
“You’ve probably seen Anne Hathaway’s skit at the Oscars in which she wore a tuxedo.  I recently found out that Carrie Underwood wore a tux during a performance last year, and that Taylor Swift wore a tux for the cover of a magazine.

Also, actress Robia LaMorte wore a tuxedo in the TV series Silk Stalkings, in the episode called ‘Do You Believe In Magic?’”

Spoiler Alert:
We found the Silk Stalkings episode on YouTube, uploaded this past Valentine’s Day, with this creepy copy: “A ventriloquist’s dummy with its own dark history is the only lead to a tuxedoed serial killer.”

All that said, if you like cross-dressing in porn, check out Sugar High Glitter City or Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels.

Nobody does it quite like Shar Rednour and Jackie Strano, the masterminds behind S.I.R. Videos (Fatale Media is their distributor). The “sugar pimps and dandy hos” in Sugar High are drool-worthy.

Celebrities in the lesbian world of porn for sure!

Send us your notes, and write on our Fatale Media Facebook wall. We love to hear your thoughts.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

We don’t publish all the notes we receive, but every now and then we ask for (and usually receive) permission to reprint a letter. Here’s one we loved:

Dear Christi and Fatale Team,

This “Bend Over Boyfriend” dvd is SO FRIGGIN AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It’s like the BEST educational video I’ve ever seen!!! God, we’re gonna have fun with that now!!! You girls are geniuses!!

Thank you thank you thank you SO much for bringing this knowledge out to the straight/bi/whatever masses. The world is in deep deprivation of anal pleasure and play, and I utterly pity people who haven’t given it a serious thought yet. In the name of both my male and female lovers (and of course in mine too), I deeply want to underline the pertinence and value of this video.

And on these good words, I’ll return to bed with the Saran Wrap roll in my hand, where some cute stud is still dozing ^.^

–Emilie M., from Montreal, Canada

Thanks, Emilie! Glad you like it.

Facebook invitations are a dime a dozen, and we ignore most of them. But every now and then, some invite captures our imagination…or plain old curiosity.

An invitation to like “Love”—just Love with a capital L, nothing more—sounded worthwhile. Who doesn’t like love? Who doesn’t love to be loved?

Well, we did see that tables-turned HBO documentary Teenage Paparazzo. Maybe love can go too far.

Ditto with stalking. Which is kinda what the paparazzi do on a regular basis. And we love them for it, those camera-wielders.

From the “Like” Love area we moved on to see what else had recently been posted, and we found io9’s piece “about this weekend’s conference for brainy pervs,” “The future of sexology comes to San Francisco with the Arse Elektronika conference.” Great photo.

We recommend Saturday evening “Making Spaces for Sex: From Rituals to Parties to Playa” hosted by Carol Queen. 8:30 PM. There’s more information at Monochrom.

Carol Queen, in case you don’t know, instructs and stars in (with hubby Robert Morgan) Fatale’s bestselling Bend Over Boyfriend. Worth a look, if you haven’t seen this or tried it yourself.

When it comes to science fiction and sex, though, to our minds nobody tops Shar Rednour’s Sugar High Glitter City when it comes to pure dyke sci-fi sex.

Named “Best Lesbian Porn” by LesbianLife.About.com, there’s some of the hottest dildo action in this we’ve ever seen.

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Click here to see all Fatale’s videos.

If you haven’t seen Delaware Tea Party darling GOP Senate nominee Christine O’Donnell talking against masturbation, do it. This must-see video is absolutely precious…and laugh-out-loud funny.

Snip: “You can’t masturbate without lust in your heart.”

Snip: “If he already knows what pleases him, and he can please himself, then why am I in the picture?”

Oh, honey!

This just in…

September 17, 2010
Delaware Masturbators March Against O’Donnell
Largest Pro-wanking Demonstration in History

WILMINGTON (The Borowitz Report) – Galvanized by Republican senatorial
nominee Christine O’Donnell’s anti-masturbation stance, masturbators
from across the state converged on Wilmington today in what some are
calling the largest pro-wanking protest in American history.

Read more at The Borowitz Report.

Thank you, Andy Borowitz!

Are you a lusty masturbator? Vote now!

Do you know about the racy wallpaper in London’s Dean Street Townhouse? We caught the story within the last couple weeks courtesy of Hotel Chatter.

An original Fast Company article investigated the Soho hotel and its new wallpaper that honors the brothels of the area…and the Dean Street Townhouse was apparently part of scene then too. Here’s a clip from the article:

“Historically, Soho was all about brothels,” says designer Martin Brudnizki, of Martin Brudnizki Design Studio, who created the space. “We wanted people to walk in and have a good laugh.”

Swirling vulvas do not meet the naked eye; one must peer closer to see exactly how Mr. Brudnizki has achieved this delicious effect.

Here’s the close-up:

 http://images.fastcompany.com/infographics/dean-street-wallpaper-NSFW.jpg

Midsummer is upon us. Everything seems slow, quiet, slumbering. Time for vacation. The news reports that more people are driving to their vacation destinations this summer, and that’s an even better reason to try something new.

Our next-door neighbors took their kids to summer camp. Yesterday they didn’t come out of their house all day! We thought, bet they’re in bed experimenting like mad.

Here are three down-and-dirty suggestions for trying something new this summer vacation—

–Bend Over Boyfriend
If you haven’t tried doing your boyfriend up his butt yet, or if you want your girlfriend to do you, this is the place to start.

Already tried it but need or want some more inspiration? Try Bend Over Boyfriend 2. Or try them both in the special BOB 2-fer package and save $10.

–Female Ejaculation
If you’re even remotely curious about how to female ejaculate, go to the FE goddess herself, Miss Deborah Sundahl, to learn how and where your G-spot lurks. This is pure fun and requires no equipment. Your fingers will suffice. Enjoy!

Never done it? Start here: How to Female Ejaculate

Want to try it with your hetero partner? Try Female Ejaculation for Couples

Prefer the company of women? Then you need Female Ejaculation: The Workshop

–Catch Up on The Crash Pad
If you’ve like some people we know, maybe you never quite “got” the Crash Pad craze. Well, now’s your chance to catch up.

The Crash Pad Gift Set is perfect for the beach. If you’ve got a summer house or share with like-minded friends, these vids make the perfect basis for sexy party games. 

Plus, you get to choose which three Crash Pad videos you want—just put a note in the Comments section during checkout.

Our favorite remains The Crash Pad Series Volume 2, which we said was “beautifully filmed and pussy-licking good!”

Get nasty this summer…and tell us your stories!

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Remember to bring a gift when you visit! You can see all Fatale’s packaged and gift sets here.