Dear Friend,

Last week we stumbled upon an HBO comedy rerun, “P. Diddy Presents the Bad Boys of Comedy,” originally shot at the Brooklyn Academy of Music (BAM, if you know New York).

It’s a baudy show—“mature,” HBO says. Lots of talk about sex.

And yes, it’s really really really funny. Only a half-hour long, P. Diddy introduces various young comedians.

“I’m a titty man.”

This zinger came from a strapping big comedian named Rodney Johnson. We rolled our eyes. Aren’t all men “titty men”? Liking to lick their girlfriends’ boobs?

But we were wrong. That’s not what Mr. Johnson was talking about at all. In fact, he liked his own titties sucked and nuzzled, played with.

With some resistance, he had acquiesced to his girlfriend’s request to suck his nipples, play with his tits. To play with him like he was used to playing with women. Pretty cool, we thought.

“Guys,“ Johnson protested, “have a chest. Men have chests. Men don’t have titties.”

But he liked it—having his nipples sucked, getting them hard. “Do that to the other one,” he told his girlfriend.

“We need to add that to the foreplay repertoire,” he said at the end. We couldn’t agree more.

We admire men like Rodney Johnson, who can not only open up to a new sexual experience but then go out to a packed house and talk about it.

Take a chance. Do something new in bed. Try it! You might like it.

Yours in good sex and love,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

We agree with Rodney Johnson, that breast play should be in the “foreplay repertoire” that everyone has but no one really talks about.

Some lovers forget that playing with your girlfriend’s tits is one of life’s great turn-ons. Most women like them sucked slowly, with a little pinching in the beginning.

As she gets more turned on, you can pinch them hard if she likes it. Not all women do. So ask her.

If she’s got pierced nipples, play with the jewelry, rolling the piercings around with your tongue and pulling on them. You can use this same technique if she’s got a pierced clit.

Talk dirty to her while you’re nuzzling and licking her nipples. You can also let your hand trail downward to see if she’s wet yet and nudge her on, finger her clit.

If your girlfriend’s flat-chested, don’t think she doesn’t enjoy tit play. The nerves are all there, male or female, big-boobed or small.

Hold her breasts in your hands and kiss her all over. Sometimes alternating between soft caresses and harder pinching and pulling and squeezing builds the excitement.

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Send your comments to christi@fatalemedia.com.

You asked for it, we promised, and now the DVDs are mostly in. We’ve staged the production roll-out, and there are more coming.

Now on DVD, in stock and ready to ship within 24 hours:

Clips - three vignettes including Greta’s anal masturbation scene; Nan and Deborah in a funny skit that ends in Deb’s G-spot geyser; and Coco Jo and Houlihan’s sexy scarf play.

Take Her Down! Lesbian Erotic Oil Wrestling Party - heaven and oil.

Hungry Hearts - Pepper and Reeva share a romantic, sexy weekend at a resort.

Bathroom Sluts - these are girls gone wild!

Also on DVD:

Suburban Dykes - with the inimitable Nina Hartley and Miss Sharon Mitchell.

Full Load: Scenes from ssspread.com - yowza! These dykes can’t be stopped!

Afterschool Special and Turn Me Up Over and On - this double DVD of amateur lesbian porn will knock your socks off. Both winners of Fatale’s Real Lesbian Sex contest.

Many of you know g-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In “Ask Fanny,” an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Hi!

My partner and I bought your book after some attempts at ejaculation and BAM! It took about two days for me to start flowing. Amazing and it has created a much deeper intimacy in our relationship. Thank you so much.

I have two questions that I have been seeking an answer to online and have found no answers.

1. I come easily with a little clitoral stimulation and lots of g-spot stimulation but I can only push it out after I have come down off of the orgasm. I have tried bearing down during the orgasm but nothing happens, other than the orgasm suddenly dropping off. When I do push out after the fact, I have a large ejaculation. Will this change with practice/experience?
   
   
2. During the day now (particularly after a night of sex) I find myself wetting my pants! I am pretty sure this is not pee as it doesn’t smell but I get a gush when I cough or laugh. Is this normal? It feels a bit like it did after I had my child and had no bladder control.

Your thoughts would be helpful.

Much love and respect,

Jo

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Dear Jo

First of all, congratulations!

Most women cannot ejaculate with something in their vagina. Perhaps this is why you are ejaculating after your orgasm. If you use positions where you can easily move your pelvis, then your muscles that contract and expel the ejaculate during orgasm can more easily do their job if you can move to also expel your partner. It’s only for a minute or so, and he can come right back in.

The orgasm lessens when you try to push during it, perhaps because you are self-consciously trying too hard to ejaculate. Remember, however, that ejaculating is still new for you; like first learning to drive car with a stick shift, it just takes a little practice to get all the pieces working together smoothly.

I’ve heard from women who are a bit alarmed at the amounts they can ejaculate, and worry that something is wrong. It’s like a dam burst for these women, and they are just not used to this. I don’t think you will always gush when you laugh or cough, but right now it sounds as though you are in the midst of lots of great ejaculation loveplay and have “let those juices flow!”

Just enjoy this special time. Over time, you will become more familiar with how your body is working now, and things will just even out.

All the best,

Deborah

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Thank you so much for your well wishes on Fatale’s 21st birthday. We’re celebrating all year, and even contemplating a party! No decisions yet, but we’ll let you know.

In the mean time, check out this article:

Bay Windows
“Debbie Does Debbie”

Laura Kiritsy interviews Nan for Fatale’s 21st birthday! March 2, 2006

There’s more to come, so stay tuned!

If you have a suggestion for a favorite magazine, newspaper, TV or radio show we should contact to do a piece on Fatale’s 21st birthday, write to Christi, christi@fatalemedia.com.

In last month’s poll, we asked: What’s your #1 favorite sex toy?

Well, we lost about 100 votes last month due to an unannounced server switch, but the current results are reflective of what the trend was before those first votes went missing. Seems like you’ve been on the phone!

Check out the complete results of last month’s poll.

In the new poll, we ask: What’s your favorite place to have public sex?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we'll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com