Posts Tagged ‘obituaries’

Cosmo Style

Saturday, August 18th, 2012

Helen Gurley Brown 1964We were saddened to hear of the passing of Helen Gurley Brown this past week. While not exactly in line with Feminist Beliefs back in the 1970s, she believed in sex. Because of her belief that women could be homemakers or in the workforce and still sexy, we owe her a nod of gratitude.

She pioneered putting sexy women on the pages of Cosmopolitan. It hadn’t been done before.

It wasn’t really until On Our Backs and Fatale Video (now Fatale Media, as you know) came into being that we dykes were able to openly proclaim our sexuality.

It’s hard to imagine now, but 30 years ago there were Take Back the Night Marches in New York and elsewhere, protesting violence against women and protesting porn. The Sex Wars were in full swing.

Forgive us for taking some liberties with history here, but feminists and sex had an uneasy relationship for a while, despite what we were actually doing in bed.

Where did Helen Gurley Brown fit in to all this? Cosmopolitan was a sexist rag, some thought. But then we caught up to Cosmo in a way that we didn’t expect.

Cosmopolitan was one of the first mainstream magazines to jump on Bend Over Boyfriend and take up the issue of “role-reversal fantasy.”

Straight gals had Cosmo. Thanks to Helen Gurley Brown’s passion for sex, straight women didn’t have to be ashamed of sex.

Being out there and sexy was one thing we shared with Helen Gurley Brown. RIP.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com

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P.P.S. You’re invited: Join Fatale Media on Pinterest. Sexy boards include—“Lesbians We Love,” “LGBTQ Life,” “Femme Thrills,” “Hearts Aflutter,” “Butch,” “Sexy Lesbians” and more. It’s fun!

Tribute to David Rakoff

Friday, August 17th, 2012

We mourn the passing of David Rakoff, storyteller extraordinaire, humorist and chronicler of gay life. He was 47 years old and had long battled cancer, specifically Hodgkin’s lymphoma. In 2011 he won the Thurber Prize for American Humor for his book Half Empty.

The New York Times’ obituary noted his style as “amiable dyspepsia with an almost palpable undercurrent of melancholy.”

We listened to David Rakoff’s stories on This American Life, hosted by Ira Glass and a show where we have long heard and begun to appreciate new voices in storytelling and humor.

Our Friend David,” the current edition of This American Life,  is dedicated to David Rakoff’s life and stories. We urge you to listen—on the radio, as we do, or online.

Etta James

Saturday, January 21st, 2012

Etta JamesEtta James died yesterday. She was part of the soundtrack of our lives, and of our life together. We are grateful for her music. As Gwendolyn Thompkins noted in her beautiful tribute to Etta James on NPR this morning, Etta James kept love going through good times and bad.