Archive for June, 2010

The Wedding Issue

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

June is traditionally the month to get married. The nearby church parking lot has been packed for the last two Saturdays, and we expect it will be the next two weekends too.

It was a bit of a shock to learn that Elton John was singing at Rush Limbaugh’s wedding to wife #4. But hey, a million dollars is a million dollars. Nice fee if you can get it.

Tomorrow in San Francisco a different kind of wedding issue is coming to a head. Same-sex marriage is on trial in Perry vs. Schwarzenegger, the significant case that goes up against Proposition 8.

Proposition 8 outlaws same-sex marriage in the state of California, denying gays and lesbians the right to marry there since voters passed the law in late 2008.

Why does California matter? Because it’s the largest state in the union, and what happens in California is often a harbinger of what happens elsewhere in the U.S.

Kris Perry and Sandy Stier Plaintiffs

Kris Perry and Sandy Stier, Plaintiffs

Why does Perry vs. Schwarzenegger matter? Because what happens tomorrow in San Francisco will most likely prod the winners or losers in this case to appeal to the United States Supreme Court. Does Proposition 8 violate the U.S. Constitution? This is the first time the gay-marriage issue has been fought on the grounds that it violates the Constitution.

The full testimony from the January trial can be found at the Equal Rights Foundation.

As an appropriate aside, we find it heartening to learn that a new study shows teenaged children of lesbians are quite well adjusted, thank you very much. The study by Nanette Gartrell was published last week in the journal Pediatrics.

As for Perry vs. Schwarzenegger, don’t expect to see the daylong closing arguments broadcast on TV, however. As reported in the San Francisco Chronicle, the judge in the case, Chief U.S. District Judge Vaughn Walker, denied media outlets’ petition to film the closing arguments. It’s really too bad. Perhaps if more ordinary people could see the absurdity of the case against same-sex marriage, they wouldn’t be cowed by the religious right to vote against equality for all

Frank Rich wrote a good piece in the New York Times on Sunday, required reading if you’re more interested in the TV show “Glee” rather than gay marriage: “Two Weddings, a Divorce and ‘Glee.’

Needless to say, we’ll be following this case closely as it winds on. Your opinion? Let us know what you think here in the comments section.

Till next time, we say Happy Gay Pride! Wear it well.

Nan & Christi

P.S. Check out Fatale’s good wedding gift sets.

Gay Pride Special and Note about Shipping Prices

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

In honor of Gay Pride Month, June 2010, Fatale is hosting a monthlong 10% off sale.

Not only that, you also get free shipping within the U.S., whether you live in New York or Hawaii, California or Alaska or APO/FPO.

Why are we going out of our way to tell you about the shipping special included with Fatale’s Gay Pride Sale? Because there are devious sellers out there who tell you that you get cheaper DVD prices, but then they jack you on hidden (or not easily found) shipping prices.

Here’s an example:
Other seller’s price on One Night Stand: $31.95
Fatale’s price on One Night Stand, including the Gay Pride Special 10% discount ($34.95 – 10% discount): $31.45

Other seller’s “standard shipping” rate within the U.S. (except AK or HI or APO/FPO): $6.95
Other seller’s “standard shipping” rate to Alaska or Hawaii or APO/FPO: $8.95

Fatale’s “First Class” shipping rate within the U.S., including to AK or HI or APO/FPO: $0.00

Your total cost for to purchase One Night Stand:

From the other seller: $38.90 –  $40.90
From Fatale: $31.45

When you buy with Fatale, you save $7.45 – $9.45.

You can do the math on other titles too. And if you want more details, or have more stories, talk to us. We want to know what’s happening out there.

Check it out! See all Fatale’s DVDs here.

Favorite Sexy Gifts

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

Whether you’re invited to gay or straight weddings, check out Fatale’s sexy gifts.

Fatale’s gift sets are perfect for showers, birthdays and weddings, too. Along with complimentary gift-wrapping and gift notes, you can’t go wrong.

Add in the free shipping within the U.S., and your gift-giving is a done deal. Shipping outside the U.S. is very reasonable too.

Good ideas for lesbians: “Favorite Lesbian DVDs.”

Good ideas for adventurous couples: “Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set.”

See all Fatale’s Gift Sets.


Monday, June 14th, 2010

Just a reminder, this month’s official poll question is another two-parter.

Part 1: What role does fantasy play in your life?

Vote now! The poll question is on Fatale’s home page.

Bonus question: What’s the best fantasy you ever had that came true?

Stay tuned. We’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi

P.S. Don’t miss out on Fatale’s Gay Pride Sale, 10% off all items plus free shipping.

Happy Gay Pride!

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

Gay Pride Special at Fatale

It’s June and Gay Pride is in the air. As a special thank-you, we’re giving you 10% off everything in the store plus free shipping.

Just shop away, and the shopping cart will automatically apply the discount and free shipping. Click here for full sale details.

There are Fatale gift sets that are perfect for June weddings straight or gay.

Complimentary gift-wrapping and your personalized gift note adds a classy touch, especially if you’re sending a gift to a party you won’t be at.

If sending such overtly sexy gifts for the wedding makes you gulp, don’t forget the bridal showers and bachelor parties.

Check out these two gift idea posts:

• Top Romance DVDs

• Gifts for Your Sweetie

Don’t forget yourself either. You deserve a little something, and why not a sexy little something just for you?

Enjoy this gorgeous June. Weddings or no weddings, it’s Gay Pride Month and worthy of celebration.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

P.S. The #1 bestselling gift set is the Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set.

The #1 bestselling lesbian gift DVD is One Night Stand.

P.P.S. You now get 10% off and free shipping, plus complimentary gift-wrapping and gift cards. We ship worldwide, and you can order securely online with your Visa, MasterCard, American Express or PayPal. See all Fatale’s DVDs.

Gay Pride 10% Off Sale at Fatale

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

Gay Pride Special at Fatale

In honor of Gay Pride Month, June 2010, Fatale is hosting a monthlong 10% off sale with free shipping.

Check it out! See all Fatale’s DVDs here.

Ask Fanny: Easier Female Ejaculation

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Fanny,
I used to be able to female ejaculate, but lately it seems it’s not as easy as it used to be. Is there anything I can do to make it easier again?

Anonymous in New York

Dear Anonymous in New York,
The ability to female ejaculate is often characterized by sensitivity to one’s connection to your partner and also to yourself. If it is not as easy to ejaculate as it once was, this situation often reflects a change in your relationship from closeness to more difficulties or distance.

If you’re not in a relationship, this can reflect a change in how you relate or perceive yourself; perhaps you’re not feeling as attractive as you used to feel about yourself.

Sometimes for women who are very profuse when they ejaculate, they begin to have problems or doubts about ejaculating so much liquid. They then curtail their desire to ejaculate or don’t do it as frequently. If they are not conscious of these doubts, it can seem to them as if it is becoming more difficult to ejaculate, when in fact they are holding themselves back due to not wanting to create such a big pool of water every time they are sexual.

Lastly, if a woman has been performance-oriented and trying hard to ejaculate, she may find her ability waning somewhat, due to pushing too hard (both literally and figuratively). As I have said many times, the surest way to not ejaculate is to pressure yourself. Relax and enjoy the process

In the same vein, a change may be coming over your sexual desires. Perhaps you have been having lots of sport sex, and now you want to go more inward and explore what your sexuality would be like from the perspective of expressing love and intimacy with yourself or a partner. 

Bottom line: don’t worry about this change in your ability to ejaculate. Use it as the opportunity it is: to take a look at your erotic life for changes, or changes you are beginning to want to make.


Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.