Archive for September, 2012

New Poll: Your Halloween Costume?

Sunday, September 30th, 2012

Last month, we talked about some women’s issues that have come to the forefront of the U.S. Presidential election, and we asked: Are you following the women’s health issues in this year’s U.S. Presidential campaign?

Check out the poll results.

As Halloween approaches, we want to know:

What Halloween costume are you dreaming up this year?

Vote now.

The poll is on Fatale’s home page and 100% anonymous.

Till next time, we wish you fabulous sex.

Nan and Christi

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The V Word

Friday, September 21st, 2012

Naomi Wolf

“Female sexuality around the world is targeted because through traumatizing the vagina, you can intimidate women on multiple other levels,” writes Naomi Wolf, author of a new book called Vagina: A New Biography.

Wolf’s article, “Kate’s breasts, Pussy Riot, virginity tests and our attitude on women’s bodies,” was published this week on

We don’t 100% agree with Wolf about porn—Porn 24/7, as she calls it. But we do agree with her in general about women’s bodies and sexuality. She writes:

In the struggle over sex, these choices are where the struggle lies: Who decides reproductive rights; who decides when and how breasts might be exposed; who decides who can say vagina and where; who decides who is a slut; and who must be punished with hard labor for asserting their right to define their own sexual and artistic identities.

The censorship by Apple iTunes, as noted in an article in The Guardian, was shocking enough. Adding asterisks so that the word vagina reads v****a.

We see actions the world over suppressing women’s sexuality and sexual expression.

Still and all, Jennifer Hough, writing in the Toronto Star, says “the widespread activism” about the trial and sentencing of Pussy Riot “suggests these young Russian dissidents are giving the movement new impetus, perhaps even tweaking feminism for a new generation.”

Why does women’s sexuality matter? Why does women’s porn matter? We say: It’s about control. Who controls women’s bodies and sexuality matters.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

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Sex Tips: How to Introduce Kink

Friday, September 21st, 2012

Whether you’ve been together for decades or just hooking up, introducing kink to your relationship shouldn’t be embarrassing or difficult. We recommend going slow, and depending on how serious you are, it may involve some lessons.

Lesson #1. Put away 50 Shades of Grey.

Assuming kink hasn’t been in your sex life from the beginning, adding kinky sex to your arsenal can spark a relationship and ensure you’re never bored. Lesbian bed death? No way!

Crash Pad Series Volume 4 spanking

Do you know what you want? Perhaps you’ve seen pictures or videos of lovers tying each other up or you like the idea of spanking.

If you don’t know what you want, take some time to look around the Web and watch videos. No question, we always recommend watching porn!

Madison Young in Queer ManorLesson #2. Express yourself.

There are myriad ways to tell your sweetie you want to kink it up in bed. Here are two that work: 1) Just do it while you’re making love. Spank her lightly. Pull out that new whip you just bought and tap her bum. Wear the latex brassiere. Start sucking her toes. Act out your fetish and see what her reaction is. 2) Ask her, whether or not you’re in bed.

Lesson #3. Take your kink out of the bedroom. Are you pierced? Take it up a notch and wear a heavier ring to work. Try wearing nipple clamps to a party. Corsets are nice under work clothes too.

Lesson #4. Less is more. Play safe. If you’re unsure of what you’re doing, stop.

Lesson #5. Enjoy the ride. Listen to your body, love yourself and your partner.

The MarketplaceAnd if you want to read a book to get that pussy wet, try The Marketplace by Laura Antoniou. There may be lots of other places to start, but this one is the classic BDSM novel, and our favorite.

It’s the first in a trilogy, and there are links to read the first chapters, get books, e-books and more at Laura’s blog.