Archive for July, 2014

New Poll: Multiorgasmic?

Thursday, July 31st, 2014

Last month, we asked what your favorite way is to have sex when it’s too damn hot. Summer when it sizzles! See the results!

Lesbian Curves Kelly Shibari and Betty Blac

Everybody wants more, right? More love, more sex… So we wondered:

Are you multiorgasmic?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page and 100% anonymous.

Till next time, we wish you fabulous sex.

Nan and Christi

P.S. Did you know? Bend Over Boyfriend is the #1 bestseller at Fatale Media!  And if you like lesbian, see what calls “the best lesbian porn.”

P.P.S. One of the best ways to learn to achieve multiple orgasms is to learn about female ejaculation and the G-spot. G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl’s book is just published in its revised second edition, with new techniques for mastering sexual satisfaction.

Afterschool Diva’s Hot New Album

Friday, July 18th, 2014

If you’re a fan of Afterschool Special, you for sure know the supremely talented Ms. Hussy…who performs under the band name Karen and the Sorrows.

After a year of hard work, Karen has released The Names of Things, available at, on iTunes or, as she says, “pretty much any other internet music place.”

Karen and the Sorrows

Fuck Yeah, Queer Music says, “They write loss and heartbreak, and goddamn are they good at it.”

There’s even a vinyl version! Oh, be still our record-player-lovin’ hearts!

Here’s the video, posted on YouTube:

Just a Little Heartbreak” – very sweet song!

And if you missed Afterschool Special it’s not too late. One of our favorite videos.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

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Ask Fanny: How to Discover Your G-Spot

Friday, July 18th, 2014

Deborah SundahlG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the G-spot.

Dear Deborah,

I’d like to learn more about female ejaculation, but I’m not sure how to start. Should I try to find my own G-spot first, before talking to my partner?

Baffled in Baton Rouge

Dear Baffled,

The best way to begin to discover your own G-spot is to treat this important excursion as a relaxing hour of self-care.

CleopatreAs we all know by now, that means: uninterrupted quiet time where you have treated yourself to a long bath, candles, music and other things you truly like and want to partake in that you know relax you.

Then, use lubricant (olive oil works just fine if you don’t have anything else; if Cleopatra used it, you can, too!).

Before proceeding any further, do 12 rounds (in and out) of slow, deep breathing, filling your lungs completely and exhaling completely.

Next, place your finger at the entrance to your vagina and keep it there with very gentle insistence, waiting until your vagina practically scoops your finger inside. Continue to relax and breathe deeply. Don’t push yourself in and don’t push yourself deep. Stay just inside the opening an inch or two, that’s all.

Turn the pad of your finger toward the roof of your vagina. Breathe and relax. Then, millimeter by millimeter, explore all the crevices and folds, caves and ridges of your G-spot. Yes, that’s it.  Right there!

But if you don’t approach it in this relaxed and loving manner, you can breeze right by it. Not because it is small, but because we are too busy, in this culture, looking for the Big Prize. It is indeed a Big Prize, but it is wrapped in delicate paper at first, and sometimes we can think we don’t feel anything, or that it hurts, or that it should send us off the planet in instant exquisite pleasure.

Remember, breathe and relax and notice what you feel.

Once you have explored your G-spot once or twice, invite your partner to explore with you. In this way, you will have a new sexual frontier to explore together.

If you’d like more information, the revised, second edition of my book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, is now out and available for sale at Fatale Media. I hope you like it.

Best wishes,

Deborah Sundahl

P.S. Here are Deborah’s upcoming workshops and webinars about female ejaculation and the G-spot:

• “Talk for Men: Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot” is a 2-hour evening webinar that runs the first Tuesday of each month. The next “Talk for Men” is Tuesday, August 5, 2014 at 9:00 p.m. EDT. Click here for more information.

• Deborah’s next live “Weekend Workshop for Women” will be held in Muenster, Germany, October 10 – 12 , 2014.

“The workshop was a precious experience of deep intimacy with myself. Beside meeting beautiful and curious women (and having a lot of fun), the group’s experience allowed me to let go, in a trusting atmosphere, supported by the other women’s experiences and energy.” – Maeva, Grenoble, France

Click here to learn more and read other testimonials.

• Want to learn what happens in an in-person female ejaculation workshop? Read “Workshop Etiquette” by Deborah Sundahl.


Poll Reminder: Too damn hot?

Thursday, July 17th, 2014

Outdoor side-by-side showers

For this month’s poll, we ask:

What’s your favorite way to have sex when it’s too damn hot?

Ice cubes your fancy? Sexy outdoor showers? Something more interesting?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page and 100% anonymous.

Till next time, we wish you steamy, summertime sex.

Nan and Christi

P.S. Looking for some summertime savings? You save 10%-15% when you order the combo sets – which make great gifts! And for outdoor hot tub fun, check out the classic Hungry Hearts!


Ask Fanny: Workshop Etiquette

Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

Deborah Sundahl G-spot ExpertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Deborah,

I’m curious to attend a workshop on female ejaculation, but what is it like? I’m wondering if it’s uncomfortable to be in a group and try to find your G-spot. Do I have to take off my clothes?

Signed, Not Really Sure

Dear Not Really Sure,

There are four reasons why some people have reservations about attending a workshop:

  • You may be too shy to be in a group and discuss your private sexuality
  • Perhaps you can’t imagine trying to look at your private parts with other people around 
  • You’re afraid other women are going to touch you, or solicit you in a situation where you already feel vulnerable and are more likely to succumb to peer pressure, or group ostracism 
  • You worry you might be made to do something you don’t want to do.

These are pretty scary reasons to not go to a workshop. But this is what really takes place at a workshop:

  • You get to hear the stories of other women, often finding inspiration or validation for your own situation 
  • You get a chance to see other women’s pubic areas, and often their G- spots, and this education goes a very long way in understanding your own body. (No one will touch you; only you touch yourself.) 
  • You get a chance to be in a room with women who all have the same goal: discovery of and improving upon their sexual knowledge and fulfillment.

Rather than a workshop being a place to get hit on without consent, it is just the opposite. Privacy is paramount and respect for individual boundaries Rule Number One. You wear a sarong and all women have their private space within the group space; this boundary is first and foremost respected.

Rule Number Two is that women do only what they feel comfortable doing.

For example, you wear a sarong, the room is kept comfortably warm and you can bring your own toys or not. The goal is to experience and learn in a congenial, safe atmosphere.

With the rules in place, most women feel extremely comfortable after a few hours and get swept up in the excitement of discovery with women who, just like them, are nervous and excited.

Deborah Sundahl

Send your questions to

Be sure to check out Deborah’s DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop, to see a workshop in action.

Originally published as “Ask Fanny: What Happens at a Workshop?” this encore column addresses what to expect from a female ejaculation and G-spot workshop. Check out all of Deborah’s forthcoming webinars and workshops.


New Poll: Too Damn Hot

Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014

Last month was Pride Month, and we wondered what fetishwear you were planning for Pride celebrations.

Only one suggestion got zero votes until last week, when it got one. The others? See the results!

Ice cubes when it's too damn hot

This month, it’s just too damn hot. So we want to know:

What’s your favorite way to have sex when it’s too damn hot?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page and 100% anonymous.

Till next time, we wish you fabulous sex.

Nan and Christi

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