We’ve written before about The Art of Flirting, but how do you flirt with your own sweetheart?
You might wonder, why bother flirting with your own lover? Isn’t flirting only for strangers?
No way! Flirting leads to dirty talk, which leads to steamy, passionate sex.
Plus, flirting with your sweetie—especially if you’ve been together a long time—shows her how much you love and respect her, you think she’s sexy and you want her more than anybody else.
Don’t vary your usual behavior too much at first. If you’re a gruff, “don’t bug me” type of person when you get home from work, suddenly acting the Casanova when you pop in the door will arouse her suspicions.
Instead, start simple. Get out of the house. Take her out for a drink or dinner. Make sure the place has a warm, romantic atmosphere. (more…)
Forbidden Fruit
Saturday, September 1st, 2007There’s a subtle difference between getting what you want and getting what you can’t have. Getting what you want, even a seemingly unattainable object of your desire, brings a frisson of excitement, a tingle to the belly. The chase is as delicious as the getting.
Fantasies play a strong role here. You can picture exactly what you want—the cutest girl in the room, a real female ejaculation, getting pegged or hard lesbian love like you’ve never had it in your life. So far.
What you can’t have, that’s another matter, forbidden fruit. If you’re obsessive about it, fantasies can also play a role. Like Deb Shooter in Special Delivery, you get out that vibrator and dream on and on, wishing you could be elsewhere, getting what you just can’t have right now.
Lusting after forbidden fruit seems impractical or silly to some people. But sometimes things change. Or you make them change. Hope blooms inside you. Carrying that torch, be it for weeks, years or decades, was worth it after all.
What do you think? You can tell us here.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
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christi@fatalemedia.com
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