Archive for January, 2008

In Memoriam – Ingrid Wilhite

Friday, January 18th, 2008

Ingrid Wilhite died in San Francisco on Tuesday, January 15th, of brain cancer. She will be buried near her family in Boise, Idaho. A memorial service is planned in the Bay Area.

If you don’t know Ingrid’s name, you probably heard of Fun with a Sausage or L’Engenue, both porn videos some of the first ones distributed by Fatale. They played at the film festivals back in the early 1980s right as the lesbian sex wars were heating up. 

“People loved them,” Nan says. “Lesbians were taking themselves so seriously in those days, it was grim. Then along came Ingrid and she made them laugh at themselves. Her sense of humor was a delight.”

We mourn the passing of a witty, intelligent woman who wasn’t afraid to break the rules and jump-start the lesbian porn revolution.

That revolution has led to the success of Fatale Media, S.I.R. Video, Blank Tapes, Pink & White Productions and many, many more women who take the camera—and their sexuality—into their own hands.

Focus on the G-Spot

Wednesday, January 16th, 2008

You know Deborah Sundahl from her monthly Q&A column, “Ask Fanny,” in these newsletters and blog postings at Fatale. She’s as committed as anyone we know to helping women (and their partners) understand female ejaculation, what it is and how every woman can ejaculate.

Deborah travels the world giving workshops with real-life women and couples. She works one-on-one in private workshops. She’s written a book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot and three very successful DVDs, including her bestselling How to Female Ejaculate, still one of the most important educational titles on the subject.

Now she’s got a new one out that’ll knock your socks off. Filmed in France with utterly gorgeous women—the women in Paris are just gorgeous, let’s face it—Deborah directed this new DVD and also ran the workshop.

Don’t worry. It’s in English. No subtitles.

Check it out: Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

We’ve been very lucky to have known Deborah since her days at On Our Backs and to have had her as a friend and confidante ever since. She’s educated us and cheered us on with everything female ejaculation and the G-spot. We hope you take the time to get to know her better too.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

Q&A: Ask Fanny – Man’s Terms

Wednesday, January 16th, 2008

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

Got the dvd on the gspot, but I’m confused…You say many women can’t ejaculate with something inside them… How do you play with it for them to ejaculate if that is the case? Please explain in simple man’s terms.

JB, via e-mail

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Dear JB,

Most women, but not all, find it difficult or impossible to ejaculate with something inside their vagina – at the moment of ejaculation. Some women ejaculate with a gush, but it is of course impossible to arc the ejaculate out of the body when close contact such as intercourse is occurring.

Therefore, you play with it – that is, stimulate the G-spot – before she ejaculates. Using toys, fingers, penis, you have ample time to play with the G-spot before the moment of ejaculation.

When you feel her G-spot engorge and swell, then withdraw your penis (or toy or fingers) and allow the ejaculate to flow.

Hope that was simple enough. Good luck.


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Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

New Year’s Resolutions

Tuesday, January 1st, 2008

We hope you had a good holiday season and are ready for 2008. We sure are. Not everybody likes making resolutions, but we do. They’re like a rough map for the future and a way to measure progress. We keep a book with our goals, and it’s satisfying to look back and see how far we’ve come. This year, we thought we’d share ours with you.

Here’s our list of top 5 New Year’s resolutions for the coming year:

1. Have more sex

2. Continue to be kind to each other

3. Make and produce more sexy movies

4. Carry and distribute more good movies starring real dykes

5. Keep the love in all interactions with friends, customers and family

We’ve already started on one of these resolutions…number 4, to carry and distribute more good movies starring real dykes. The red-hot gals at The Crash Pad have continued to shoot scenes in the crash pad, the secret room where only some are given the keys.

Now they’ve put the first five episodes together in a new DVD called The Crash Pad Series, Volume 1, directed by the inimitable Shine Louise Houston. There’s a little something for everyone here—butches and femmes, bois and transfolk.

You can read more about it here.

See all Fatale’s sexy DVDs here.

And next time we write we’ll have a new DVD out from G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, so stay tuned.

Happy New Year!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

Sex Tips & Tricks: Lingerie, Part 1

Tuesday, January 1st, 2008

Buying lingerie, not unlike buying lube or condoms, doesn’t have to be embarrassing. You can stride right over to the sexy underclothes area of the department store and ooh and ahh at the silky offerings. Or you can duck your head, pretending you were looking for flannel PJs, and blush.

Buying lingerie online isn’t tactile—what online buying is?—but you can find a wider variety of fabrics, sizes and styles than in most lingerie or department stores. Hard-to-find sizes are a real bonus with online shopping.

We don’t like the models’ styling in here, but if you dig deep you can find some unusual pickings with lace and silk and satin, and a good selection of plus sizes, at Lingerie Diva. The blog’s not bad either. Like Mistress Cobra’s corset in Full Load, similar designs abound here.

If your idea of fun includes leather and latex, don’t miss JT’s Stockroom for a wide selection of panties, corsets, stockings and more. It’s one of our favorite shops.

Want to know the best uses for lingerie? Next time, in Lingerie: Part 2, we’ll talk about how and when to wear lingerie and what else it’s good for.

We want your opinion on how you wear and use lingerie. You can comment here.

New from Fatale

Tuesday, January 1st, 2008

The Crash Pad Series, Volume 1, is a hot tamale meant to stoke your fires down below.
Check it out here.

Q&A: Ask Fanny

Tuesday, January 1st, 2008

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

This issue, Deborah is on vacation, so we thought we’d dig into the archives and recap Deborah’s most popular “Ask Fanny” columns:

Is Female Ejaculate Pee?

FE Must-Read Secrets

Fake Squirting

Is Bleeding Normal?

What is Tantric Sex?

Send your questions to

Be sure to check out Deborah’s How to Female Ejaculate DVD for more information this important subject for all women.

Holiday Toys? * Lingerie

Tuesday, January 1st, 2008

You can comment on any story in the newsletter. You should still feel free to e-mail us, but we encourage you to share your stories and experiences with others at the blog.

In last month’s poll, we asked: What do you most want to get for the holidays this year?

The top three answers:

1. Porn DVDs

2. Strap-on harness

3. Anal butt plug

See all the results here.

This month we ask: When do you wear sexy lingerie?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi