Archive for March, 2009

One Night Stand Nominated!

Friday, March 27th, 2009

one_night_stand_88wThe 2009 Feminist Porn Award nominations are out!

One Night Stand by Emilie Jouvet is nominated.

Congratulations, Emilie!

“Butch Fatale”

Monday, March 16th, 2009

We read with interest Daphne Merkin’s “Butch Fatale” piece about Rachel Maddow in the New York Times Women’s Fashion Spring 2009 magazine a couple weeks ago.

It gave us a chuckle to think of Rachel Maddow as “fatale” anything, because she’s clearly a good-looking, sexy butch who whets our news whistle each evening on MSBNC.


Then we stumbled upon Jen Sabella’s rebuttal on AfterEllen: “The New York Times Tackles ‘Butch Fatale.’” It’s an excellent essay, and we commend Sabella’s skewering wit and astute commentary.

We were uneasy too when we read “Butch Fatale.” As a proud butch/femme couple, we found it rather odd to see “lipstick lesbians” equated with femmes, the femmes in question barely acknowledged. According to Merkin, there are only two “Sapphic archetypes” and “both categories (butch and femme)” derive from “gender-influenced dichotomies of beauty.”

Give us a break.

Sabella also pulled out this zinger: “In one of [Daphne Merkin’s] books, Dreaming of Hitler, she says that even lesbians ‘wish to be filled with something hard and penislike and not-female.’” 

Our favorite comment came from Jenna DQ, and with her permission we’re quoting her comment nearly in full:

“I might get eaten alive for this, but, yeah, obviously there are plenty of lesbians who enjoy penetration. Even straight men like penetration (those who’ll admit it anyway). What vagina wig is missing here is the same thing stupid people (excuse the gross generalization) miss all the time. It’s not strictly a genital thing. Half of sex occurs in the mind! So ask a lesbian who enjoys penetration if there’s a difference between being f*ed by a man or a woman…Ask a gay top if there’s a difference between f*ing a woman’s butt or a man’s…Ask a straight man if there’s a difference between getting a beej from a man or a woman! You are making love to a sexuality, not a genital.

“Come on. Get with it…not to mention that there are plenty of women who do not enjoy penetration, so where does her generalizing, dismissive statement fit them in?”

We couldn’t have said it better. Thanks, Jenna!

We recommend reading this intelligent article and equally intelligent comments at AfterEllen.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

P.S. To see Fatale’s latest DVD with lesbians who like penetration, check out One Night Stand. For guys who like it, Bend Over Boyfriend is the sex-ed gold standard.

Champion Top Seller at Fatale

Monday, March 16th, 2009

champion-dvd-seductive-madisonChampion, Shine Louise Houston’s fifth lesbian and queer sex DVD, has topped the Fatale bestseller charts in the last couple of weeks.

Champion has something for every dyke who likes rough-and-ready lesbian porn. From the boxing ring to the bedroom, Houston takes us on an emotional rollercoaster that pits the star fighter against her own ambitions…and the threat of being outed.

Check out Shine’s latest DVD Champion.

Sex Tips: How to Ask for Anal Sex

Monday, March 16th, 2009

It doesn’t have to hurt! It shouldn’t hurt. That is the #1 reassurance you need to give your partner if there is even a hint of fear.

Carol Queen, in Bend Over Boyfriend, emphasizes talking about anal sex before you do it. One way to bring up the subject is to talk about your fantasies with your partner, preferably while you’re fully dressed, but after making love is a good time too.

Sometimes it’s hard to talk first. Reader Gaye from New York City writes to suggest rolling over on to your belly while making love, then sticking your ass up in the air.

Later on, say to your lover, “I really liked it when you touched my ass.” See what your partner’s reaction is, and use that as a basis for later conversation.

Recently, a customer called to say that he’d heard about Bend Over Boyfriend because a friend of his wanted him to “try it, and be open to it.” She told him to watch the DVD and then they’d talk about it. Good idea, we told him.

Another idea is to write a love letter to your honey, and just say, “I want it!”

Bend Over BoyfriendFind out more about Bend Over Boyfriend and Bend Over Boyfriend 2.

Spring Fling: Bestsellers for Romance

Monday, March 2nd, 2009

We had a lovely Valentine’s Day weekend. Thank you for asking.

Yes, we stayed home and made a romantic dinner just for the two of us. Then we watched One Night Stand, our latest favorite DVD. We couldn’t resist.

Curious what other Fatale customers were watching for Valentine’s Day romance? Here’s the lineup of bestsellers for February:


The Crash Pad and The Crash Pad Gift Set (tied for first place)

Coming Home

One Night Stand


Straight and Educational
Bend Over Boyfriend

Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set

How to Female Ejaculate

Female Ejaculation for Couples

So as you’re thinking about spring break, getting away from it all, don’t forget to plan for romance…and lots of lusty sex! There’s nothing like a hit of good, real porn made by and for dykes to intrigue the right kind of lover.

And for adventurous straight couples, the same holds true—made by and for women makes all the difference in the world. Try it, she’ll like it.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

Sean Penn at the Oscars

Sunday, March 1st, 2009

We adore Sean Penn. Not everyone does, but we have to say that, watching Milk on the big screen, never once did we think, “Oh, Sean Penn’s doing a really good job playing Harvey Milk.” Not once. The suspension of disbelief was complete in a way that is rare these days.

Which meant that Sean Penn’s performance as Harvey Milk was, in our opinion, Oscar-worthy. We wanted him to win it, even though we thought Frank Langella’s Richard Nixon was a stellar, first-rate performance too.

Then along came Mickey Rourke. Mr. Wrestler. Hmm. Playing himself, we agreed privately. Buzz, buzz, buzz. Was Mickey Rourke was going to win best actor? Buzz, buzz, buzz.

Oh, the shouts and murmurs of the chattering classes.

So imagine our absolute thrill when Sean Penn won best actor for his portrayal of Harvey Milk. We applauded, we cheered outright, we were on our feet. Commie homo lovers. That’s us!

But it got even better when Sean Penn defended gay rights as he accepted the Academy’s award, calling for “equal rights for everyone.”

If you missed his excellent speech, you can watch it here:

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