Archive for November, 2008

Finger Fucking

Wednesday, November 26th, 2008

The Crash Pad Series Volume 3Watching The Crash Pad Series Volume 3, this beautiful sex act is as relevant as ever. Not one scene goes by in the new Shine Louise Houston DVD without a good dose of the time-honored staple of dyke sex.

So on that note, we’re reposting this Sex Tips piece, which was originally published in the June 2006 newsletter.

Straight folks: If you haven’t tried it, don’t knock it.

Straight gals: Check out Bend Over Boyfriend for how to finger-fuck your boyfriend.

When we were younger, much younger, finger fucking could upon occasion produce major anxiety—were our nails clipped just so, no hangnails or raspy edges? Would she like it? Should we use a condom? Were there such things as “finger condoms”?

After exploring dozens if not hundreds of lesbian bodies, finger fucking seems as natural as kissing.

One of the best ways to get started is to go down on your girlfriend and lick her good. After she’s wet and open to you, gently ease your finger inside.

If you find you need some lube, the bottle should be next to the bed where you put it before you got all hot and horny with your girlfriend.

Full Load Butch-Butch Finger-FuckingSlowly explore the ridges—feel her G spot just inside and along the roof of her vagina? Don’t press it at this point, but if she’s bucking like a rodeo horse, go for it!

As she begins to respond to your finger inside her, you can quit with the cunnilingus—your neck is probably stiff by now anyway—and move up alongside her, and keep stroking her with one finger. You’ll find your rhythm.

Slide a second finger inside. She’ll let you know if she’s open to it. You can try a third finger too, but often, one or two fingers do the trick.

By now you may really need the lube, or not. If she’s wet enough, you may not.

(More sex tips about fisting.)

Many lesbians view finger fucking as a prelude to “real sex” with a strap-on dildo. But it can also be the finger-fucking that brings her right to her first orgasm.

If she likes to have multiple orgasms, then consider more stroking with your fingers or donning your strap-on.

We’re assuming here that you’re both lying down, but try sitting up behind her. You can play with her breasts and nipples, stroke the inside of her thighs and get off on feeling her leaning up against you.

Finger fucking her doggy-style—an act you probably like a lot—is another way to reach her G spot and let her spew.

Just remember: Don’t ram her too hard. Your fingers should be loosely curled around to her natural shape.

You can also ask her if she likes it. Be willing to ease up a little and look at her face, kiss her. Is she enjoying herself?

If you’re the one getting finger fucked, remember to talk to your partner and let her know what you like and what you don’t. You can just say, “That hurts” or “Too hard” or “Harder.”

You can also guide your partner’s hand toward or away from your vagina. Take her wrist and push or pull her where you want her.

You can also finger fuck each other at the same time, a delightful experience if you like mutual, concurrent sex.

What’s your advice? Post a comment here.

A Special Note – Fatale’s Gift to You

Monday, November 24th, 2008

If you’re like us, the holidays seem to creep up fast, and this year is no different. Except that this year we wanted to give you something special –

Free shipping on all orders in the U.S., and half-price shipping outside the U.S.

No minimum orders. No minimum amount. Whatever you want, you get it fast, and now through December 25, 2008, the shipping’s on us.

Free Shipping and Gift-Wrapping from FatalePlus, there’s free gift-wrapping—your choice, Christmas or non-Christmas wrapping paper—and free gift cards.

That’s right. Why should you worry about all the jaw-dropping extra “gift-wrap fees” and minimum orders and shipping costs when you’re simply trying to find the best gift for the right person?

Most important, it’s easy to find the right gift for your best friend or lover when you come to Fatale. (Scroll down and see our picks for your shy friend, your out-loud-and-fun best friend, your straight but curious uncle…)

At Fatale, you get not only fast, free shipping, gift-wrapping and gift cards, but you get personalized, discreet service.

Have a question? Let us know. We’ll answer you right away. You won’t waste a minute wondering if or when your gift shipped, and to the right person.

The Crash PadWant to know which Crash Pad DVD you should buy? Or if the Special Delivery DVD will play in France? (It will.) Or if your package will be discreetly shipped? (It will.)

Check out the new Favorite Lesbian DVDs page, too. It’s jam-packed with reviews and good gift suggestions.

Make the holidays easy for yourself. Here’s the new holiday shipping schedule.

It’s easy to change your order, too, if you change your mind. Just shoot us an e-mail or call us at 888-5-FATALE (888-532-8253) or +1-415-454-3291. We’ll respond within 24 hours, and usually right away. Your time, after all, is valuable.

We have a lot to be thankful for this year, not least of all you. On Thanksgiving we’ll be raising a toast to those people, like you, who take joy in their sexuality. Know that we always do our best to help you find what makes you happy, keeps your sex life hopping.

Happy Thanksgiving! We’ll be back again on December 1st.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

P.S. You can pay securely at Fatale by credit card or with PayPal. And remember, you get free shipping through Christmas. See all Fatale’s DVDs.

P.P.S. Your 100% satisfaction is guaranteed. You may return or exchange any DVD that doesn’t suit your fancy. We want you to be happy!

Bestselling Gift DVDs

Monday, November 24th, 2008

More than a few people have asked what Fatale’s bestselling gifts are, so we thought we’d give you the top-five rundown. Thanks to Nan for tallying the numbers, making this list and checking it twice.

Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set1. Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set
The #1 instructional video on how to pleasure your guy from behind, matched with BOB 2, “more rockin’, less talkin’.”

Perfect for adventurous couples, a curious uncle or your swingin’ BFF.


The Crash Pad Series Volume 22. The Crash Pad Series Volume 2
The popular sequel to The Crash Pad and The Crash Pad Series Volume 1 is beautifully filmed and pussy-licking good.

Five scenes for every flavor you can imagine.


One Night Stand3. One Night Stand
New from Fatale, hot dyke porn from Paris.

Just the gift for the gal who’s got it all and seen it all. Wait till she sees the steamy lesbian sex that happens downstairs in this Paris nightclub! Oh, mama! 


How to Female Ejaculate: Find Your G-Spot4. How to Female Ejaculate: Find Your G-Spot
Female ejaculation expert Deborah Sundahl shows you how to find your G spot in this educational DVD. Perfect for couples and solo friends who have always wondered what that gushing is, and how truly wonderful it can be.


Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels DVD5. Hard Love and How to F*ck in High Heels (double DVD)
From Shar and Jackie of S.I.R. Video, this DVD is packed with handsome butch dykes and sultry high femmes.

A great gift to get your lover in the mood for a night of pure passion.


Coming Home DVDWondering what to get for your shy friend? Try Coming Home.

Big curvy dykes, tender loving sex, four scenes you won’t easily forget.

Want to see more? Check out all Fatale’s specially priced gift sets.

Until next time, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi

What’s the Matter with California?

Monday, November 17th, 2008

We were elated only a month ago when Connecticut became the third state to legalize gay marriage. Now four short weeks later, it’s the second state.

California voters vanquished the right to gay marriage in passing Proposition 8, overturning the state’s Supreme Court ruling in favor of gay marriage.

To Connecticut’s credit, voters there declined to pass a call for a constitutional convention in order to overturn gay marriage.

The Los Angeles Times asked last Tuesday in “Prop 8’s Battle Lessons” where the organized gay groups were before Election Day. Valid question.

Proposition 8 Protests in California
Barbara Davidson/Los Angeles Times

The streets are overflowing with protestors in Los Angeles, San Francisco and other towns and cities across California. People are angry. And what of the 18,000 gay and lesbian couples who have married in the months since the state’s Supreme Court ruling?

Equally disturbing were the anti-gay-marriage measures passed in Arizona and Florida. Florida went so far as to ban civil unions. Tough luck, Floridians, if you thought a civil union would give you the same legal rights as married people. The Florida measure flies in the face of religious arguments. This is pure homophobia.

In Arkansas, what the New York Times “a disturbing measure” was passed by 57% of the state’s voters. No kids for you, queers!

Dan Savage’s “Anti-Gay, Anti-Family” is worth reading.

Our favorite commentary, “Gay Marriage is a Question of Love,” comes from Keith Olbermann, in which he says, “This is about the human heart, and if that sounds corny, so be it.”

Watch Keith’s valuable commentary here on MSNBC.

Gavin Newsom is no Harvey Milk. We need a new Harvey Milk, one of our own, on the issue of gay marriage. Are you out there?

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

Fatale on Facebook!

Monday, November 17th, 2008

Fatale on Facebook!

Fatale is now on Facebook! 

Many thanks to our good friend Holly for helping Fatale get set up in Facebook.

Come be a fan of Fatale Media’s Facebook page.

Become a fan, write on the wall, start a discussion. Tell us what you’re thinking about.

Gifts, Gifts, Gifts!

Monday, November 17th, 2008

“The Crash Pad Gift Set” is a new gift set from Fatale. You can save 10% and get free shipping when you order “The Crash Pad Gift Set.”

Coming Home DVD, Where the Heart Is Gift SetWhere the Heart Is, Butch/Femme Rules and many more offer free shipping and lesbian hot romance! Your satisfaction guaranteed.

You can check out all Fatale’s DVDs here.

Until next time, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi


Wednesday, November 5th, 2008

President-Elect Barack Obama

It’s a beautiful day. There’s a giddiness in the air. It’s as if we, as a country, are heaving a tremendous sigh of relief. We went to bed last night knowing we have our country back, knowing democracy is here again.

We don’t often talk politics, but this is a great day for all lesbians, queers, gays, trans, bi and open-minded straight folks. At last we are part of the conversation once again. At last we are permitted to sit at the table.

Last night, as we watched the electoral votes roll in for Obama, first we were laughing and high-fiving, then laughing some more, and suddenly we were crying. We knew this was history being made, right before our eyes.

Thank you to all who worked on Barack Obama’s presidential campaign. Thank you for the inspiration, and for spreading the inspiration and hope into every town and city in America. Thank you all our friends outside the U.S. who have supported us here in the States.

Deborah Sundahl shared this letter from Terje in Norway, owner of Cupido:

What a night! We didn’t go to bed before we got Barack’s speech 6.30 Norwegian time this morning. We spent the night with good friends, a delicious duck, good wines, fine champagne, CNN and the U.S. electoral map.

Greet all Americans from us and thank them for taking responsibility and spreading inspiration and hope.