In the last poll, we asked: What are your favorite positions for sex?
Wow! Nearly 200 responses this time…and the winner is? Check out the #1 favorite position here:
http://www.fatalemedia.com/polls/past_polls.html
This month we ask: Do you swallow?
Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.
And we’ll give you the results next month.
Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex,
Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com
Courtney Trouble is a new voice on the scene of queer porn and erotic exploration. Two new DVDs show her imagination and sensibility, and are now available at Fatale!
Roulette is a good starting point to Courtney’s humor and vision. The first scene in particular is lovely, a tender lesbian scene between real-life lovers. We liked the all-dyke gangbang, too, with a moll and a barroom full of gangsters. And don’t miss the lace-clad stripper who douses herself with nice cold milk straight from the fridge.
If you like Full Load: Scenes from ssspread, you’ll like Courtney Trouble. And if you like The Crash Pad and its subsequent series, you’ll especially like Roulette.
Nostalgia, also directed by Courtney Trouble, takes a different direction than Roulette. Here we have queer porn parody—for sure chockablock with butches, femmes and all manner of dykes, but with a tongue-in-cheek nod to the early days of porn. One disturbing scene in here is redeemed in the end with a sexy fourway romp between two big girls and their girlfriends.
If you buy both Roulette and Nostalgia, you get 15% off.
Two especially good things? In Nostalgia, you’ll see Carol Queen in the first scene—love that vibrator! Also, a short by Emilie Jouvet is a welcome surprise tucked between two other scenes in Roulette.
Courtney Trouble is highly recommended. Enjoy.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
Masturbating with your partner is a tried-and-true “sex tip” said to get you in the mood for penetration. But we think solo sex can be fun when one partner merely watches. Something interesting happens. The sexual energy changes; the dynamics between the two of you change.
Masturbating while your lover watches can be scary at first. You’re completely vulnerable. Whether you’re in a hot tub with your pussy up against the streaming jets of water or whether you’re lying in bed with the vibrator turned on high, you have to force yourself into your body, purely into your own space, allowing yourself to really feel what you feel. To let your clit take over.
But once you let go, the trust seems to deepen…and okay, we’ll admit it, the desire for more–including penetration–often takes over.
What’s the best way to begin? Talking to your lover is always good advice, but having a vibrator at the ready also helps.
Try pulling it out and smiling suggestively. Let the little thing buzz. If you’ve got music or a video on, the buzzing won’t make it seem like you’ve taken up beekeeping.
If your partner wants to participate, just say, “I’ll be all yours in a moment, honey. I just want to try something different.”
Watching is a great turn-on. You can talk dirty, or caress your lover’s face or breasts without distracting her.
There’s some fabulous porn that can inspire a solo scene with your partner too. Suburban Dykes has a wonderful side-by-side masturbation scene with Nina Hartley and Pepper together on a phone sex line. Whoa, mama!
We’re also partial to the Mystery Masturbator in Take Her Down!–explicit and actually a good how-to for those of you who feel squeamish or unsure how to actually get things going down there.
If you’re into anal, we recommend Greta’s vignette in Clips with an anal self-loving scene that will open you up for sure!
Our friend Cory Silverberg has compiled some straightforward how-to advice at About.com. And don’t forget our good friend Betty Dodson, the queen of masturbation and author of the classic Sex For One.
One last word of advice, let yourself go. Don’t stop till you’ve come at least once!
Want more lovers’ masturbation tips? Check out “Masturbation for Lovers.”
Note: “Sex for One for Two” originally appeared in a slightly different form in the January 2004 Fatale Media newsletter.
Deb Sundahl Comes to Visit
Friday, September 11th, 2009Deborah is also the female ejaculation expert who writes the “Ask Fanny Fatale” Q&A column for this blog.
Nan and Deb sat out in the garden for while, then came back for a dinner of baked pasta and mozzarella before Deb headed off to her lecture on female ejaculation at the local sex shop.
This weekend, Deborah is off to Austin, Texas, for more female ejaculation workshops, then she plans to return for another few days’ visit come Monday. We’re happy to have her here!
If you have a question for Ask Fanny about the G-spot or female ejaculation, send it to askfanny at fatalemedia.com and put “Ask Fanny question” in the subject line.
To see the latest Deborah Sundahl’s latest DVD about female ejaculation, check out Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.
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