Archive for February, 2009

In the Mood * Paying for Sex?

Saturday, February 28th, 2009

In the last poll, we asked: What gets you in the mood to have sex?

Oh, dare we say it? Porn wins! Yes!

But if you’re curious what came in last place and everywhere in between, check our the poll results here.

This month we ask: Have you ever paid for sex?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex,

Nan and Christi

Rachel and Other Cuties

Tuesday, February 17th, 2009
The Gorgeous Rachel Maddow

The Gorgeous Rachel Maddow

Is MSNBC’s Rachel Maddow just too cute? We think so. Our friend Holly, a Rachel adorer, sent us along this Rachel Maddow interview from the U.K.

Snip: “Rachel Maddow – in her own words a mannish lesbian policy wonk who doesn’t own a television set – is not your average anchorwoman in America, or indeed on this side of the Atlantic.”

Snip 2: “The irony is, perhaps, that part of her success is exactly because she doesn’t look like all the other cookie-cutter women on television.”

Snip 3: “I’m a big lesbian who looks like a man. I’m not Anchor Babe and I’m never going to be.” – Rachel from two years ago.

We say: Call a butch a butch, Rachel. And we love you!

We think Dylan in the Crash Pad Series Volume 3 looks a little like Rachel Maddow…even though Dylan is a femme.

On Rachel, wishful thinking! But oh, what a self-diddling scene. One of our favorites.

Till next time,

Nan & Christi

Ask Fanny: Obsessed with the Idea of Female Squirting

Tuesday, February 17th, 2009

Deborah Sundahl - Female Ejaculation ExpertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Fanny,
I am asking for your advice on where we go from here. My girlfriend and I have been obsessed with the idea of female squirting. We have watched the DVD Liquid Love and have purchased other information talking about the art of the female orgasm. We have since purchased your DVD How to Female Ejaculate with the hope that it will provide additional insight.

Everything that we have read all indicates that every woman can achieve this type of orgasm. First, is that true or not? Second, if everyone can achieve this sensation, then why don’t more people talk about it?

My girlfriend has a friend who can do this and at first she was ashamed. She thought that there was something abnormal about her and felt uncomfortable addressing the issue until we talked to her about it. She now talks to us openly about it and in a way we have made her feel better about herself and more comfortable with it when it does happen.

We, however, are still chasing a beat that we can’t catch. What can we do?

We live in North Carolina and are wondering if you knew anyone in or close to this area who can coach us through it, through counseling or any other form of instructional therapy.

We have a wonderful relationship and a great sex life, and we know this is not a deal breaker. Everything that we have read, however, indicates that this is the complete orgasm for a woman. Being her lover, and the joy that she brings me, I want to do whatever I can do. Believe me, I am not complaining but female ejaculation has to be the icon of taking it to the next level. Any advice or help you can offer would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.


Alan from North Carolina

Dear Alan,
All women can ejaculate, because all women have the anatomy to do so; that is, the female prostate, which is what the G-spot is. Most people still don’t know about female ejaculation because the culture has been certain that it does not exist, or has mistaken it for urine.

We have been told by the medical profession that the female prostate, the G-spot, is vestigial, dried up and nonfunctioning. Well, it is alive and fully functioning and overflowing with that lovely feminine fountain that is female ejaculation!

Correct information goes a long way in getting this charming delight working again. I am an expert on the subject and make it very accessible for women and their partners to understand and to achieve. My book and videos will help you a lot toward that goal.

There are no teachers that I would recommend in your area. Sex education and places to hold such informational workshops are still only available primarily in the Northeast and on the West Coast. I am holding a workshop for couples in Santa Fe, New Mexico, over Labor Day Weekend, September 5-7, 2009. Find out more here.

And I am available by telephone for coaching. Usually, great progress can be made with one phone call.

This unique and special joy awaits you, don’t despair. But pressure to perform will shut it down, so please enjoy your relationship and what you do have.





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Find out more about Deborah Sundahl’s How to Female Ejaculate.

Valentine’s Day * In the Mood?

Saturday, February 14th, 2009

In our last poll, we asked: What are your plans for Valentine’s Day this year?

Not too many people decided to answer this poll. And by far doing nothing ruled.

You can see all the results here.

Now we ask: What gets you in the mood to have sex?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex,

Nan and Christi

Valentine’s Day Gift Recommendations

Sunday, February 1st, 2009

Last week a friend called and said, “I can’t believe Valentine’s Day is almost here!” She wanted recommendations for a good gift for her sweetie.

That got us thinking, and we thought we’d offer some of our Valentine’s Day gift recommendations.

valentine-mini-hearts-2For you and him:

Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set
– the classic for adventurous couples
Female Ejaculation for Couples – find that g-spot!
Female Ejaculation: The Workshop – all women. The latest from Deborah Sundahl.

valentine-mini-hearts-2For you and her:

Champion – Love Hurts
– new from Shine Louise Houston
One Night Stand – hot dyke porn from Paris
Coming Home – voted best lesbian porn from

See all our Favorite Lesbian DVDs here.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Nan & Christi

P.S. We added a new shipping option for you—First Class Mail, a real deal for shipping within the U.S. Plus you get free shipping when you buy three DVDs or more.

P.P.S. You can pay securely at Fatale by credit card or PayPal. And remember, you get free gift-wrapping and free gift cards, perfect for Valentine’s Day. See all Fatale’s DVDs.

10 Tips for a Romantic Valentine’s Day

Sunday, February 1st, 2009

Valentine’s Day on a Saturday is magic. Use your imagination to celebrate and give her pure pleasure.

Here are 10 tips you can use to make this Valentine’s Day a super-special weekend for the two of you. Plan ahead. Mix and match as you see fit:

valentines-day-chocolates1. Make it a traditional holiday. Buy her a box of chocolates—we’re fond of Jacques Torres’ Chocolate—a single red rose and a bottle of wine. Stay home, eat chocolate and make love.

2. Take it up a notch. Send her a dozen not-red roses. Make them yellow or white or pink or deep burgundy. Have them delivered in the morning so she can enjoy them all day long.

3. Invite her for dinner and make sure you’ve got a reservation. Dress up. Order the chocolate dessert and feed it to her.

4. Forget dinner and take her to brunch instead. Follow that with a trip to a spa for a side-by-side massage or hot tub.

5. For a simple yet romantic day, pack a picnic lunch and drive to the ocean or mountains or river or lake…wherever you can park and get a scenic view. Afterwards, go back to her place for the rest of the day.

6. Sweep her off her feet for a weekend getaway. Pack your toy bag. Leave Friday night so you can wake up in your hotel room on Valentine’s Day morning. Fuck like bunnies all weekend long.

7. Dress up and take her dancing. Take her to the kind of club she likes—whether it’s ballroom or downtown go-go or uptown hip-hop—and make it a night she’ll remember.

8. Find a hotel or bar with a fireplace. Take her there for late afternoon tea or cocktails. Better yet, order hot cocoa with marshmallows and get cozy.

9. If you’re feeling adventurous, invite a close friend to take pictures or shoot video of you and your sweetie… Your friend can watch or join in.

One Night Stand10. Our favorite: Stay home, drink Champagne and watch dirty movies. This year we’ll be watching One Night Stand. This flick is so good we can watch over and over and over again. Then we’ll dress up and go out to a romantic local restaurant and bar. Not exactly Paris, but inspiring nonetheless.

So now you know what we’ll be doing on Valentine’s Day. What do you plan for your sweetie? Tell us here.

Fatale in the News

Sunday, February 1st, 2009

CurveHot femmes and andro girls all get it on in this movie with strap-ons, fisting, black gloves and more. This the new wave of LGBT porn.”

–“Sexy Queer Flicks,” Curve Magazine review of One Night Stand

Check out more reviews and interviews at Fatale in the News.

What Women Want

Sunday, February 1st, 2009

theothersideofdesirebergner1We were curious to see Charles McGrath’s review of Daniel Bergner’s new book, The Other Side of Desire (Ecco, $24.99). Subtitled Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing, the book is about “people most of us would call perverts or weirdos.”

Ah! Pervs and weirdos. That’s us.

So imagine our surprise to see the next day, a week ago, the cover story of the New York Times Magazine: “What Is Female Desire?” by the very same Daniel Bergner.

Our first thought: Nobody asked us!

But after reading this fascinating article about women sexologists exploring the inner reaches of female sexuality, we were sold that they’re doing good work.

But we know there are lots and lots of women who know exactly what they want. Is this still an issue? Apparently so.

Here’s the letter Nan sent to the New York Times:

To the Editor:
As someone who has catered to women’s tastes for sexually explicit material for 25 years, I read with interest Daniel Bergner’s article “What Is Female Desire?” and applaud the work of Meredith Chivers and the other sexologists. Although I am not a scientist, I nonetheless have observed over these past 25 years that women will seek out and spend money on sexually explicit material that they know turns them on. In other words, there are plenty of women who know exactly what they want.


Nan Kinney
Fatale Media, Inc.

Tell us what you think women want!