Archive for May, 2010

Good-bye Don’t Ask Don’t Tell

Friday, May 28th, 2010

The first step in repealing the 1993 Clinton presidency compromise on gays in the military, “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell,” is at last on its way out.

Yesterday the U.S. House of Representatives voted 234 to 194 to allow the repeal of the law, which bans out gays and lesbians in the military.

Officially:  House Vote 317 – Allows Repeal of Ban on Gays in Military (New York Times article today).

Grethe CammermeyerChristi had the pleasure of sitting at Grethe Cammermeyer’s table at President Bill Clinton’s 1992 inauguration. For Christi, it was Grethe Cammermeyer who brought to light the serious issues of gays in the military and what that really means on a day-to-day basis.

It was a sad day when the “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” compromise was forced in to law. But since then, Americans’ perceptions of gays and lesbians seem to have changed for the better. We’re not the same pariahs we were then.

To that we salute the House members who voted to repeal this act.

Public Masturbation * Fantasy

Thursday, May 27th, 2010

The May 2010 poll was a two-parter, and there are a lot of comments in there.

We asked: How often do you masturbate?

Not quite 200 replies this time, but a respectable number. You can see the results of part one of the poll here:

And the bonus question posed this gem: What is the most public place you’ve masturbated?

Here are the public masturbation comments, a varied lot, and if you forgot to add your two cents, you can still add to the conversation:

This month we’re curious about what role fantasy plays in your life. So we ask:

What role does fantasy play in your life?

Vote now! The poll question is on Fatale’s home page.

And because we like to hear what you think, we’ve added yet another bonus question this time, which appears after you vote on the first question.

Bonus question: What’s the best fantasy you ever had that came true?

Stay tuned. We’ll give you the results in July.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi

P.S. See all Fatale’s DVDs.

Takin’ it to the streets—sex and the public sphere

Friday, May 14th, 2010

The street, the beach, the backseats of cars… On commuter trains, at your desk, in the office elevator… On pool tables, in bars, in public restrooms…

These are just a few public masturbation dens. Yummy!

Masturbating in a carHere are some of our favorite reader comments so far:

“I like to do it in my car while I am driving. One time I orgasmed as I was transitioning from the 15 freeway to the 805 in very heavy traffic. Now that I am a little older and live in a rural community, I like to take my convertible out for a drive in the summer evenings while naked. Could someone please spank me?”

“Bathroom at boot camp.”

“I did it in the forest while searching for mushrooms in France. I went off the track behind bushes and sat down. I had great orgasm and squirt.”

You can submit your own comment here at the blog.

What about toys? Vibrators? Almost no one has mentioned using toys or vibrators, although a couple comments specifically mention the squeezing together of legs or using a water jet to get off.

Tell us! We want to know. What’s the most public place you’ve masturbated?

We think voyeurism counts too, especially Christi, having lived in New York City for so many years. When does your apartment become a public space? What about a beach house? Same issue?

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

Talk to Me BabyP.S. Need some inspiration? Put on Talk to Me Baby: A Lover’s Guide to Dirty Talk and Role Play, and just revel in the sound of Shar Rednour’s voice. Oh, sweet honey.

P.P.S. You can see all Fatale’s DVDs here.

Favorite Lesbian DVDs

Friday, May 14th, 2010

Best Lesbian Porn DVD Coming HomeDid you know there’s a whole page dedicated to lesbian DVDs at Fatale? We wanted to offer some kudos to the “Best Lesbian DVDs,” so designated by

Check out these “Favorite Lesbian Porn DVDs” page here:

But just so you know, the top-selling lesbian DVD at Fatale for 2010 is Emilie Jouvet’s lesbian porn DVD  One Night Stand.

Slutgrrls wrote: “The porn for you if you like your lesbians real, your fucking diverse, your pussies wet and your tranny boys hung.”

Check out One Night Stand.

Invitation to Like Fatale Media on Facebook

Thursday, May 13th, 2010

Fatale on FacebookThis is a special invitation, because we know we have lots of people who like us in real life, and we want to continue our effort to crank up the number of people who like us on Facebook.

Want to like us? Click on our Facebook link:

Here’s a huge thank-you for liking Fatale!

How Often and Where in Public?

Thursday, May 13th, 2010

This month’s official poll question is a two-parter.

Part 1: How often do you masturbate?

Bonus question: What is the most public place you’ve masturbated?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results in a couple weeks.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi

P.S. See all Fatale’s DVDs.

P.P.S. Join us! Like Fatale on Facebook!

Masturbation Moment

Saturday, May 1st, 2010

Spring has sprung, and it seems that the sweetness in the air is translating to a renewed sexual desire to experiment, to play, to surrender to the senses.

May used to be devoted to masturbation, but we haven’t seen a whole lot going on nationally this year. Still, we were curious to see a question put out there on another Web site about the “most public places” you’ve masturbated. So that’s the basis for our main poll question this month: How often do you masturbate?

(You can vote on Fatale’s home page.)

After you vote, you get a bonus question: What is the most public place you’ve ever masturbated? Tell us! You can be as anonymous as you want to. Simply put only your first name or a pseudonym in the “Name” section of the Comments when they come up. Your e-mail and Web address (if you have one) will not be published.

Don’t be shy! Vote now.

We’ll see you in a couple weeks. For now, we’re headed off for a sexy weekend away to celebrate Nan’s birthday. Whether or not you’re in the mood for a weekend away, we hope you have some sexy fun alone or with your partner(s)!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

P.S. One of our favorite masturbation solo acts in a lesbian video is in The Crash Pad Series Volume 3. Dylan, having watched from inside a curtained closet the steamy sex scene between two lovers, throws herself on the bed after they leave. It is still, in our opinion, the best scene in the movie.

Top 5 Bestsellers for Spring 2010

Saturday, May 1st, 2010

Here are the top 5 bestselling DVDs from Fatale for the first four months of 2010 – get ’em while they’re hot!

Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set1. Bend Over Boyfriend

– “Many straight guys love anal penetration because it allows them to relax and receive passive pleasure.” – Playboy.


2. Bend Over Boyfriend 2

– “It’s rare that an ‘educational’ movie is able to straddle the line between information and hot sex, but BOB 2 does it.” –



 3. One Night Stand

– “The porn for you if you like your lesbians real, your fucking diverse, your pussies wet and your tranny boys hung.” – Slutgrrls



Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels4. Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels

– “Dyke drama at its finest, Hard Love is the story of two former girlfriends who can’t resist a last roll in the hay….The plot’s climax between the exes—[Jackie] Strano and newcomer C.C. Bell—is genuine, explosive, and one of the best lesbian sex scenes ever made.” – Tristan Taormino, Village Voice



Coming Home by Carolyn Caizzi5. Coming Home

– “The first of this series of vignettes features a big, curvy butch-femme couple: the deliciously hot women we never get to see in mainstream porn…” –, “Best Lesbian Porn”



See all Fatale’s sexy DVDs.

Ask Fanny: Exercising Your G-Spot

Saturday, May 1st, 2010

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Deborah,
Is it true that a woman’s G-spot is like a muscle and that if you don’t exercise it then you can’t ejaculate?

Caroline, New York

Dear Caroline,
In general, yes to your question. Use it or lose it, as they say. 

But as I have been saying for many years now, the G-spot is not a muscle or a wildly erotic spot on the vagina. The G-spot is the female prostate, which we feel through the roof of the vagina, and all women of course have a prostate just like all men do!

“Not using it” is a female ejaculation slumber that most women are now waking up from, thank goodness!  All women can ejaculate, by the way, if they want to. Please don’t pressure yourself to ejaculate if you don’t want to.  And also apply the no-pressure rule if you are learning. Relax and enjoy the process.

Good luck!


Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.