Archive for December, 2007

The Art of Giving

Saturday, December 1st, 2007

Sex is about giving. Whether it’s a one-night stand you just met at the bar or coffeehouse or your lover of dozens of years, if you don’t give, and learn to give, there’s no spice. Gratification comes in many forms.

Nan and Deborah founded On Our Backs in 1984 with the idea that the lesbian community had no porn for itself. In 1985 they spun off Fatale, then called Fatale Videos, now morphed into Fatale Media. You know this. But the original impulse was to give images of ourselves to the lesbian community.

(To read Cory Silverberg’s recent interview with Nan about Fatale, check out

When the inimitable Shar Rednour came to Nan and said, “We’ve got to make this video…I want to call it Bend Over Boyfriend,” Nan said, “Absolutely!” Why shouldn’t the straight community have alternative images of themselves and what they really do in bed?

Each year at this time, we decide where to make a donation to organizations that make a difference in the world. This year, we’ll give donations to three, but one in particular we wanted to tell you about.

The Free Speech Coalition was founded in 1991 as the U.S. government tried harder and harder to shut down the adult industry. The Free Speech Coalition has been an industry godsend for Fatale, watching and monitoring the U.S. government regarding any attempts to close down purveyors of adult material; lobbying the U.S. government; fostering public communication and education; and when the need arises, going to court.

It wouldn’t be wrong to say that without the Free Speech Coalition, we wouldn’t be able to keep making porn and giving real images to the community—images of who we are and what we really do in bed. So for that, we are grateful.

Oh, and not to get too heavy here, we’ve also got a long list of goodies just for friends and family. Top of the list? Christi’s sister and her girlfriend are getting Shine Louise Houston’s The Crash Pad.

Tell us what you’re giving this year. You can comment here.

Happy Holidays!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

Sex Tips & Tricks: What to Put in Your Mouth

Saturday, December 1st, 2007

Giving good tongue is fun, but it’s even more fun when you’ve got something in your mouth while you’re going down on her.

Caution first: no hot spices or ground chili pepper of any kind, nothing too hot, nothing sharp, nothing small enough that you might accidentally choke on.

Fun things to put in your mouth:

Ice cubes are one of our favorites. You get the cool, slippery, crackly sensation of the ice cube in your mouth, and she gets the utterly clit-blasting experience of hot and cold at the same time. Keep the ice in your mouth and try licking the rest of her, too! (more…)

Give the Gift of Porn

Saturday, December 1st, 2007

Fatale offers lots of creative solutions to your gift-giving needs.

• Free shipping in the U.S. when you buy any three items

• Free gift-wrapping

• Free gift cards

Mix and match for all your friends!

Click here to see all Fatale’s DVDs and videos

Q&A: Ask Fanny – FE and Cycles

Saturday, December 1st, 2007

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

Since I turned 30 I’ve ejaculated a lot–maybe my previous girlfriends didn’t quite know how to reach my G-Spot–but sometimes it just doesn’t happen even when I masturbate. Is it possible female ejaculation is related to my cycle? When I can’t ejaculate it’s usually around my period.

Thank you for your good work!

A fan

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Dear Fan,

Female ejaculation doesn’t always happen for various reasons. A menstrual cycle could be one reason, but usually female ejaculation is mostly plentiful around the time of a woman’s period. It could be you unconsciously hold back during your period due to too much fluid being released from your body.

Another is the physical position women are lying in. Notice what position you are in when you do and don’t ejaculate. Another reason could be the sex toy or fingers… notice if you ejaculate when they are out of your vagina and if you don’t ejaculate when they are in your vagina.

Female ejaculate flows most easily when there is no expectation.

Rarely does any woman ejaculate all the time. I suggest letting go of having to ejaculate. We don’t want to put any kind of performance pressure on something that is inherently—at its source—an expression of love and joy. Better to spend the time self-pleasuring as a chance to love yourself, and let nature take its course.


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Spanking * Holiday Toys?

Saturday, December 1st, 2007

You may have noticed that you can now comment on any story in the newsletter. You should still feel free to e-mail us, but we encourage you to share your stories and experiences with others at the blog.

In last month’s poll, we asked: Do you like spanking during sex?

We got totally called out on this one and added an option, because some of you—a lot of you—like spanking and getting spanked.

See all the results here.

This month we ask: What do you most want to get for the holidays this year?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi