By Fanny Fatale

Summertime fun means getting wet all over, so let’s get down to it, girls!

Here is the best position for female ejaculation in a large bathtub, hot tub, swimming pool or your local wilderness river (wee hours of the morn’, of course).

This idea arose from the French actresses in my new video, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop

We rented an old, restored hotel room in Paris that used to be a brothel, and the large, sumptuous tub spurred many a creative idea!

The lesbian scene stars French adult idol Lydia St. Martin and up-and-coming, HOT French lesbian adult actress Wendi Delorme. The scene they did in the bathtub for the camera (and our benefit) turned out to be optimum for both partner and student when learning how to female ejaculate.

The fun, however, isn’t just for newbies…

Sit up on the rim of a large bathtub while your partner is sitting in the bathtub in the water. Alternatives to a large bathtub are: edge of pool or hot tub, dock at the lake, kayak on land, incline of a riverbank. The elevated position of the woman about to ejaculate is ideal for the partner who is sitting - usually in various levels of water - because she can see her finger(s) rub the body of the g-spot.

But that’s only half of it. Your partner will actually be able to see the head of your g-spot being pushed out of the vagina when her queen on a special seat ejaculates! Why? Think eye level.

In addition, this is the best position to receive an “arc” of ejaculate right in the face and chest! A delightful reward for your partner’s patience and efforts to assist the fountainous favors to flow!

For those of you who follow my column “Ask Fanny,” we know that one of the biggest obstacles for women to ejaculate freely is not letting go, sometimes due to the fear of urinating.

Moving to a water source minimizes concerns that the woman trying to ejaculate might have about peeing. (This may not work for an urban setting, but if you are doing it near dawn on an urban curb, you probably are not the type who has to learn how to let go!)
 
But for the rest of you more reserved women who are first learning to ejaculate (and even for the diehard veterans) a good reminder is this: Recite your mantra: Prepare to Pee.

This motto works to remove the deeply embedded fear of peeing to help you learn to let go! To repeat: when a women’s G-spot is stimulated, it swells with prostatic fluid (female ejaculate). At that point, it is as difficult for a woman to pee as it is for a man when he is swollen and sexually excited. What is not difficult at that point for either a woman or a man is to ejaculate!

No watering hole? Go outside in the backyard and sit on a chair. Make sure it is a chair that won’t flop over backward when you are in the throws of orgasm, okay? That said, give your partner an eyeful while you sit on the edge of the chair and she sits on a picnic blanket on the ground. Hot afterwards? Drown yourself in a bucket of water à la Jennifer Beals in Flashdance.

To see Wendi and Lydia’s bathtub scene and female ejaculation, check out Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

Want to see even more positions for fabulous female ejaculations? Check out my straight DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples. You’ll see lots and lots of good positions!

We were heartened to read an article the other day in the Washington Post, “Seniors Having More Sex Than Ever” by Alan Mozes.

The senior set—those men and women in their late sixties, seventies and beyond—have increased not only the frequency of sex, but also the quality of their couplings, according to a Swedish study. This study has been ongoing for 30 years, so there’s a strong basis for comparison.

“Women seemed to make the most headway in terms of increasing their sexual satisfaction,” according to the article. While the study doesn’t go into the whys of this newfound satisfaction, we can take a stab at why women are more satisfied.

For one thing, much more information is out there about female ejaculation and the role of the G-spot in spurring women’s satisfaction. Educators like Deborah Sundahl have been teaching women old and young how to find their g-spots.

Couples, we’ve found, are more adventurous, too. Bend Over Boyfriend, now celebrating its 10th anniversary, has worked for tens of thousands of couples who want to spice up their sex lives.

Gone are the days when men had no options for increasing their virility, and gone are the days when widows and married women just didn’t feel like it. We say kudos to those sexy seniors!

Now, if only next time they’d talk to senior lesbians and gay men. We bet there’d be some real “senior moments” from the queer set!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Dear Fanny
My wife has been just learning [to female ejaculate] and can’t fully get it to spray yet, but she does have it come out, but not a lot yet. It’s all new to us so far.

Signed,

Tony in New York

Dear Tony in New York,
Congratulations! Your wife is ejaculating!  I’d love to hear from her how that feels, but I can guess it feels tremendous.

Not all women spray out, or even want to spray out if they can. Most women just “gush” and this “gushing” amount is sometimes overlooked as excessive vaginal lubrication. For sure, it is still ejaculation, because the amount of ejaculate has nothing to do with the act of ejaculating.

So therefore, your wife is definitely ejaculating. The quantity of ejaculate can increase over time - a few years - as a woman learns to feel comfortable with ejaculating, and also integrates ejaculating into her normal lovemaking routine. So, perhaps over time you MAY find this lovely spray upon your arms and chest - smile - but for now, celebration is in order!

I say MAY because not all women will arc out, and remember, many women cannot arc out or even ejaculate if there is something in their vagina at the moment of ejaculation, so let your penis, fingers or toy come out of her vagina when she starts to push out the ejaculate.

Good luck!

Deborah, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale
P.S. See Deborah’s latest DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

This month, she’ll be in Europe, so we thought we’d share her schedule with you. If you’re in the neighborhood, stop by and hear Deborah speak about female ejaculation and the G-spot. She also does private counseling with women and couples.

May 4, 2008
7:00-11:00 pm
“Tantra and Female Ejaculation”
Lecture Open to the Public
(In English with German translation)
Toulouse Center
Hamburg, Germany
Pre-registration required.
Sponsor: No Guru
For more information, e-mail: info@no-guru.net

May 6, 2008
7:30-9:00 pm
“Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot”
Lecture Open to the Public
(In English with German translation)
Pro-familia
Hannover, Germany
Pre-registration required.
Sponsor: Liebhabereien
For more information telephone: (0)511 473 9974
Or e-mail info@liebhabereien.com

May 9-13, 2008
“Wild, Wet and Overflowing”
Female Ejaculation Workshop for Women
with Devaka Hoffmann and Deborah Sundahl
Freiburg, Germany
(In German with English translation)
Pre-registration required.
350 Euros plus food and lodging.

Information in English: Visit here.
Information in German: Visit here.
For more information, contact Devaka at (0)761-13 79 79 66
Or e-mail devaka@sinnliche-wege.de

May 30, 2008
Female Ejaculation for Women: “Masters’ Class”
London, England
(In English, German translation available.)
Pre-registration required.
Sponsor: Nikki Anderson
For more information, contact (0)2074 01 9880
Or e-mail: nixi71@yahoo.co.uk

PRIVATE COACHING SESSIONS
Book a private session with Deborah in these cities and dates:

GERMANY
Berlin - May 1-4
Hamburg - May 4-6
Hannover - May 6-7
Freiburg - May 7-9 and May 13-16

ENGLAND
May 27 - June 2

DENMARK, FRANCE AND SCOTLAND
May 17 - May 26

To schedule a session and for rates, contact Deborah: deborah@isismedia.org

Deborah will return in the next issue of the newsletter for Ask Fanny Q & A. Please write “Ask Fanny Question” in the subject line. Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Fanny,
Hello, I am a squirter and was wondering, how do I increase the projection of the squirt in distance and the liquid amount of my squirts? Is there something I can do to facilitate this amazing womanly feat? I do okay now…but I want to become a super squirter and squirt even farther. What are some tricks of the trade when it comes to squirting? Please do tell…I want to know…

Dawn, via e-mail

Dear Dawn,
You increase the projection of the ejaculate arch by lying on your stomach and by having nothing in your vagina that might obstruct the flow. The stronger your PC muscles, the farther you can shoot.

The amount of ejaculation usually increases over time, as women become used to ejaculating. Letting go completely will increase the amount of ejaculate, as will continuous stimulation. However, the latter’s amount is only increased over the course of a lovemaking session, not in one single ejaculate. There is also more ejaculate after ovulation and up to menstruation.

Are your aspirations professional? “Super squirter” and “tricks of the trade” make me think you wish to appear in porn films. If that is the case, most profuse ejaculators are pretty much born that way, just like popular male porn stars are born with large members. You can attempt the suggestions above, and see what happens.

But overall, each woman’s capacity and preference for ejaculating with exuberance and skill varies, quite naturally, among individuals.

Good luck!

Fanny

Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop .

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

You mentioned the “Crystal Wand” in your book. I’m looking to purchase one, but I’m having a hard time finding any advice on how to use it. Can you tell me the proper technique?

Thanks,
Bryan in Michigan

PS: Thanks to your book, I’ve helped my last 2 girlfriends ejaculate!!!

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Dear Bryan,

Well, congratulations on helping women to ejaculate!

Because the Crystal Wand is lucite, please make sure it is always moist. It dries out quickly and when it’s dry, it hurts.

The best description of how to use the magic wand is in my video Tantric Journey. You can see quite clearly how Corrynna uses it to ejaculate.

But in general, use one curled end to slip behind the “tail” of the G-spot -the “back end” of the female prostate organ. Use the tip to push (prod and poke) toward the vaginal roof where the tail ends. Explore the “crevice” where tail ends and vaginal roof begins. The tip works nicely to find that one spot that is still sensitive in most women who are just learning to awaken their G-spots. Since it is a hard tool, don’t poke too hard.

If she doesn’t feel anything, she is numb there and needs to reawaken her sensations, which takes lots of time–sometimes years.

You use the 2-3 inches or so from the tip, to gently pull forward on the tail of the G-spot.

As with all toys and bodies, everyone is different. Not all women will feel the same. Different women have different desires and what they like done. And as with all techniques, best to get the general idea and then let the moment lead you.

Hope this helps!

Fanny

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

I’m curious to attend a workshop on female ejaculation, but what is it like? I’m wondering if it’s uncomfortable to be in a group and try to find your G-spot. Do I have to take off my clothes?

Signed,

Not Really Sure

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Dear Not Really Sure,

There are four reasons why some people have reservations about attending a workshop:

These are pretty scary reasons to not go to a workshop. But this is what really takes place at a workshop:

Rather than a workshop being a place to get hit on without consent, it is just the opposite. Privacy is paramount and respect for individual boundaries Rule Number One. You wear a sarong and all women have their private space within the group space; this boundary is first and foremost respected. Rule Number Two is that women do only what they feel comfortable doing.

For example, you wear a sarong, the room is kept comfortably warm and you can bring your own toys or not. The goal is to experience and learn in a congenial, safe atmosphere.

With the rules in place, most women feel extremely comfortable after a few hours and get swept up in the excitement of discovery with women who, just like them, are nervous and excited.

Fanny

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop, to see a workshop in action.

You know Deborah Sundahl from her monthly Q&A column, “Ask Fanny,” in these newsletters and blog postings at Fatale. She’s as committed as anyone we know to helping women (and their partners) understand female ejaculation, what it is and how every woman can ejaculate.

Deborah travels the world giving workshops with real-life women and couples. She works one-on-one in private workshops. She’s written a book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot and three very successful DVDs, including her bestselling How to Female Ejaculate, still one of the most important educational titles on the subject.

Now she’s got a new one out that’ll knock your socks off. Filmed in France with utterly gorgeous women—the women in Paris are just gorgeous, let’s face it—Deborah directed this new DVD and also ran the workshop.

Don’t worry. It’s in English. No subtitles.

Check it out: Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

We’ve been very lucky to have known Deborah since her days at On Our Backs and to have had her as a friend and confidante ever since. She’s educated us and cheered us on with everything female ejaculation and the G-spot. We hope you take the time to get to know her better too.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

Got the dvd on the gspot, but I’m confused…You say many women can’t ejaculate with something inside them… How do you play with it for them to ejaculate if that is the case? Please explain in simple man’s terms.

JB, via e-mail

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Dear JB,

Most women, but not all, find it difficult or impossible to ejaculate with something inside their vagina - at the moment of ejaculation. Some women ejaculate with a gush, but it is of course impossible to arc the ejaculate out of the body when close contact such as intercourse is occurring.

Therefore, you play with it - that is, stimulate the G-spot - before she ejaculates. Using toys, fingers, penis, you have ample time to play with the G-spot before the moment of ejaculation.

When you feel her G-spot engorge and swell, then withdraw your penis (or toy or fingers) and allow the ejaculate to flow.

Hope that was simple enough. Good luck.

Fanny

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

This issue, Deborah is on vacation, so we thought we’d dig into the archives and recap Deborah’s most popular “Ask Fanny” columns:

Is Female Ejaculate Pee?

FE Must-Read Secrets

Fake Squirting

Is Bleeding Normal?

What is Tantric Sex?

Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s How to Female Ejaculate DVD for more information this important subject for all women.