Archive for August, 2012

Renegrade Raging Grannies Update

Friday, August 31st, 2012

Our friend Geri from Real Lesbian Porn wrote to tell us that the Raging Grannies YouTube video had been taken down. It’s still there, just in a different place, with a different link.

Watch the Raging Grannies Take On Todd Akin.

Renegade Raging Grannies


Friday, August 31st, 2012

We don’t watch a lot of politics in general, although we do like knowing the news. And yes, we read newspapers too.

The Presidential election season is upon us here in the U.S., and we’ve been rather dumbfounded by some of the ideas floating about that call into question some basic tenets of women’s health. Birth control, or contraception, is one of them. Representative Todd Akin’s notion of “legitimate rape”—versus some other kind of rape? VP hopeful Paul Ryan’s idea that rape is a “method of conception.”

Sometimes the news is too much. A good chuckle is all we need. A Fatale reader and fan sent along this video of “Renegade Raging Grannies.”

Renegade Raging Grannies


Renegade Raging Grannies Take On Todd Akin





The ending is the best part. Watch here on YouTube.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

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Fatale Media Top 5 Bestsellers

Friday, August 31st, 2012

For the summer of 2012, here are the top 5 bestsellers:

Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set1. Bend Over Boyfriend

– “Part sex education, part erotic show and tell” (




2. One Night Stand

– “Downright delicious….and definitely a must for the collection of any queer porn connoisseur.” (SexGeek)



3. The Crash Pad Series Volume 6

– “Great spankings, some excellent fucking, and the sweetest ending I’ve seen in kinky porn.” (PurrVersatility)




Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels4. Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels

– “Loads of lesbian lust” (Curve)




5. The Crash Pad Series Volume 1

– Wall-to-wall lesbian. (Fatale review)





Runner up was The Crash Pad, the lesbian phenomenon by Shine Louise Houston that started it all!


New Poll: Are You Following?

Friday, August 31st, 2012

Last month, we wondered if you believe the G-spot is real. This on the heels of a great Q&A from Ask Fanny’s Deborah Sundahl, “G-Spot Ecstasy.”

Check out the G-spot poll results.

Now we want to know:

Are you following the women’s health issues in this year’s U.S. Presidential campaign?

Yes or No? Vote Now.

The poll is on Fatale’s home page and 100% anonymous

Till next time, we wish you fabulous sex. May all your dreams come true.

Nan and Christi

Fatale Media

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Cosmo Style

Saturday, August 18th, 2012

Helen Gurley Brown 1964We were saddened to hear of the passing of Helen Gurley Brown this past week. While not exactly in line with Feminist Beliefs back in the 1970s, she believed in sex. Because of her belief that women could be homemakers or in the workforce and still sexy, we owe her a nod of gratitude.

She pioneered putting sexy women on the pages of Cosmopolitan. It hadn’t been done before.

It wasn’t really until On Our Backs and Fatale Video (now Fatale Media, as you know) came into being that we dykes were able to openly proclaim our sexuality.

It’s hard to imagine now, but 30 years ago there were Take Back the Night Marches in New York and elsewhere, protesting violence against women and protesting porn. The Sex Wars were in full swing.

Forgive us for taking some liberties with history here, but feminists and sex had an uneasy relationship for a while, despite what we were actually doing in bed.

Where did Helen Gurley Brown fit in to all this? Cosmopolitan was a sexist rag, some thought. But then we caught up to Cosmo in a way that we didn’t expect.

Cosmopolitan was one of the first mainstream magazines to jump on Bend Over Boyfriend and take up the issue of “role-reversal fantasy.”

Straight gals had Cosmo. Thanks to Helen Gurley Brown’s passion for sex, straight women didn’t have to be ashamed of sex.

Being out there and sexy was one thing we shared with Helen Gurley Brown. RIP.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

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Tribute to David Rakoff

Friday, August 17th, 2012

We mourn the passing of David Rakoff, storyteller extraordinaire, humorist and chronicler of gay life. He was 47 years old and had long battled cancer, specifically Hodgkin’s lymphoma. In 2011 he won the Thurber Prize for American Humor for his book Half Empty.

The New York Times’ obituary noted his style as “amiable dyspepsia with an almost palpable undercurrent of melancholy.”

We listened to David Rakoff’s stories on This American Life, hosted by Ira Glass and a show where we have long heard and begun to appreciate new voices in storytelling and humor.

Our Friend David,” the current edition of This American Life,  is dedicated to David Rakoff’s life and stories. We urge you to listen—on the radio, as we do, or online.

Poll Reminder: G-Spot?

Saturday, August 11th, 2012

Poll reminder: Is the G-spot real?

Female Ejaculation for CouplesG-spot orgasms? Really? Vote now!

The poll is on Fatale’s home page and is completely anonymous.

Stay tuned. We’ll give you the results in a couple weeks.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi

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Lazy Summer

Wednesday, August 1st, 2012

Up a lazy river…that’s where we wish we were this hot August. But we’re settling for some air conditioning and baseball games and watching the Olympics.

Oh, those cute little hotties with their gymnastics feats. It’s great! We loved London’s welcome to the world in the opening ceremonies too.

How about those female weight-lifters? Yikes! This is what comes on the telly late at night. The oddball sports, we call them. Canoe slalom, dressage. We’ll probably watch some of that, the mincing horses—utterly enjoyable.

Tell us what you’re up to this summer!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

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Ask Fanny: G-Spot Ecstasy

Wednesday, August 1st, 2012

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Hello, Deborah
I’ve purchased both your book and video in my desperate quest to join the female ejaculation phenomenon. Years ago, when I was younger, I ejaculated and like everyone for the first time, I had no idea what it was.  Fast forward 16 years later, now at 38, I’ve been trying for a few years–little squirts but a strong smell of urine, even after using the toilet.

After reading the book Deborah Sundahl G-Spot ExpertI continued to be confused and unsuccessful. After purchasing the video, last week, I did it–and it was a big gush. It was everything I’ve read–no smell, different taste and no trace of it once it dried. I was so proud.

I went back at it the next day–nothing! Now every day since then, still nothing. I’m getting the “pee” feelings, feeling orgasmic, relaxed and ready, so I push…little trickles that ultimately smell like urine.

Help!! What am I doing wrong?


Looking for G-Spot Ecstasy

Dear Looking,
Thanks for writing to me. First off, congratulations! You ejaculated! Go out and celebrate the reclaiming of your womanhood at age 38, after stopping it all these years because you didn’t know what female ejaculation was! For that is what women do–we unconsciously just stop doing it, because it could be pee or worse. Who knows! We just don’t think about it. I am glad you are proud!

So, that being the case–years of controlling and holding back ejaculate–do you think it is just going to magically spout forth because now we want it to? No! Our bodies are not machines, and most certainly our G-spots are not. Rather, the G-spot is the gateway to higher love and intimacy.

The other problem is feeling “desperate “ Desperation causes pressure. In my book I write that pressure will make you not ejaculate. We don’t want desperate.

Time for a big, deep breath. Relax. Breathe. Treat your G-spot and vagina like tender gold, okay?  Sweet and soft, loving. Slow down. You would not believe how many women I have to advise to slow down!

I would say the urine you initially smelled was because you were perhaps pushing too hard? Without knowing the details, I would say that watching the video–which one was it? I’m assuming it was How to Female Ejaculate: The Workshop–unconsciously helped you to let go.

Letting go is of course the biggest obstacle for women in learning to ejaculate, especially because of the fear of urinating.

You also cannot expect to ejaculate the same “big” way the next day! Your body needs a rest, especially if you are just learning. As men know, if they masturbate too much, they will blow out their prostate glands (that “dull ache deep inside” that men can get is from too much ejaculation).

Therefore, yes, you were getting the pee feelings, and feeling orgasmic, of course, because you are arousing yourself, but then you can’t go any further. I’d say this is because of a combination of 1) it being too soon since you last ejaculated fully, 2) also you’re still new at it and 3) you’re probably trying again too hard and/or too soon to push.

You have to make sure that you take time to build up the arousal, and the best way to do that is to enjoy yourself without wanting to do it too fast. Relax! Take your time. Enjoy the process. Breathe deeply to work up such a big orgasm. This can be a months-long learning process.

In a way, what you described about the “little trickles” could be the perfect description of “clearing out the pipes”!

Big hug for your really great work so far! Next step: celebrate yourself. Second step: slow down, breathe and relax. Please keep in touch, and let me know how it is going.

Let It Flow,


P.S. Do you have a question about female ejaculation and the G-spot. for “Ask Fanny,” a.k.a. Deborah Sundahl? Write to askfanny (at) Your letter will be kept in strictest confidence, reprinted here only with your prior approval.