Posts Tagged ‘G-spot orgasms’

Step by Step to Ecstasy

Friday, September 18th, 2015

Deborah Sundahl is the female ejaculation expert who guides women and their partners to discovering the joy of G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation.

Female Ejaculation for Couples DVD









Female Ejaculation for Couples is a bestseller at Fatale and a good exploration by three couples who want to experience this amazing feat.

Female Ejaculation the Workshop









If you’re curious about female ejaculation and G-spot orgasms, check out How to Female Ejaculate: The Workshop, too, a women-only workshop that takes you step by step to ecstasy!

Deborah writes the occasional column “Ask Fanny: About Female Ejaculation” for Fatale’s blog. You can find all her columns here in the Ask Fanny category.

Stay tuned! We’ll have more about female ejaculation next time.

Ask Fanny: Is She Ready to Have a Squirting Orgasm?

Friday, February 27th, 2015

Deborah Sundahl G-spot expertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.
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My wife and I are trying to explore female ejaculation. I can find her G spot, make her cum and become pretty wet. Sometimes create a wet spot on our bed. How can I take her to the next level where the gush becomes more and she can squirt?

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Dear Steve,
Is your wife ready to have a squirting G spot orgasm?

Many women cannot ejaculate profusely, i.e., arc outwards, spray all over, with something in her vagina. That means toys, fingers, penis—all have to come out of the vagina in order for many women to have that lovely fountainous explosion.

Also, if a woman’s vaginal muscles are weak or tense, it will be harder, if not impossible, to ejaculate. She needs to do her Kegel exercises. For a great device to use in strengthening these muscles, try the Kegelmaster. The Kegelmaster site has great information about vaginal muscles and exercises.

There is also a chapter on PC muscle strength and flexibility in my book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. The second revised edition is now available.

Lastly, I cannot emphasize enough that a woman has to want to go to the next level. She needs to take this into her own hands. Often, a woman’s partner wants her to do things she is not ready for, or not interested in.

Pressure and over-eagerness by a male or female partner will backfire, causing a woman who is not ready to gush or have a squirting G spot orgasm to shut down rather than open up.

Better to tell her your desires. Find out if she wants to learn to do that for you, and then give her time and space to get to it on her own. It takes time for a woman to realize that spraying so much or squirting is okay, and time for her to realize that gushing is natural and to adjust.

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This article is drawn from the archives of Fatale Media.

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P.S. Check out Deborah Sundahl’s Female Ejaculation for Couples DVD for video demonstrations of how to female ejaculate and achieve gushing, squirting G spot orgasms.

Ask Fanny: How to Discover Your G-Spot

Friday, July 18th, 2014

Deborah SundahlG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the G-spot.

Dear Deborah,

I’d like to learn more about female ejaculation, but I’m not sure how to start. Should I try to find my own G-spot first, before talking to my partner?

Baffled in Baton Rouge

Dear Baffled,

The best way to begin to discover your own G-spot is to treat this important excursion as a relaxing hour of self-care.

CleopatreAs we all know by now, that means: uninterrupted quiet time where you have treated yourself to a long bath, candles, music and other things you truly like and want to partake in that you know relax you.

Then, use lubricant (olive oil works just fine if you don’t have anything else; if Cleopatra used it, you can, too!).

Before proceeding any further, do 12 rounds (in and out) of slow, deep breathing, filling your lungs completely and exhaling completely.

Next, place your finger at the entrance to your vagina and keep it there with very gentle insistence, waiting until your vagina practically scoops your finger inside. Continue to relax and breathe deeply. Don’t push yourself in and don’t push yourself deep. Stay just inside the opening an inch or two, that’s all.

Turn the pad of your finger toward the roof of your vagina. Breathe and relax. Then, millimeter by millimeter, explore all the crevices and folds, caves and ridges of your G-spot. Yes, that’s it.  Right there!

But if you don’t approach it in this relaxed and loving manner, you can breeze right by it. Not because it is small, but because we are too busy, in this culture, looking for the Big Prize. It is indeed a Big Prize, but it is wrapped in delicate paper at first, and sometimes we can think we don’t feel anything, or that it hurts, or that it should send us off the planet in instant exquisite pleasure.

Remember, breathe and relax and notice what you feel.

Once you have explored your G-spot once or twice, invite your partner to explore with you. In this way, you will have a new sexual frontier to explore together.

If you’d like more information, the revised, second edition of my book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, is now out and available for sale at Fatale Media. I hope you like it.

Best wishes,

Deborah Sundahl

P.S. Here are Deborah’s upcoming workshops and webinars about female ejaculation and the G-spot:

• “Talk for Men: Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot” is a 2-hour evening webinar that runs the first Tuesday of each month. The next “Talk for Men” is Tuesday, August 5, 2014 at 9:00 p.m. EDT. Click here for more information.

• Deborah’s next live “Weekend Workshop for Women” will be held in Muenster, Germany, October 10 – 12 , 2014.

“The workshop was a precious experience of deep intimacy with myself. Beside meeting beautiful and curious women (and having a lot of fun), the group’s experience allowed me to let go, in a trusting atmosphere, supported by the other women’s experiences and energy.” – Maeva, Grenoble, France

Click here to learn more and read other testimonials.

• Want to learn what happens in an in-person female ejaculation workshop? Read “Workshop Etiquette” by Deborah Sundahl.


Ask Fanny: Workshop Etiquette

Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

Deborah Sundahl G-spot ExpertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Deborah,

I’m curious to attend a workshop on female ejaculation, but what is it like? I’m wondering if it’s uncomfortable to be in a group and try to find your G-spot. Do I have to take off my clothes?

Signed, Not Really Sure

Dear Not Really Sure,

There are four reasons why some people have reservations about attending a workshop:

  • You may be too shy to be in a group and discuss your private sexuality
  • Perhaps you can’t imagine trying to look at your private parts with other people around 
  • You’re afraid other women are going to touch you, or solicit you in a situation where you already feel vulnerable and are more likely to succumb to peer pressure, or group ostracism 
  • You worry you might be made to do something you don’t want to do.

These are pretty scary reasons to not go to a workshop. But this is what really takes place at a workshop:

  • You get to hear the stories of other women, often finding inspiration or validation for your own situation 
  • You get a chance to see other women’s pubic areas, and often their G- spots, and this education goes a very long way in understanding your own body. (No one will touch you; only you touch yourself.) 
  • You get a chance to be in a room with women who all have the same goal: discovery of and improving upon their sexual knowledge and fulfillment.

Rather than a workshop being a place to get hit on without consent, it is just the opposite. Privacy is paramount and respect for individual boundaries Rule Number One. You wear a sarong and all women have their private space within the group space; this boundary is first and foremost respected.

Rule Number Two is that women do only what they feel comfortable doing.

For example, you wear a sarong, the room is kept comfortably warm and you can bring your own toys or not. The goal is to experience and learn in a congenial, safe atmosphere.

With the rules in place, most women feel extremely comfortable after a few hours and get swept up in the excitement of discovery with women who, just like them, are nervous and excited.

Deborah Sundahl

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Be sure to check out Deborah’s DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop, to see a workshop in action.

Originally published as “Ask Fanny: What Happens at a Workshop?” this encore column addresses what to expect from a female ejaculation and G-spot workshop. Check out all of Deborah’s forthcoming webinars and workshops.


Ask Fanny: Keys to Female Ejaculation

Saturday, December 1st, 2012

Deborah Sundahl Female Ejaculation ExpertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Deborah,

I’ve identified some things that help me ejaculate: being relaxed; massage on the whole body; lots of stimulation and preliminaries before masturbation starts; pressure on my pelvis; performing oral sex on my partner while she masturbates me. Are they all “procedures” you would recommend? Any others to add?


Jane C.

Dear Jane,

This is good that you know your body and what it likes!! Most women ejaculate when they are relaxed and feeling happy with themselves and their partner. Often, a woman going through a divorce or difficult time with her partner will stop ejaculating. This is because female ejaculation is tied to our emotions; the G-spot is emotional by nature! Good news for women who can now express themselves fully during lovemaking and through their G-spot orgasms.

Therefore, how you touch a woman or how you touch yourself is not a procedure; rather it is a time of self-loving and expressing love to your partner. The more you connect on this level, and let your body talk and lead by getting your thoughts out of the way, the more pleasure you have and the more you ejaculate. Then, you will be shocked at the large quantity that you can ejaculate, and the fun you both can have, and the dance that occurs without effort, seemingly on its own.


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P.S. Check out Adventurous Couples Unite!, the perfect gift for those who want to explore female ejaculation.

P.P.S. Ask Fanny’s advice columns, including “G-Spot Ecstasy,” sex tips and more, are located here at the Fatale blog in the category “Ask Fanny.”

Poll Reminder: G-Spot?

Saturday, August 11th, 2012

Poll reminder: Is the G-spot real?

Female Ejaculation for CouplesG-spot orgasms? Really? Vote now!

The poll is on Fatale’s home page and is completely anonymous.

Stay tuned. We’ll give you the results in a couple weeks.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi

P.S. Check out Female Ejaculation for Couples and these Fatale Media lesbian favorites. Plus, save 15% and more on Fatale gift sets.

Satisfaction…Getting No?

Friday, May 4th, 2012

Wendy Delorme Sexual Satisfaction and Female EjaculationThe issue of women’s satisfaction in bed has been of more than passing interest to us since the beginning. After all, that’s how Fatale Media came of age.

Our friend Deborah Sundahl, known also as “Ask Fanny,” is our very own female-ejaculation expert who knows a thing or two about women’s satisfaction in bed. After all, she teaches women and couples how to expand their relationships and how to achieve sexual satisfaction they couldn’t have dreamed of before.

Curious, we asked Deborah what questions she gets most often about sex. In response, she sent us a new “Ask Fanny” column.

  • What is “the urge to female ejaculate”?
  • Why can’t a woman have G-spot orgasms each time she and her partner make love?

These are the questions Deborah addresses in her Q&A “The Urge to Female Ejaculate,” and in her female-ejaculation workshops.

Yours in good love and sex,

Christi and Nan

P.S. Deborah’s next female ejaculation for couples workshop is to be held in Seattle, June 1-3, 2012. You can also experience one of Deborah’s workshops in Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

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