Being in Control * Strap-on Turn-on?

February 29th, 2008

You can comment on any story in the newsletter. You should still feel free to e-mail us, but we encourage you to share your stories and experiences with others at the blog.

In last month’s poll, we asked: Do you like to be in control during sex?

We left out an option–for switches! And here’s a good comment from a reader that addresses this issue:

“I identify as a switch, so I like both to top and bottom. However, as I don’t often find anyone who can successfully top me, I usually end up topping by default. My last partner was a switch with the same problem. We had the most wonderful & amazing sexual chemistry together, though, and managed to top and bottom with each other in very hot, sweet and sexy scenes.”

See all the results here.

This month we ask: This month we ask: Do strap-ons turn you on?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com

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Valentine’s Day Greetings

February 14th, 2008

Not everyone loves Valentine’s Day, but for us romantics, it’s a perfect excuse to give flowers and chocolate, heart-shaped cookies decorated in red and white frosting and, of course, to exchange Valentine’s cards.

When we were kids, everyone in school made Valentine’s Day cards for their classmates. We suspect they still do, but everything changes once you’re really in love. Valentine’s Day becomes a midwinter break, and in fact the holiday was fused from the celebration of spring in Italy. (We read the whole history here at The History Channel.)

After intending to stay home and cook up a romantic dinner, we’ve now got new plans! Instead, we’ll be making our own whoopee at our favorite hotel on Valentine’s night. Surprise, surprise! This was Nan’s idea, and terribly romantic! An intimate dinner with just the two of us, some serious butch/femme flirtation, and a sexy DVD up in the room…

We’re still going to be watching Sugar High Glitter City, but we’ll also bring along Shine Louise Houston’s DVD, The Crash Pad Series Volume 1.

They’re both sexy as all get-out, and inspiring. We can’t wait.

What are you doing this Valentine’s Day? You can tell us here.

Happy Valentine’s Day!
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

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Your Letters

February 14th, 2008

Dear Nan and Christi,

I am curious about what happened to On Our Backs Magazine. Is it still available? I haven’t been able to order it on their site or find it anywhere else. Thanks!

BTW, Fatale Media is wonderful 🙂

Thanks for doing what you do.

Sarah
Grand Rapids, Michigan

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Dear Sarah,

You’re not alone in missing On Our Backs magazine, “Entertainment for the Adventurous Lesbian.” Founded in 1984 by Nan and Deborah Sundahl, On Our Backs broke all the rules—real lesbian porn for real lesbians. Fatale got started not long after that, in 1985, and was intimately tied to On Our Backs until 1994, when the magazine was sold.

Susie Bright, On Our Backs’ most visible editor (she was editor from 1984-1991), has written a fabulous tribute to the magazine, with lots of pictures from the original issues. Read it here: http://susiebright.blogs.com/History_of_OOB.pdf

When it was last publishing magazines, H.A.F. Publishing owned both On Our Backs and Girlfriends, which H.A.F. sold to a place called Underground Networks in San Francisco. Nothing has changed on the site since 2006, when the sale completed. There have been no updates.

We wrote and called Alice Hill, founder of Underground Networks and RealTechNews. It so happens she’s also a fellow alumna of Christi’s from Sarah Lawrence College. We want to know the status and plans for continuing On Our Backs. We haven’t heard back from her yet, but stay tuned.

We also put in an e-mail to Heather Findlay at H.A.F. Publishing, to see if she still has back issues of On Our Backs for sale. If she does, we’ll let you know.

Want to see what those “adventurous lesbians” were doing when they weren’t posing for On Our Backs? Check out Pepper and Reeva in Hungry Hearts and Pepper, Nina Harley and Miss Sharon Mitchell in Suburban Dykes, still Fatale bestsellers. And romantic too!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan and Christi
Fatale Media

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Romance Counts

February 1st, 2008

Valentine’s Day arrives in less than two weeks—picture Eros with his arrow of love getting ready to zoom into your life for a day. Are you ready?

Romance counts. It makes the hard times softer, easier to get through. In any relationship, ours included, wooing keeps love alive. The thrill of the chase may be just beginning or already over, but the extra courtesies and kind gestures that fuel romance also fuel abiding love for each other. Valentine’s Day is a day to remember and honor romance.

So if you haven’t already, now’s the time to plan a wonderful, romantic Valentine’s celebration. Perhaps it’s flowers and chocolate and an evening out on the town. Perhaps it’s a long weekend at a romantic getaway.

And if for some reason you have to be alone, treat yourself to an evening you’ll remember. Do something different. Try something you’ve never done before. Do something you’ve promised yourself you would.

We’re going to be staying home on Valentine’s Day. We’ll cook a special dinner—perhaps lamb chops with a salad of red lettuce and a lemony vinaigrette. There’s a chocolate ganache cake we both love. Decorated with raspberries, it’ll be the perfect accompaniment to watching Sugar High Glitter City, our favorite sexy movie to watch when romance comes knocking on Valentine’s Day.

What’s your Valentine’s Day romance quotient? You can comment here.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com

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Sex Tips & Tricks: Lingerie, Part 2

February 1st, 2008

Judging from the January 2008 poll, there’s an even division between those who wear lingerie “all the time” and those who never wear it.

A lot of guys don’t like to wear lingerie, although New York’s former mayor Rudy Giuliani posed like a diva in lingerie. And regardless, lingerie is usually a hit when guys squeeze themselves into a little corset, fishnet stockings and garter belt.

For sex, lingerie can add a dollop of romance and make what might otherwise be ordinary sex extraordinary. Even keeping on a lacey black brassiere during sex gives an exquisite tactile sensation for both you and your partner. Read the rest of this entry »

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Valentine’s Day Shipping Schedule

February 1st, 2008

Be sure you get your Valentine’s Day gifts on time! Order within the U.S. by Monday, February 11, 2008, and you’ll get it via regular Priority Mail in time to surprise your sweetie.

See the whole shipping schedule here.

For Valentine’s Day, check out these two new DVDs available at Fatale now:

Female Ejaculation: The Workshop by Deborah Sundahl

The Crash Pad Series Volume 1 – lesbian action that’s steamy hot!

See all Fatale’s specially priced gift packages perfect for Valentine’s Day here.

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Lingerie * Being in Control

February 1st, 2008

You can comment on any story in the newsletter. You should still feel free to e-mail us, but we encourage you to share your stories and experiences with others at the blog.

In last month’s poll, we asked: When do you wear sexy lingerie?

If you’re one of those who “never” wear it, try it sometime! It also makes a good soft “teddy bear” to snuggle at night.

See all the results here.

This month we ask: Do you like to be in control during sex?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com

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In Memoriam – Ingrid Wilhite

January 18th, 2008

Ingrid Wilhite died in San Francisco on Tuesday, January 15th, of brain cancer. She will be buried near her family in Boise, Idaho. A memorial service is planned in the Bay Area.

If you don’t know Ingrid’s name, you probably heard of Fun with a Sausage or L’Engenue, both porn videos some of the first ones distributed by Fatale. They played at the film festivals back in the early 1980s right as the lesbian sex wars were heating up. 

“People loved them,” Nan says. “Lesbians were taking themselves so seriously in those days, it was grim. Then along came Ingrid and she made them laugh at themselves. Her sense of humor was a delight.”

We mourn the passing of a witty, intelligent woman who wasn’t afraid to break the rules and jump-start the lesbian porn revolution.

That revolution has led to the success of Fatale Media, S.I.R. Video, Blank Tapes, Pink & White Productions and many, many more women who take the camera—and their sexuality—into their own hands.

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Focus on the G-Spot

January 16th, 2008

You know Deborah Sundahl from her monthly Q&A column, “Ask Fanny,” in these newsletters and blog postings at Fatale. She’s as committed as anyone we know to helping women (and their partners) understand female ejaculation, what it is and how every woman can ejaculate.

Deborah travels the world giving workshops with real-life women and couples. She works one-on-one in private workshops. She’s written a book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot and three very successful DVDs, including her bestselling How to Female Ejaculate, still one of the most important educational titles on the subject.

Now she’s got a new one out that’ll knock your socks off. Filmed in France with utterly gorgeous women—the women in Paris are just gorgeous, let’s face it—Deborah directed this new DVD and also ran the workshop.

Don’t worry. It’s in English. No subtitles.

Check it out: Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

We’ve been very lucky to have known Deborah since her days at On Our Backs and to have had her as a friend and confidante ever since. She’s educated us and cheered us on with everything female ejaculation and the G-spot. We hope you take the time to get to know her better too.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com

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Q&A: Ask Fanny – Man’s Terms

January 16th, 2008

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

Got the dvd on the gspot, but I’m confused…You say many women can’t ejaculate with something inside them… How do you play with it for them to ejaculate if that is the case? Please explain in simple man’s terms.

JB, via e-mail

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Dear JB,

Most women, but not all, find it difficult or impossible to ejaculate with something inside their vagina – at the moment of ejaculation. Some women ejaculate with a gush, but it is of course impossible to arc the ejaculate out of the body when close contact such as intercourse is occurring.

Therefore, you play with it – that is, stimulate the G-spot – before she ejaculates. Using toys, fingers, penis, you have ample time to play with the G-spot before the moment of ejaculation.

When you feel her G-spot engorge and swell, then withdraw your penis (or toy or fingers) and allow the ejaculate to flow.

Hope that was simple enough. Good luck.

Fanny

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

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