Speaking of masturbation, some couples forget that this can be one sexy turn-on, especially if one of you has her period or wants to try something different. So we’re bringing back a very popular sex tips column.
Masturbating side-by-side with your lover can be one of the sexiest entrees to lovemaking or a just a great way to relax and enjoy each other without the pressure to perform.
You can masturbate while your partner watches, or watch as your lover masturbates. Or you can both just lie there and enjoy listening as her breathing quickens.
Some couples like to get in the mood by watching a sexy DVD. Other couples talk dirty to each other.
Use your vibrator or your hand. You can also lie on your belly and ride a pillow, which works great especially if your vibrator is plugged in and humming.
Rules or no rules? Some couples like to have set guidelines. Do you have to ask permission? Do you like being touched while you’re masturbating? If you’re not sure, just roll with it.
If your lover touches you—perhaps stroking your breast or belly, perhaps putting her hand on top of yours while you masturbate—see how you feel. Is it a pleasant sensation? Distracting? Do you like it? Talk with your lover about the experience.
If you’re shy, the best way to try masturbating with your partner is to get under the covers, turn off the lights and close your eyes. Relax and let your fantasies take you where you will. Touch yourself and let yourself feel the sensations of skin and hair. Then gradually touch yourself between your legs and explore.
Masturbating together in the shower or bathtub can be a real turn-on, too. You’ll need some lube, no doubt, so make sure you’ve got some nearby.
If you’ve got a Jacuzzi, hot tub or sauna, position yourself over one of those jets of water and tease your lover by masturbating for her. She can choose to just watch or please herself over another water jet.
Most of all, have fun! If it’s not fun, then there’s no sense continuing. Instead, ask your lover for what you want. Talk to her. Find out what’s holding her back or why she doesn’t like to see you masturbate.
For a sexy side-by-side masturbation scene with Nina Hartley and Pepper (Miss Sharon Mitchell stars as well), check out Suburban Dykes, still one of Fatale’s faves and a classic.