Dear Fanny
My wife has been just learning [to female ejaculate] and can’t fully get it to spray yet, but she does have it come out, but not a lot yet. It’s all new to us so far.
Signed,
Tony in New York
Dear Tony in New York,
Congratulations! Your wife is ejaculating! I’d love to hear from her how that feels, but I can guess it feels tremendous.
Not all women spray out, or even want to spray out if they can. Most women just “gush” and this “gushing” amount is sometimes overlooked as excessive vaginal lubrication. For sure, it is still ejaculation, because the amount of ejaculate has nothing to do with the act of ejaculating.
So therefore, your wife is definitely ejaculating. The quantity of ejaculate can increase over time – a few years – as a woman learns to feel comfortable with ejaculating, and also integrates ejaculating into her normal lovemaking routine. So, perhaps over time you MAY find this lovely spray upon your arms and chest – smile – but for now, celebration is in order!
I say MAY because not all women will arc out, and remember, many women cannot arc out or even ejaculate if there is something in their vagina at the moment of ejaculation, so let your penis, fingers or toy come out of her vagina when she starts to push out the ejaculate.
Good luck!
Deborah, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale
P.S. See Deborah’s latest DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.
Spicy Couples
May 1st, 2008According to an article by Peter Bart in Variety and reported in the New York Times last Saturday, the porn industry, long considered recession-proof, “has suddenly gone flaccid.”
Bart cites this downturn as evidence of a really bad economic outlook in the U.S. and perhaps elsewhere.
But there’s a hidden nugget in Bart’s article that heartens us here at Fatale. Sexy movies made for couples, sometimes known as “couples-friendly” movies, are experiencing the least drop-off in sales and rentals.
That’s certainly our experience, and he notes that women comprise 50% of this market for “couples-friendly” movies.
Women are often ignored in this industry of ours. The trade magazines may give the occasional nod to independent women producers such as Annie Sprinkle and Shar Rednour.
More often we slide under the radar; couples and women find us when they’re looking to celebrate their sexuality.
Bend Over Boyfriend is by far Fatale’s number-one bestseller. It was made by and for women and couples.
Women don’t take any b.s. when it comes to sex movies. Faking it? No way. Girl-girl? Not for women who want to see real lesbians. Women’s sexuality means something.
We salute those women and spicy couples who refuse to denigrate themselves when it comes to buying sex movies that really show the depths and joy of our sexuality.
Fatale Media shows the real thing, the true celebration that we women deserve.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
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