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Sex Tips: Can Porn Help You Know If You’re a Lesbian?

Friday, November 16th, 2012

Are you gay?

This is a real question. Who wants to know? Parents, friends, sisters and brothers, aunts and uncles, cousins and all the rest of them. Believe it or not, knowing if you’re lesbian, gay or bisexual isn’t always obvious. Can porn help?

Queer Manor lesbian porn by Madison YoungThe benefits of watching porn, besides being a huge turn-on for many people, is that you can discern which sex acts are of interest, which sex acts you like, if you react strongly for or against certain images.

Will it help you know if you’re a lesbian? Or bisexual? Or something else?

Probably. If you like watching women have sex with each other, and you’re turned on, then there’s at least some lesbian twinges happening inside you.

Does it mean you’ll be a lesbian forever? Maybe. Maybe not. Like a lot of things, it depends on what you make of it.

Some women are only interested in women. Or they are sometimes, and sometimes with men, or multiple partners, or they’re equally turned on by men and women and others.

What about transgender impulses? There are whole cultures of transgender people who are not necessarily transsexual but who dress and behave in ways traditionally different than their given gender. In the Chicago Reader‘s blog The Straight Dope, Cecil Adams captures the essence of what psychiatry terms “gender identity disorder”: “you think you’re the wrong sex, and you’re not happy about it.”

On the other hand, “What’s So Bad About a Boy Who Wants to Wear a Dress?” the New York Times Magazine asked not long ago. Gender-fluid is the way they describe parenting boys who like girls’ stuff.

Queer pornographers such as Courtney Trouble and Madison Young prefer the word genderqueer. They’re breaking new ground in blurring the boundaries between straight and gay and queer and trans.