Posts Tagged ‘genderqueer’

Sex Tips: Can Porn Help You Know If You’re a Lesbian?

Friday, November 16th, 2012

Are you gay?

This is a real question. Who wants to know? Parents, friends, sisters and brothers, aunts and uncles, cousins and all the rest of them. Believe it or not, knowing if you’re lesbian, gay or bisexual isn’t always obvious. Can porn help?

Queer Manor lesbian porn by Madison YoungThe benefits of watching porn, besides being a huge turn-on for many people, is that you can discern which sex acts are of interest, which sex acts you like, if you react strongly for or against certain images.

Will it help you know if you’re a lesbian? Or bisexual? Or something else?

Probably. If you like watching women have sex with each other, and you’re turned on, then there’s at least some lesbian twinges happening inside you.

Does it mean you’ll be a lesbian forever? Maybe. Maybe not. Like a lot of things, it depends on what you make of it.

Some women are only interested in women. Or they are sometimes, and sometimes with men, or multiple partners, or they’re equally turned on by men and women and others.

What about transgender impulses? There are whole cultures of transgender people who are not necessarily transsexual but who dress and behave in ways traditionally different than their given gender. In the Chicago Reader‘s blog The Straight Dope, Cecil Adams captures the essence of what psychiatry terms “gender identity disorder”: “you think you’re the wrong sex, and you’re not happy about it.”

On the other hand, “What’s So Bad About a Boy Who Wants to Wear a Dress?” the New York Times Magazine asked not long ago. Gender-fluid is the way they describe parenting boys who like girls’ stuff.

Queer pornographers such as Courtney Trouble and Madison Young prefer the word genderqueer. They’re breaking new ground in blurring the boundaries between straight and gay and queer and trans.

Fatale Recommends: The Scavenger

Tuesday, November 30th, 2010

Katrina Fox is the amazing editor-in-chief of the online magazine The Scavenger. Each month, she cooks up a brew of articles—about sexual health, sexual life, social justice, the media, feminism and pop culture, “gender diversity” and much, much more. We admire Katrina’s tireless devotion to The Scavenger, a damned good monthly read.

Here are some offerings from the November issue, and just so you know, the monthly issues tend to arrive mid-month:

In defence of stripping and sex work,” an interview with Zahra Stardust by Katrina Fox

Addressing racism and classism in animal rights activism” by Stephanie Lai

Am I genderqueer?” by Tiara the Merchgirl

Snip from this last piece: “My question(s) stem from this: I don’t feel like I can neatly relate to masculinity or femininity (and also butch or femme) as contemporary Western culture, or even Malaysian/Bengali culture, defines them.”

Food for thought and worth reading.

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Full Load queer DVDSpeaking of which, one of the first genderqueer titles Fatale put out was Full Load: Scenes from

We called it an “FTM and lesbian sex video.” It is still one of the best for its explicit views of genderqueers, thanks to the superb camerawork of Barbara DeGenevieve.