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Ask Fanny: BBW

Friday, November 5th, 2010

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Fanny,
My [partner] is a bbw and she just started squirting but it just kind of runs out. What tips do you have to make her squirt longer and harder?


Dear Jason,
Your big beautiful woman ejaculates! Please give her my congratulations!

“Just kind of runs out”? Sir, if you please. Is there a more appreciative way to state this?

Most women do not arc out like a porn star; most women gush or flood, which is what your partner is doing. This is 100% normal.

Strong PC muscles help ejaculate shoot out, so Kegel exercises always help in that regard. This is not the goal, however, which is why I don’t only teach tips on how to “make her squirt longer and harder.”

Rather, the primary goal is expressing love and satisfaction with your big beautiful woman. Then she will ejaculate freely and there will be more of it.


P.S. To learn the basics of female ejaculation and the G-spot, and to watch four women female ejaculate (including arcing), see How to Female Ejaculate: Find Your G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale.

P.P.S. To watch Deborah guide three couples through the process of learning to female ejaculate, check out Female Ejaculation for Couples.

Happy Spring!

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

Happy Passover!

Happy Easter!

Happy Springtime!

No matter where you are in the world, no matter if you celebrate holidays or not, we hope you are happy and reveling in the change of season.

Interesting comment from Stacey on last month’s Fatale blog post “Let’s Pretend to Be Lesbians”:

“Not to mention, Jones New York is one of the worst ranked (at least by HRC) places for LGBT folks to work.”

In our opinion, any self-respecting LGBT would have fought tooth and nail against this dumb-ass image.

Okay, rant over.

We’re looking forward to having Deb Sundahl visit for Easter and a few days more, now that she’s back from her European workshops and lecture tour. We’ll get more Ask Fanny columns for sure!

If you have questions about female ejaculation, you can e-mail Please put “Ask Fanny question” in the subject line.

Happy Spring. Happy April.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

P.S. If you ordered a Fatale catalog to be mailed to you, hang in there. We’ve run out and are sending out photocopies, but we’re running late. So we appreciate your patience.

P.P.S. You now get super low-cost shipping and complimentary gift-wrapping and gift cards. We ship worldwide, and you can order securely online with your Visa, MasterCard, American Express or PayPal. See all Fatale’s DVDs.

Ask Fanny – Odorless and Colorless?

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

Deborah SundahlG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Fanny,
I think I have experienced a clear and odorless ejaculation before, but more noticeable are the ones where I feel they have an odor (only because of how my partner smells afterward). I think when it happens, I feel no control because of the intensity. I’m not sure if I’m pushing too hard when it happens. Like I said, I don’t think I have control when it happens. But I have “pushed” quite hard before and no fluid is released. There are other times I experience a vaginal orgasm though and nothing comes out! It seems to be at random.

Maybe it’s just best to empty my bladder before sex at all times and just leave it at that? I know that female ejaculation is a mixture of different fluids that could include urine.

All the best,


Dear Stephanie,
No, female ejaculate does not include urine. Female ejaculate is mostly prostatic fluid and some glucose.

The noticeable ejaculations would be the ones that smell like urine. So, let’s back up a step. To the non-urine ejaculations! You are ejaculating! Congratulations!

Now, going from there, you say that sometimes your ejaculate smells like urine, when you have an intense orgasm, and you don’t feel yourself ejaculate. That is when it smells mostly like urine, correct? Therefore, you are pushing hard, but not consciously. It’s just the nature of the intensity—in all likelihood.

With intensity and with pushing hard, or both at once, I have noticed that this is the situation when some women experience urine in their ejaculate. I am not sure why that is, but now I am suspecting weak PC muscles. Try doing more Kegel exercises for a few months and see if that helps.

Of course, if you are new to ejaculation, don’t worry about the urine right now; worry about understanding your body and this ejaculation phenomenon, okay? Cut yourself a little slack right now. I have noticed a type of personality that approaches female ejaculation with a dose of worry. Also, I’ve seen performance-oriented women who experience this urine in their ejaculate, and then they worry about it. Maybe relax a bit. Don’t try so hard.

As for pushing out and nothing comes out, many women cannot ejaculate with something in their vaginas! Is this happening? Also, you may be trying too hard, and this can cause a “misfire.”

Please be good to yourself and let this process unfold a bit more. Also, thank your partner for the amazing orgasms you are having that cause you to ejaculate, and ask him to be patient while you figure out the urine leakage problem.

Most of all, I want you to focus not on the bad, but the good. Focus on the times your ejaculate is clear and refreshing! Celebrate, please! For from this vantage point you will learn the most about how to clear up the other problem.

Best to you,

Want to find out more about female ejaculation? Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Deb Sundahl Comes to Visit

Friday, September 11th, 2009

Deborah Sundahl 2009We were thrilled to have Deborah Sundahl, creator of How to Female Ejaculate: Find Your G-Spot and Female Ejaculation for Couples, come to visit yesterday, one stop on her female ejaculation tour as she prepares to head off to Canada and Europe later in the month.

Deborah is also the female ejaculation expert who writes the “Ask Fanny Fatale” Q&A column for this blog.

Nan and Deb sat out in the garden for while, then came back for a dinner of baked pasta and mozzarella before Deb headed off to her lecture on female ejaculation at the local sex shop.

Nan Kinney 2009We found these pictures of Nan and Deb taking a hike up in the mountains, from earlier this summer when we last saw Deb.

This weekend, Deborah is off to Austin, Texas, for more female ejaculation workshops, then she plans to return for another few days’ visit come Monday. We’re happy to have her here!

If you have a question for Ask Fanny about the G-spot or female ejaculation, send it to askfanny at and put “Ask Fanny question” in the subject line.

To see the latest Deborah Sundahl’s latest DVD about female ejaculation, check out Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

Ask Fanny: Does Age Matter?

Monday, June 15th, 2009

Deborah Sundahl - Female Ejaculation ExpertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Fanny,
If you’ve never female ejaculated before, where do you begin? How do you convince a perhaps skeptical partner that this exists? How much time do you need?

Lastly, I’m over 50; does it matter how old you are?


Nervous in Nevada

Dear Nervous,
The first step to begin to learn how to female ejaculate is to inform yourself about what female ejaculation is and where it comes from.  In my experience, half the work of learning how to female ejaculate is done by educating yourself on the subject.

Female ejaculation is prostatic fluid with a little bit of glucose (sugar). This fluid is produced by the female prostate. The female prostate is the G-spot. All women have one, as do all men. Therefore, all women can ejaculate if they want to learn how.

Learning how to ejaculate is fairly easy. Most women can accomplish it in a few months, if not right away, once they realize an important factor: the feeling of needing to pee is actually the urge to ejaculate

What can take many years to learn is how to reawaken the sensations of the G-spot, which are ultrasensitive by nature but numbed out in most women.

A sizable minority of partners does not know about female ejaculation; therefore, if partners are surprised with this information during sex, they get shocked and often react in an angry and/or turned-off manner. So, first thing to do if you ejaculate already, or learn to do so later, is to tell a new partner, “I ejaculate!”

Meanwhile, the best way to convince a skeptical partner that female ejaculation and the G-spot do indeed exist is by ejaculating when making love. Surprise them with the wet towel under their nose, so they take a good, deep sniff. They will smell for themselves that it is not urine. That should take care of the issue of skepticism right then and there.

Lastly, you can learn to ejaculate at any age. Age does not seem to make ejaculating harder or make the amount of ejaculate less. In fact, older women can have an edge on the ease of learning how to ejaculate, because older women are more inclined to want to relax and open their body to more sensuality—a state that makes it easier to ejaculate.

Good luck!


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fe_workshop_150w_optTo learn to female ejaculate, buy Deborah Sundahl’s latest sexy, educational DVD Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

Watch as Lydia, Wendy and Fass learn to find and stimulate their G-spots to stunning G-spot orgasms. Close-up shots of the G-spot, anatomy charts to help you see and locate your own G-spot in the privacy of your home.

You can also take an in-person workshop with Deborah Sundahl. Her next two workshops are to be held in Santa Fe, New Mexico:

Female Ejaculation Workshop for Women Only, Santa Fe, New Mexico
July 3 – 5, 2009.
Cost $200, plus lodging and food at a lovely Santa Fe resort location.
Registration closes this week, Saturday, June 20, 2009
Contact Deborah now if you are interested at
More info.

Female Ejaculation Workshop for Couples, Santa Fe, NM
September 4 – 7, 2009 (Labor Day Weekend)
Cost $600 per couple, plus lodging and food at a lovely Santa Fe resort location.
Registration closes Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Contact Deborah if you are interested at
More info

In October, 2009, Deborah heads to Canada and Europe. We’ll update you on her fall schedule as we get the information.