Posts Tagged ‘Female Ejaculation for Couples’

Sex Tips: How to Tell If Your Partner Is Faking It

Saturday, October 13th, 2012

There are a thousand reasons why people fake it in bed. Sometimes it might even be a good idea.

But what if you’re the one who feels like maybe your partner is faking it. How can you tell?

First off, just because she doesn’t gush doesn’t mean she hasn’t had an orgasm. Real orgasms don’t always mean gushing female ejaculations, even if you have stroked her G-spot. You can have an orgasm without gushing.

That said, here are our top tips on how to tell is she’s faking it:

1. She’s not really even that wet. Put your finger(s) down there. You’ll be able to tell.

2. She’s not working up a sweat.

3. Her nipples aren’t hard.

4. Her moans and/or murmurs or screams don’t sound like her usual.

5. This is the most important one: she shows no signs of satisfaction or joy.

These are mostly physical signs of faking it, but the emotional content is inherent.

If your partner fakes it once or twice, don’t worry about it. But if it’s chronic, talk to her. Find out why. Find out what she needs to be satisfied in bed.

Female Ejaculation for Couples DVDMore conversation here, in dozens of Fatale Sex Tips and expert advice about female ejaculation and the G-spot.

Female Ejaculation for Couples is a perfect resource if you want to explore G-spot orgasms.

Deborah Sundahl on Tour

Friday, March 30th, 2012

Deborah Sundahl Female Ejaculation ExpertG-spot expert and female-ejaculation queen Deborah Sundahl—you may also know her as Fatale Media columnist “Ask Fanny”—is headed on tour, beginning in California on April 3, 2012 at the Pure Pleasure Store in Santa Cruz, California.

After California, she heads up the West Coast to Oregon and Washington. More information about these free, informative lectures is available at .

In addition to these lectures, there are one-day G-spot workshops for women. These all-day workshops are very reasonable at $95.

Female Ejaculation Workshops:

April 7, 2012
Sonoma County, CA
9:00 am – 5:00 pm Cost $95
Contact: Deborah Sundahl

April 22, 2012
Portland, OR
10:00 am – 5:00 pm
Cost $95
Lotus Heart Center

For more information, contact: Deborah Sundahl

Later in the year Deborah is headed to Germany. Stay tuned for more information!

Female Ejaculation for CouplesP.S. Deborah’s bestselling DVDs Female Ejaculation: The Workshop and Female Ejaculation for Couples give you a great way to experience a G-spot workshop from the comfort of your home.

Ask Fanny: Lubrication with Oil?

Thursday, January 12th, 2012

Deborah Sundahl Female Ejaculation ExpertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Deborah,

Is lubrication with oil a must or should we reserve it for those times when the surfaces are not that moist? I shall be grateful for your clarification on this rather basic point.

Wishing you a very Happy New Year.

Best regards,

Curious in India

Dear Curious,

Olive oil is nourishing to the skin, as Queen Cleopatra from ancient Egypt knew. Use lubricant that is nourishing to the vagina, like natural oils of any kind (jojoba, almond, avocado, etc.).  View the vagina as skin that needs or likes “food,” rather than using a lubricant to “make” her ready.

As you will learn when you read my book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, I encourage every woman to know her body. This is more than finding a technique or “prescribing” lubricant. You will know when you want to use lubricant, and when you do not need or want to. In this way, you will have more than enough natural lubrication, too!

Again, the more you can listen to your own body, specifically your vagina and what she needs and likes, the more success you will have with the G-spot orgasm and with female ejaculation. And in the end, the more intimate connection you will have to yourself and to your partner.

Have fun!


Female Ejaculation for CouplesP.S. If you plan to be in the Pacific Northwest this spring, sign up for Deborah Sundahl’s female-ejaculation women’s workshop scheduled for the weekend of April 20-22, 2012. A workshop for couples runs April 27-28, 2012. View more information here at Deborah’s Web site.

P.P.S. Check out Female Ejaculation for Couples by Deborah Sundahl to see how couples can stimulate the G-spot and achieve female ejaculation in a workshop setting.

The G-Spot and Its Divine Nectar

Sunday, August 15th, 2010

The G-Spot and Its Divine NectarThe female-ejaculation and G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, whom you may know as Fatale’s resident female-ejaculation expert, travels the world doing workshops for women only as well as workshops for couples.

Currently she is finishing her next book—the follow-up to her wildly successful book Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot (Hunter House)—at a friend’s place in San Antonio, Texas.

The G-Spot and Its Divine NectarOver the Labor Day holiday (September 3-6, 2010), Deborah will be giving a workshop for couples called “The G-Spot and Its Divine Nectar.”

“The G-spot is numbed out in most women,” Deborah says from her San Antonio retreat, “because couples haven’t known how to make love, and her Feminine Fountain is all but shut off. This need not be the case and it is not hard to fix.”

The G-Spot and Its Divine NectarLocated near the tranquil Lake Buchanan, near Austin, Texas, this couples’ workshop promises to be a knockout.

Want more information? You may contact Deborah Sundahl directly at Deborah at or find her via the Isis Media workshops page.

If you can’t make it to one of Deborah’s popular workshops, we recommend you check out her female ejaculation DVDs, particularly Female Ejaculation for Couples.

Valuable information in a couples’ workshop setting about how to find the G-spot!

Ask Fanny: Exercising Your G-Spot

Saturday, May 1st, 2010

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Deborah,
Is it true that a woman’s G-spot is like a muscle and that if you don’t exercise it then you can’t ejaculate?

Caroline, New York

Dear Caroline,
In general, yes to your question. Use it or lose it, as they say. 

But as I have been saying for many years now, the G-spot is not a muscle or a wildly erotic spot on the vagina. The G-spot is the female prostate, which we feel through the roof of the vagina, and all women of course have a prostate just like all men do!

“Not using it” is a female ejaculation slumber that most women are now waking up from, thank goodness!  All women can ejaculate, by the way, if they want to. Please don’t pressure yourself to ejaculate if you don’t want to.  And also apply the no-pressure rule if you are learning. Relax and enjoy the process.

Good luck!


Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Ask Fanny – Odorless and Colorless?

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

Deborah SundahlG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Fanny,
I think I have experienced a clear and odorless ejaculation before, but more noticeable are the ones where I feel they have an odor (only because of how my partner smells afterward). I think when it happens, I feel no control because of the intensity. I’m not sure if I’m pushing too hard when it happens. Like I said, I don’t think I have control when it happens. But I have “pushed” quite hard before and no fluid is released. There are other times I experience a vaginal orgasm though and nothing comes out! It seems to be at random.

Maybe it’s just best to empty my bladder before sex at all times and just leave it at that? I know that female ejaculation is a mixture of different fluids that could include urine.

All the best,


Dear Stephanie,
No, female ejaculate does not include urine. Female ejaculate is mostly prostatic fluid and some glucose.

The noticeable ejaculations would be the ones that smell like urine. So, let’s back up a step. To the non-urine ejaculations! You are ejaculating! Congratulations!

Now, going from there, you say that sometimes your ejaculate smells like urine, when you have an intense orgasm, and you don’t feel yourself ejaculate. That is when it smells mostly like urine, correct? Therefore, you are pushing hard, but not consciously. It’s just the nature of the intensity—in all likelihood.

With intensity and with pushing hard, or both at once, I have noticed that this is the situation when some women experience urine in their ejaculate. I am not sure why that is, but now I am suspecting weak PC muscles. Try doing more Kegel exercises for a few months and see if that helps.

Of course, if you are new to ejaculation, don’t worry about the urine right now; worry about understanding your body and this ejaculation phenomenon, okay? Cut yourself a little slack right now. I have noticed a type of personality that approaches female ejaculation with a dose of worry. Also, I’ve seen performance-oriented women who experience this urine in their ejaculate, and then they worry about it. Maybe relax a bit. Don’t try so hard.

As for pushing out and nothing comes out, many women cannot ejaculate with something in their vaginas! Is this happening? Also, you may be trying too hard, and this can cause a “misfire.”

Please be good to yourself and let this process unfold a bit more. Also, thank your partner for the amazing orgasms you are having that cause you to ejaculate, and ask him to be patient while you figure out the urine leakage problem.

Most of all, I want you to focus not on the bad, but the good. Focus on the times your ejaculate is clear and refreshing! Celebrate, please! For from this vantage point you will learn the most about how to clear up the other problem.

Best to you,

Want to find out more about female ejaculation? Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Ask Fanny: Safe to Swallow?

Thursday, October 1st, 2009

Deborah Sundahl - Female Ejaculation ExpertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to askfanny at; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Hi Deborah,
My name is Dave. Thanks for your great info online. I heard about you from that Playboy Radio show.

My question is this…

My wife has been a squirter for years. We are both very oral…and she swallows my semen quite often, an act I believe to be common and not dangerous, when we have oral sex.

On the flip side…is it safe to swallow her ejaculate???

I know that what comes out of me is semen. I’m unsure what it is that releases from her body. Some say urine…some say other fluid…

I would assume that swallowing urine would give me some kind of staff virus or other disease…

Please let me know if you believe it to be safe to swallow this fluid.

I have in the past and I don’t mind the taste. Are there ways to change the taste?

I appreciate your time and look forward to hearing back from you. Thanks.

Dave in Boca Raton, Florida

Dear Dave,
Thank you for writing me with your question! Was it not clear on the Playboy Radio Afternoon Advice show (Sirius and XM 99) with Tiffany Granath that female ejaculation is not urine?

Female ejaculate is prostatic fluid, and it has the most fresh and uplifting smell with no taste. Female ejaculation also contains a good dose of glucose (sugar), with tiny amounts of urea and creatin.

Urine does not seep into female ejaculate any more often than it seeps into male ejaculate, which some men experience rather often. Same for women.

As to your question about urine, yogis and some alternative health people drink their morning’s urine every day to stay healthy, and sometimes to cure illnesses. Other health uses include those by Mexican laborers who, when using their ancient tradition and beautifully skilled craftsmanship in building rock walls, pee on cuts to their hands to stop infections or to cool down the pain. Ditto the sting of bug bites, to name only a few other medicinal uses for one’s own urine. So, a little urine doesn’t hurt anyone, and could do you good.

I would look online for things to make the urine less darkly dense and offensively smelly; these would probably – in general – also do the same to keep the ejaculate fresher – both yours and hers.

Of course, if you had an STD (sexually transmitted disease), that could be transmitted to your partner by your semen-ejaculate. The same would be true for female ejaculate.

Hope this helps! Keep enjoying and loving!


Female Ejaculation for CouplesTo learn more about female ejaculation and the G-spot, check out Female Ejaculation for Couples.

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Wednesday, April 1st, 2009

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