Posts Tagged ‘sex commentary’

Women’s Pleasure?

Friday, November 15th, 2013

One Night Stand

Does it shock you that in 2013 a new study shows that women in hook-ups or one-night stands fare worse when it comes to sexual satisfaction? Fully sixty percent—60%–of women in short-term hookups do not have orgasms.

Men are doing just fine. The sexually satisfied hookup men count for 80% of the total. “After his own orgasm…he showed no interest in her satisfaction,” noted the article, “In Hookups, Inequality Still Reigns.”

We wonder if lesbians are in the same situation. Are 60% of lesbians unsatisfied at the close of a hookup or one-nighter? Somehow we doubt it.

Is it even desirable to forego pleasure to ensure that your partner gets off?

Confession: many times one or the other of us would give the other pleasure—multiple gushing ecstatic orgasms—and just call it quits. Another time. Tomorrow.

But the study mentions that issue too: there is no “next time” and therefore maybe the responsibility falls flat. You didn’t get off? Oh, well.

One Night Stand

Women deserve pleasure. They deserve to be pleased. Our life’s work has been dedicated to the pleasure and pleasuring of women.

Maybe women need a little porn and play toys…a nice juicy dildo…to get some satisfaction on their own. Our fave is the sexiest dyke movie “One Night Stand.”

Till next time, happy Thanksgiving, happy Hanukkah.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

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Nan on “Blue”

Friday, November 15th, 2013


Blue is the warmest color

Is blue the warmest color?

The New York Times solicited Nan Kinney’s opinion on just exactly what “real lesbian porn” is. “‘Blue’ Through Lesbian Eyes” ran last week in the Times’ style section.

We’re headed to see Blue Is the Warmest Color this weekend. Check it out!

And if you’re curious about Suburban Dykes, which Nan mentioned in the article, it’s classic, classy lesbian porn.

The Clit Gets an Ad Campaign

Friday, September 13th, 2013

Cliteracy by Sophia Wallace

We didn’t realize the clit needed its own ad campaign. But according to Sophia Wallace, that’s exactly what the clit—unappreciated, undervalued in the world—needs. And she’s out to make sure the world knows about it in a new “Cliteracy” campaign.

Why cliteracy? Why now?

This is about much more than just women’s sexuality, Wallace maintains.

“Cliteracy is about not having one’s body controlled or legislated. Not having access to the pleasure that is your birthright is a deeply political act,” she told the Huffington Post.

A Tumblr campaign has gone viral, and Wallace plans to take her Cliteracy street ad campaign beyond New York City, where she posts the posters touting Cliteracy.

At base is Wallace’s “100 Natural Laws of Cliteracy,” and the art installations are pointblank: “The clitoris is not a button. It is an iceberg,” reads one declaration.

And if the idea of a “Clit Rodeo” tickles your fancy, you won’t be disappointed.

Wallace says that even in (straight) porn the clit is considered “optional” and “kind of freaky,” we say the clit is rarely ignored or dismissed in the real thing, real dyke sex, between lesbians.

What do you think? Does the clit need its own PR?

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

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The V Word

Friday, September 21st, 2012

Naomi Wolf

“Female sexuality around the world is targeted because through traumatizing the vagina, you can intimidate women on multiple other levels,” writes Naomi Wolf, author of a new book called Vagina: A New Biography.

Wolf’s article, “Kate’s breasts, Pussy Riot, virginity tests and our attitude on women’s bodies,” was published this week on

We don’t 100% agree with Wolf about porn—Porn 24/7, as she calls it. But we do agree with her in general about women’s bodies and sexuality. She writes:

In the struggle over sex, these choices are where the struggle lies: Who decides reproductive rights; who decides when and how breasts might be exposed; who decides who can say vagina and where; who decides who is a slut; and who must be punished with hard labor for asserting their right to define their own sexual and artistic identities.

The censorship by Apple iTunes, as noted in an article in The Guardian, was shocking enough. Adding asterisks so that the word vagina reads v****a.

We see actions the world over suppressing women’s sexuality and sexual expression.

Still and all, Jennifer Hough, writing in the Toronto Star, says “the widespread activism” about the trial and sentencing of Pussy Riot “suggests these young Russian dissidents are giving the movement new impetus, perhaps even tweaking feminism for a new generation.”

Why does women’s sexuality matter? Why does women’s porn matter? We say: It’s about control. Who controls women’s bodies and sexuality matters.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

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