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Ask Fanny: Love and Aging

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Deborah,
I first heard about you listening to the Playboy radio channel. You are absolutely gorgeous. My wife and I are 56 and the loving feeling is gone. She has gone through menopause and does not care about sex. She says I can have her if I want to, but I want her to want it not just to feel sorry for me. Can you recommend something to help? She doesn’t want to take hormones and I’m wondering if any of your specialties could help.

Jim
Arizona
 
 
Dear Jim,
In a nutshell, once women reach menopause, most do not want the standard fare that they have had all their life–sex that is rather like sport sex. Women after menopause do not lose their libido, they lose their desire for this kind of sex and want far more loving, connective and energetic intercourse with a man who expresses his love for her.
 
This time of life for you both can be so loving and close, as the sex moves from sex to lovemaking. Women like your wife often do not realize there is more for them. I don’t hear you talk about love, so perhaps that isn’t there for you either, in your own heart? 
 
The G-spot, as I may or may not have said on the radio, is all about love. Gateway to deeper love and intimacy. The first step is for her to understand and awaken her G-spot on her own! She has to want to. You can’t do it for her, like many men want and like many woman think the knight will ride in and save the day. 
 
And you must awaken your own G-spot too, so visit the Aneros site, get yourself a toy, and start opening up your own sexuality for your next phase of life. It will be the best “sex” you have ever experienced throughout your entire body, and it will be gentle on an aging body, as well.
 
I will send my workshop announcement to you.  Please read it, as you will get the drift of where I am going with the G-spot, when I talk about love and aging.
 
Deborah

To see more about Deborah Sundahl’s female-ejaculation and G-spot workshops, check out her Web site: www.isismedia.org.

She is hosting a 3-day “Feminine Fountain Workshop” for women only, September 24-26, 2010, in Palm Coast, Florida. The registration deadline has been extended to September 15, 2010.

If you can’t attend one of Deborah’s very popular workshops, we recommend her female ejaculation DVDs, in particular Female Ejaculation: The Workshop and Female Ejaculation for Couples .

Phone Sex * Sport Sex?

Monday, August 30th, 2010

Last month’s poll played off Marlayna Dawson’s Tales of a Former Phone Sex Queen.

We asked: Have you ever tried phone sex?

You can see the results of the poll here: http://www.fatalemedia.com/polls/past_polls.html

This month, Deborah Sundahl in her Ask Fanny columns and in her female-ejaculation workshops distinguishes between “sport sex” and “lovemaking.”

To that end, we ask:

Are you a fan of sport sex?

Vote now! The sport-sex poll question is on Fatale’s home page.

Stay tuned. We’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com

The G-Spot and Its Divine Nectar

Sunday, August 15th, 2010

The G-Spot and Its Divine NectarThe female-ejaculation and G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, whom you may know as Fatale’s resident female-ejaculation expert, travels the world doing workshops for women only as well as workshops for couples.

Currently she is finishing her next book—the follow-up to her wildly successful book Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot (Hunter House)—at a friend’s place in San Antonio, Texas.

The G-Spot and Its Divine NectarOver the Labor Day holiday (September 3-6, 2010), Deborah will be giving a workshop for couples called “The G-Spot and Its Divine Nectar.”

“The G-spot is numbed out in most women,” Deborah says from her San Antonio retreat, “because couples haven’t known how to make love, and her Feminine Fountain is all but shut off. This need not be the case and it is not hard to fix.”

The G-Spot and Its Divine NectarLocated near the tranquil Lake Buchanan, near Austin, Texas, this couples’ workshop promises to be a knockout.

Want more information? You may contact Deborah Sundahl directly at Deborah at IsisMedia.org or find her via the Isis Media workshops page.

If you can’t make it to one of Deborah’s popular workshops, we recommend you check out her female ejaculation DVDs, particularly Female Ejaculation for Couples.

Valuable information in a couples’ workshop setting about how to find the G-spot!

Deborah Sundahl On Tour

Thursday, July 15th, 2010

Female-ejaculation and G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl travels the world doing workshops for women only as well as workshops for couples.

Deborah’s complete workshop schedule gives the details, and she has two workshops upcoming in September.

If you can’t make it to one of her popular workshops, we recommend you check out her female ejaculation DVDs, particularly Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

Valuable information in a workshop setting about how to find the G-spot!

Ask Fanny: Easier Female Ejaculation

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Fanny,
I used to be able to female ejaculate, but lately it seems it’s not as easy as it used to be. Is there anything I can do to make it easier again?

Anonymous in New York

Dear Anonymous in New York,
The ability to female ejaculate is often characterized by sensitivity to one’s connection to your partner and also to yourself. If it is not as easy to ejaculate as it once was, this situation often reflects a change in your relationship from closeness to more difficulties or distance.

If you’re not in a relationship, this can reflect a change in how you relate or perceive yourself; perhaps you’re not feeling as attractive as you used to feel about yourself.

Sometimes for women who are very profuse when they ejaculate, they begin to have problems or doubts about ejaculating so much liquid. They then curtail their desire to ejaculate or don’t do it as frequently. If they are not conscious of these doubts, it can seem to them as if it is becoming more difficult to ejaculate, when in fact they are holding themselves back due to not wanting to create such a big pool of water every time they are sexual.

Lastly, if a woman has been performance-oriented and trying hard to ejaculate, she may find her ability waning somewhat, due to pushing too hard (both literally and figuratively). As I have said many times, the surest way to not ejaculate is to pressure yourself. Relax and enjoy the process

In the same vein, a change may be coming over your sexual desires. Perhaps you have been having lots of sport sex, and now you want to go more inward and explore what your sexuality would be like from the perspective of expressing love and intimacy with yourself or a partner. 

Bottom line: don’t worry about this change in your ability to ejaculate. Use it as the opportunity it is: to take a look at your erotic life for changes, or changes you are beginning to want to make.

Deborah

Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Ask Fanny: Exercising Your G-Spot

Saturday, May 1st, 2010

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Deborah,
Is it true that a woman’s G-spot is like a muscle and that if you don’t exercise it then you can’t ejaculate?

Caroline, New York

Dear Caroline,
In general, yes to your question. Use it or lose it, as they say. 

But as I have been saying for many years now, the G-spot is not a muscle or a wildly erotic spot on the vagina. The G-spot is the female prostate, which we feel through the roof of the vagina, and all women of course have a prostate just like all men do!

“Not using it” is a female ejaculation slumber that most women are now waking up from, thank goodness!  All women can ejaculate, by the way, if they want to. Please don’t pressure yourself to ejaculate if you don’t want to.  And also apply the no-pressure rule if you are learning. Relax and enjoy the process.

Good luck!

Deborah

Want to find out more about female ejaculation?

Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Reawakening Desire

Thursday, April 15th, 2010

Springtime is truly here. The trees are blooming, baseball has started, and temperatures are rising. We’ve been thinking about sex, how the springtime air and the shedding of heavy coats and sweaters makes the body sing again.

Our friend Deborah Sundahl was visiting over the Easter holiday and subsequent week that many take as spring break. And she got us thinking about rediscovering the G-spot, and rediscovering the power of female sexuality.

There are still some people who deny the existence of the G-spot and the ability for women to female ejaculate. But Deborah’s longtime dedication to showing the G-spot on video should leave no doubt in anyone’s mind.

If you’re a novice when it comes to the G-spot, start with Deborah’s bestselling classic, How to Female Ejaculate.

If you’re in a couple and want to explore female ejaculation and the G-spot together, try Female Ejaculation for Couples and watch as Deborah guides three straight couples through the steps to achieve this most spectacular of orgasms.

Really, there’s nothing quite like it. And what better time than springtime to allow your body to open up and rediscover pure orgasm like no other in the world.

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. “Adventurous Couples Unite” is a female-ejaculation gift set with three Deborah Sundahl videos. You save 17%.

P.P.S. You can see all Fatale’s DVDs here.

Happy Spring!

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

Happy Passover!

Happy Easter!

Happy Springtime!

No matter where you are in the world, no matter if you celebrate holidays or not, we hope you are happy and reveling in the change of season.

Interesting comment from Stacey on last month’s Fatale blog post “Let’s Pretend to Be Lesbians”:

“Not to mention, Jones New York is one of the worst ranked (at least by HRC) places for LGBT folks to work.”

In our opinion, any self-respecting LGBT would have fought tooth and nail against this dumb-ass image.

Okay, rant over.

We’re looking forward to having Deb Sundahl visit for Easter and a few days more, now that she’s back from her European workshops and lecture tour. We’ll get more Ask Fanny columns for sure!

If you have questions about female ejaculation, you can e-mail askfanny@fatalemedia.com. Please put “Ask Fanny question” in the subject line.

Happy Spring. Happy April.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. If you ordered a Fatale catalog to be mailed to you, hang in there. We’ve run out and are sending out photocopies, but we’re running late. So we appreciate your patience.

P.P.S. You now get super low-cost shipping and complimentary gift-wrapping and gift cards. We ship worldwide, and you can order securely online with your Visa, MasterCard, American Express or PayPal. See all Fatale’s DVDs.

Ask Fanny – Odorless and Colorless?

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

Deborah SundahlG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Fanny,
I think I have experienced a clear and odorless ejaculation before, but more noticeable are the ones where I feel they have an odor (only because of how my partner smells afterward). I think when it happens, I feel no control because of the intensity. I’m not sure if I’m pushing too hard when it happens. Like I said, I don’t think I have control when it happens. But I have “pushed” quite hard before and no fluid is released. There are other times I experience a vaginal orgasm though and nothing comes out! It seems to be at random.

Maybe it’s just best to empty my bladder before sex at all times and just leave it at that? I know that female ejaculation is a mixture of different fluids that could include urine.

All the best,

Stephanie

Dear Stephanie,
No, female ejaculate does not include urine. Female ejaculate is mostly prostatic fluid and some glucose.

The noticeable ejaculations would be the ones that smell like urine. So, let’s back up a step. To the non-urine ejaculations! You are ejaculating! Congratulations!

Now, going from there, you say that sometimes your ejaculate smells like urine, when you have an intense orgasm, and you don’t feel yourself ejaculate. That is when it smells mostly like urine, correct? Therefore, you are pushing hard, but not consciously. It’s just the nature of the intensity—in all likelihood.

With intensity and with pushing hard, or both at once, I have noticed that this is the situation when some women experience urine in their ejaculate. I am not sure why that is, but now I am suspecting weak PC muscles. Try doing more Kegel exercises for a few months and see if that helps.

Of course, if you are new to ejaculation, don’t worry about the urine right now; worry about understanding your body and this ejaculation phenomenon, okay? Cut yourself a little slack right now. I have noticed a type of personality that approaches female ejaculation with a dose of worry. Also, I’ve seen performance-oriented women who experience this urine in their ejaculate, and then they worry about it. Maybe relax a bit. Don’t try so hard.

As for pushing out and nothing comes out, many women cannot ejaculate with something in their vaginas! Is this happening? Also, you may be trying too hard, and this can cause a “misfire.”

Please be good to yourself and let this process unfold a bit more. Also, thank your partner for the amazing orgasms you are having that cause you to ejaculate, and ask him to be patient while you figure out the urine leakage problem.

Most of all, I want you to focus not on the bad, but the good. Focus on the times your ejaculate is clear and refreshing! Celebrate, please! For from this vantage point you will learn the most about how to clear up the other problem.

Best to you,
Deborah

Want to find out more about female ejaculation? Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples and her equally popular book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot.

Deborah Sundahl’s Upcoming Appearances

Thursday, October 15th, 2009

Deborah Sundahl - Female Ejaculation ExpertDeborah Sundahl, creator of How to Female Ejaculate: Find Your G-Spot and Female Ejaculation for Couples, came to visit last month. You can see that blog entry here.

Now Deborah is up in Canada giving talks and lectures on female ejaculation—she’s in Halifax now—then she’s off to Europe for her female ejaculation workshops . Scroll down and you can see where Deborah is scheduled to appear in England and Scotland, Holland and Germany over the next couple of months.

A special five-day female ejaculation workshop is scheduled for the Black Forest in Germany in November – http://www.isismedia.org/workshop_registration.html. Now is the time to sign up!

Deborah Sundahl is the female ejaculation expert who writes the “Ask Fanny Fatale” Q&A column for this blog. We expect to be getting new columns from Deborah from Europe. Stay tuned!