The month of October was hopping. Besides taking off for a weekend in Washington, D.C., we’ve been gobbling up screeners and planning new titles for Fatale.

Here are October’s Top 5 Bestsellers:

1. Coming Home – Carolyn Caizzi’s tour de force showing four real-life dyke couples. Don’t miss the Tinkerbelle and Peter Pan dress-up fantasy.

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2. Bend Over Boyfriend. The classic girl-on-boy how-to starring Carol Queen. Bend Over Boyfriend 2 is actually #6 on this list, if it were a Top 6 or Top 10, but it’s Top 5. Check out the Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set too. 

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3. Roulette – Courtney Trouble’s sexy rocker. Worth a peek.

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4. The Crash Pad – Shine Louise Houston’s first DVD and introduction to the Crash Pad and the numerous “series” it has spawned.

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5. Afterschool Special and Turn Me Up Over and On – This double DVD is all amateur. Afterschool Special remains one of the hottest amateur films we’ve seen, with a lesbian gangbang that sizzles. Turn Me Up Over and On is Carolyn Caizzi’s first video, starring a real-life lesbian couple.

See Fatale’s “Favorite Lesbian DVDs.”

See all Fatale’s DVDs.

It’s a lazy late-summer day, so we thought we’d bring back a classic Sex Tips column that originally appeared in the March 2007 issue of the newsletter. It’s as relevant today as it was then for anyone who likes anal pleasure.

Back-Door Positions
Anal sex isn’t as complicated as it might seem when you’ve never tried it, but discovering the pleasures of anal sex is an unexcelled delight.

For women who like to take it, there’s nothing quite like the feeling of fingers inside and another finger poking in the back door. It’s also an utter turn-on for stimulating the G-spot.

For those who like it with a dildo, there are three main positions that come in handiest when you’re in the mood.

Missionary position: Anal sex in the missionary position (one of you lying on your back, the one with the dildo facedown on top) takes lifting your legs higher in the air, and some strategic kneeling if you’re on top. Put a pillow under your butt. This helps raise your pelvis and provide a “good opening” for that anal dildo.

Doggie-style: This position is the easiest for first-timers. That butt is right in front of you and you can stand up while your partner leans over the edge of a bed, couch, chair…or even the kitchen table! Try it. If you’re the bottom and trying this for the first time, spread your arms out and grab hold of whatever you can find. And relax! This is the easiest entry for mind-blowing fun.

Sitting up and facing backwards: This position doesn’t really have a name. We used to think of it as “girl on top,” but really if you’re the one who’ll be getting it, you’ll be facing away from your partner, not facing each other. We think this works best if you’re using a butt plug or dildo—they have good smaller ones for this type of activity—but it’s great for a finger or two, too.

Gay guys no doubt have a zillion more positions to enjoy this most enjoyable sex act, but these three are, in our opinion, good for starting out.

And remember the three bending over “bare necessities” whether you’re on the top or the bottom:
1. A condom or latex glove
2. Lots and lots and lots of water-based lube
3. Relax and talk to each other

To learn more about anal pleasure, check out Bend Over Boyfriend.

As a token of our appreciation, we’re offering a Sizzling Summer Savings of 10% – 20% off when you order during August. The discounts automatically show up in your shopping cart when you drop items in. One DVD is 10% off, two DVDs gets you 15% off and three or more is 20% off plus free shipping.

Maybe you’re ready to head for the mountains or the beach or the lake. Like a lot of our friends, we’re not taking a block of vacation time off this summer, but we are planning to take off a couple weekends and just go chill in a hotel with a pool. We also have a couple invitations from friends to stay with them.

One thing we always take with us on vacations is a few dyke DVDs. Yes, we’ve seen them all, but when we treat ourselves to a vacation, we want to have some sexy fun! Sexy DVDs make nice house gifts for our hosts and hostesses too.

For straight friends and family, you can’t go wrong with Bend Over Boyfriend. If your friends already have BOB, try Bend Over Boyfriend 2.

Buy both Bend Over Boyfriend DVDs and you can really save, more than 20%.

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 For lesbian flicks, check out this page of recommended Favorite Lesbian DVDs.

At the top of the list is Carolyn Caizzi’s Coming Home. Worth a look if you haven’t seen it!

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Remember, for the month of August, Sizzling Summer Savings gets you 10% – 20% off. The shipping rates are low, low, low too. We didn’t raise them after Gay Pride. So enjoy our way of saying, “Thank you!”

You can see all Fatale’s DVDs here.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. You can pay securely at Fatale by credit card or PayPal. And remember, you save 10% – 20% for the month of August! See all Fatale’s DVDs.

Every now and then we like to let you know what’s hot, what’s hopping, what’s selling like hotcakes. So here goes, Faale bestsellers for the month of July, 2009.

1. Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set – a good special offer, and with the Sizzling Summer Savings, you’ll save even more!

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2. One Night Stand – Winner! 2009 Sexiest Dyke Movie

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3. The Crash Pad Series Volume 4 – Rope Burn – Ooh, talk about sizzling!

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4. Female Ejaculation for Couples – a great guide for couples who want to learn how to female ejaculate

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5. Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels – the masterpiece from Shar Rednour and Jackie Strano of S.I.R. Video

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The lovely Shar Rednour came to visit on Wednesday and is leaving today, but we thought we’d show you some photos. She and Nan are shooting more Bend Over Boyfriend footage.

Director Shar Rednour at the Camera with Producer Nan Kinney

Director Shar Rednour with Nan Kinney on Camera

You save 10% or more when you order Fatale gifts. Even if you don’t want them gift-wrapped, it’s worth a look!

And if you want to exchange a DVD for another in any gift set, all you have to do is put a note in the Comment section of the order form. It’s that easy.

Top 3 Bestselling Gift Sets:

1. “Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set”

2. “The Crash Pad Gift Set”

3. ““Adventurous Couples Unite!””

Check out all Fatale’s gift sets.

It doesn’t have to hurt! It shouldn’t hurt. That is the #1 reassurance you need to give your partner if there is even a hint of fear.

Carol Queen, in Bend Over Boyfriend, emphasizes talking about anal sex before you do it. One way to bring up the subject is to talk about your fantasies with your partner, preferably while you’re fully dressed, but after making love is a good time too.

Sometimes it’s hard to talk first. Reader Gaye from New York City writes to suggest rolling over on to your belly while making love, then sticking your ass up in the air.

Later on, say to your lover, “I really liked it when you touched my ass.” See what your partner’s reaction is, and use that as a basis for later conversation.

Recently, a customer called to say that he’d heard about Bend Over Boyfriend because a friend of his wanted him to “try it, and be open to it.” She told him to watch the DVD and then they’d talk about it. Good idea, we told him.

Another idea is to write a love letter to your honey, and just say, “I want it!”

Find out more about Bend Over Boyfriend and Bend Over Boyfriend 2.

We had a lovely Valentine’s Day weekend. Thank you for asking.

Yes, we stayed home and made a romantic dinner just for the two of us. Then we watched One Night Stand, our latest favorite DVD. We couldn’t resist.

Curious what other Fatale customers were watching for Valentine’s Day romance? Here’s the lineup of bestsellers for February:

Lesbian

- The Crash Pad and The Crash Pad Gift Set (tied for first place)

- Coming Home

- One Night Stand

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Straight and Educational

- Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set

- How to Female Ejaculate

- Female Ejaculation for Couples

So as you’re thinking about spring break, getting away from it all, don’t forget to plan for romance…and lots of lusty sex! There’s nothing like a hit of good, real porn made by and for dykes to intrigue the right kind of lover.

And for adventurous straight couples, the same holds true—made by and for women makes all the difference in the world. Try it, she’ll like it.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

No, we’re not talking about your lover! But your butt, your behind, your bum, your rear, your tush.

Enjoying anal penetration comes naturally to some people. They “get it.” They just naturally relax and enjoy without a care in the world.

But anal sex doesn’t come easy for everybody. There is the taboo of touching, let alone probing, the anus. It’s a private place, to be sure, which makes it hard for some men and women to allow entry.

When Fatale released Bend Over Boyfriend ten years ago – yes, it’s the 10th anniversary of Bend Over Boyfriend, a cause for celebration – Carol Queen and her lover Robert Morgan showed how role reversal can spice up your sex life.

Women, too, can be skittish when it comes to their boyfriends touching or penetrating their rear ends.

When you’re ready to open up and enjoy this delicious sex act, there are some steps you can take to make anal sex a real pleasure:

• –Wash up before you begin any lovemaking. Make sure nothing hurts or is sore down there. If you ever see blood in your stool or coming from your anus, tell your doctor right away.
• –Find pleasure in the familiar. Make love the way you always do. Treat your sweetie with kisses and caresses and find your comfort zone. Have as many orgasms as you like.
• –Touch yourself first. Do you feel happy? Talk to your lover. Do you want to feel your partner’s gentle touch? Tell him or her exactly what the touch feels like.
• –Remind yourself: Nobody’s going to hurt you. This is not about pain. This is about pleasure and exploring new sexual territory.
• –Stop there. Wait for next time to go any further.
• –Next time, repeat the process all over again. Only this time, using some water-based lubricant, allow your lover’s finger to come inside just a little bit.
• –Stop there. Wait until next time to go any further. You can even take a break and wait a couple more times before you try a small dildo, with a condom and lots of lube, of course.

And if your partner is the one who is struggling with anal sex, go slow, be gentle, restrain yourself until your partner feels confident to take it to the next level. 

Ultimately, learning to enjoy anal penetration is about trust. You must trust each other for there to be true pleasure associated with anal sex. Or, we would argue, any other kind of sex. 

Check out Bend Over Boyfriend for more tips on how to enjoy anal sex.

We were heartened to read an article the other day in the Washington Post, “Seniors Having More Sex Than Ever” by Alan Mozes.

The senior set—those men and women in their late sixties, seventies and beyond—have increased not only the frequency of sex, but also the quality of their couplings, according to a Swedish study. This study has been ongoing for 30 years, so there’s a strong basis for comparison.

“Women seemed to make the most headway in terms of increasing their sexual satisfaction,” according to the article. While the study doesn’t go into the whys of this newfound satisfaction, we can take a stab at why women are more satisfied.

For one thing, much more information is out there about female ejaculation and the role of the G-spot in spurring women’s satisfaction. Educators like Deborah Sundahl have been teaching women old and young how to find their g-spots.

Couples, we’ve found, are more adventurous, too. Bend Over Boyfriend, now celebrating its 10th anniversary, has worked for tens of thousands of couples who want to spice up their sex lives.

Gone are the days when men had no options for increasing their virility, and gone are the days when widows and married women just didn’t feel like it. We say kudos to those sexy seniors!

Now, if only next time they’d talk to senior lesbians and gay men. We bet there’d be some real “senior moments” from the queer set!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com