Posts Tagged ‘orgasms’

Ask Fanny: Is My Girlfriend Having Orgasms?

Friday, November 13th, 2015

Deborah Sundahl G-spot expertG-spot and female ejaculation expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and G-spot orgasms. She is the author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, 2nd Revised Edition.

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Dear Fanny,
I have an amazing girlfriend (I am a guy). When I start licking her pussy, after a minute she squirts, and then shortly thereafter, she will squirt again, and even a third time and fourth.

She speaks very little English, so communication is somewhat a problem. Only the very basic things can we communicate about.

So I will ask you, is she having orgasms?



Dear Charlie,

Guess what!  Orgasms and ejaculation—in both women and men—are two separate functions. Ejaculation is a release of fluid, and an orgasm is, well, an orgasm.

Some women ejaculate small amounts with very little stimulation. Some women ejaculate small amounts just pushing out their pelvic floor muscles. So, your girlfriend is normal.

How to get her to build and release a lot of ejaculate? Intercourse from behind with slow and steady movements, removing your penis when you feel her pelvic muscles try to push your penis out of her vagina. Why? Because she is trying to ejaculate all over you!

Have fun and let it flow!


Check out the Ask Fanny article here at Fatale’s blog, “Is She Ready to Have a Squirting Orgasm?”

For more detailed information, check out Female Ejaculation for Couples, a great starter DVD guide to learning about and having G-spot orgasms!

The all-new gift set G-Spot ABCs gives you free shipping and an array of G-spot and female ejaculation resources from G-spot expert and sex educator Deborah Sundahl.

Spontaneous O

Friday, October 4th, 2013

Full Load laundry room sceneThe verdict is in. Science has confirmed the ability to achieve spontaneous orgasms via fantasy alone. This is big. We’ve known about Tantra for a long time, and Tantra practitioners always seem to have the secret smile that says, “I have the best orgasms ever.”

Women do it more and better than men, according to “I’ll Have What She’s Thinking.” Surprised?

Where does porn fit into this whole schema? It wasn’t mentioned. During the scans of the orgasm participants’ brains, volunteers were told only to fantasize.

But what is porn if not fantasy come to life on the screen? We’re willing to bet purveyors of porn are high on the list of those gifted with spontaneous Os!

Are you a spontaneous O? What do you like best about it?

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

P.S. For some spontaneous Os of your own, check out all Fatale Media’s videos!

Sex Tips: How to Tell If Your Partner Is Faking It

Saturday, October 13th, 2012

There are a thousand reasons why people fake it in bed. Sometimes it might even be a good idea.

But what if you’re the one who feels like maybe your partner is faking it. How can you tell?

First off, just because she doesn’t gush doesn’t mean she hasn’t had an orgasm. Real orgasms don’t always mean gushing female ejaculations, even if you have stroked her G-spot. You can have an orgasm without gushing.

That said, here are our top tips on how to tell is she’s faking it:

1. She’s not really even that wet. Put your finger(s) down there. You’ll be able to tell.

2. She’s not working up a sweat.

3. Her nipples aren’t hard.

4. Her moans and/or murmurs or screams don’t sound like her usual.

5. This is the most important one: she shows no signs of satisfaction or joy.

These are mostly physical signs of faking it, but the emotional content is inherent.

If your partner fakes it once or twice, don’t worry about it. But if it’s chronic, talk to her. Find out why. Find out what she needs to be satisfied in bed.

Female Ejaculation for Couples DVDMore conversation here, in dozens of Fatale Sex Tips and expert advice about female ejaculation and the G-spot.

Female Ejaculation for Couples is a perfect resource if you want to explore G-spot orgasms.

New Poll: Is the G-Spot Real?

Monday, July 30th, 2012

Last month, we wondered what your porn style was. Lesbians, anyone?

Check out the porn style poll results.

Nora EphronNot long ago, we overheard a conversation about the G-spot and female ejaculation. Probably when we were mourning Nora Ephron, who wrote the amazing orgasm scene from When Harry Met Sally.

Could it be that we were having this conversation all over again?

Does the G-spot exist? Is the G-spot real?

That’s our poll question for this month. Vote now! The poll is Fatale’s home page.

Then tell us what you think.

Until next time, we wish you deliciously hot sex, and plenty of G-spot orgasms, if you believe in them,

Nan and Christi

Full Load laundry room sceneP.S. To see some real not faked G-spot orgasms (if you believe in them), check out Full Load. The last scene especially, down in the laundry room, gushes!

Another orgasmic recommendation: Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels–no question these gushers are fabulous!

Want to learn about female ejaculation and the G-spot? Check out Female Ejaculation: The Workshop by G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl.

Q&A: Ask Fanny – How to Have an Orgasm

Saturday, February 18th, 2012

Deborah Sundahl Female Ejaculation ExpertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Dear Fanny,

I am 20 years old and have a girlfriend, but I can’t orgasm. She has been really good at helping me try, but I still can’t. I don’t like doing it myself either; it just doesn’t feel good.  I wish I could have an orgasm, but I don’t know what to do and feel I should reach out for some help now.


Dallas, TX

Dear Renee,

I suggest that you make a concerted effort to have your orgasm by yourself first, and give your partner a rest. It is hard on the relationship and a lot of work for the partner, without the reward or pleasure. Better to keep your relationship free of a hard burden that is mostly your affair anyway.

What to do? You can start with these three things:

1. Read this wonderful book on how to have an orgasm. Becoming Orgasmic by Julia Heiman and Joseph LoPiccolo–here’s the Powell’s Books link–takes you step by step through the elements of female orgasm and guides you to fitting sexuality into other areas of your life.

Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross2. Check out this new video, Betty Dodson’s Body Sex Workshop.

Betty Dodson is called the Mother of Masturbation because since the 1960s, she has been teaching women how to have an orgasm. Back then, very few woman had orgasms, and it was a feminist mission to change that sad fact. Now 83 years old, she is still going strong! Aided by her younger business partner, Carlin Ross, they just finished another video of Betty’s famous workshop teaching women to ejaculate. Enjoy and learn!

3. Lastly, ask yourself what is it about touching your body that bothers you? Breath and relax into the touch. Notice what keeps you from relaxing into the touch. Be very aware of what crosses your mind, or what images comes up. This is your issue. Take this and work with it, either through simple awareness that this is the problem, or perhaps the help of a therapist.  But first, read the book and watch the video!

Pleasure will be yours! Give yourself time and permission, that’s all.


Female Ejaculation the WorkshopP.S. Check out Female Ejaculation the Workshop by Deborah Sundahl.

Watch three gorgeous women learn to stimulate the G-spot and achieve beautiful orgasms in a workshop setting.


Ask Fanny: Very Multiorgasmic

Thursday, July 30th, 2009

Deborah Sundahl - Female Ejaculation ExpertG-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to askfanny at; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Dear Fanny,
I am one of those women who have been traumatized by the fact that I ejaculate when I climax. I am very multiorgasmic (as long as the man can hold out, I can continue climaxing) and by the time a lovemaking session ends, the whole bed is soaked!

At first I thought it might have been incontinence, yet the sensation was different than that of urination, and the liquid was totally clear and practically – if not completely – odorless.

As time went on, the experience became uncontrollable, more intense and much messier. I have gone to several doctors and once they get over their dismay, they tell me there is nothing to do about it and to just enjoy it.

Problem is, I am presently single, and I don’t know how or when to approach the subject with a man. I am embarrassed to be too candid up front, yet I would be even more mortified if they were turned off by sharing the experience or, worst yet, if they actually thought the liquid was as a result of incontinence.

Do you have any suggestions on how to approach the subject? I would love to once again be intimate with a man, but I let my fear of rejection hold me back. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Los Angeles, CA

Dear Cee,
Since you obviously have female ejaculation and multiple orgasms working in your sex life, it seems odd that you are not that free when it comes to telling your potential partners about your wonderful ability to be so orgasmic and free-flowing!

When you find a partner you want to have sex with, it is always a good idea to tell him upfront that you ejaculate. The best way to open up the topic with partners is to ask them if they have heard of female ejaculation. If they have not, then you need to tell them that is what you do and then see their reaction. If it is anything less than curious and somewhat enthusiastic, don’t go out with them again.

My guess is that you have had partners in the past who do not appreciate or express themselves sexually in the sophisticated and open way that you do. And that in fact they have put you down for it. I believe this is the problem, not what to say to a potential sex partner.

A woman just came to my workshop who learned to ejaculate for the first time. She went back to her new partner, who didn’t know about female ejaculation, and she did not ejaculate. This is not surprising to me.

Do not be afraid or ashamed of your wonderful way you express yourself sexually. If your partner cannot meet you with this, find another. Do not waste your precious sexual life force on someone who will denigrate it by withdrawing, ignoring or withholding interest and sexual partnership.

Good luck!


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Want to find out more about female ejaculation? Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples.