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A friend has been dating a woman for a few months. They took a long trip to China together, they’ve dated, and he has done everything “right.”

Lo and behold, a sad e-mail arrived the other day: “Our union is off.”

Union? What union? Were they thinking of getting married? Already?

Women need time. For as long as we’ve been lesbians (forever), this is one thing we know for certain.

A few months of dinners and movies and taking a trip, even a long one to China, is not enough time for her to feel secure in marriage.

But, you say, what about shotgun weddings? All those couples who get married right out of high school? All those women who get pregnant and marry in order to give their children a stable home?

We won’t deny that sometimes things move fast. But moving fast is not ideal.

Just as men don’t need nearly as much time in bed in order to orgasm, so too, in bed, most women need more time than men in order to orgasm.

Sure women can fake orgasms. Remember that scene in When Harry Met Sally?

But we women don’t want to fake orgasms. Women want real orgasms and real relationships and real romance.

Fanny Fatale has written extensively on men’s lovemaking habits in order to help them stimulate the g-spot and allow their lovers to ejaculate.

When we were watching The Crash Pad Series Volume 2: Unlocked, women take all the time they want in order to orgasm. Their partners indulge them and give them whatever they need or want. Why rush?

As in lovemaking, men need to go slow with women. Women need to go slow with women. That’s what romance is all about.

Is our take on all this one big generalization? Yes. Are there wide swaths of truth here? You tell us.

By Anactoria Jones, accomplished blogger and a true wit.

Rub a dub dub…

…three men in a tub. They tell this to children?

Remember the sex scene at the end Bull Durham with dozens of candles surrounding an antique claw-foot bathtub?

The bathroom is a wonderful place to refresh and relax, to soak away aches out of muscles and get in the mood. To actually have sex there it helps to prepare in advance: getting the right supplies ready makes the real moment go smoothly. Susan Sarandon’s character in that movie never muttered over a pack of wet matches. You can be sure she kept a Bic lighter within easy reach of that tub.

To recreate the Bull Durham magic try a pack of tea light candles. They’re easy to set up and create a magnificent glow. You can also transform mundane to extraordinary with a bouquet of rose petals floating in steaming water.

The tub can be the ideal place to shave a loved one’s pubic hair—it’s the easiest place to rinse off. The secret is to keep it comfortable. Try an inflatable cushion to comfort the neck and shoulders of the person being shaved, or for the person on the receiving end of oral sex in the bathtub. If you’ll be standing up while intertwined in the tub or the shower, use traction strips or a mat for a safe no-slip experience.

In case you transit to the bedroom (many do), tie up long hair with a scrunchy to keep it dry. Stock massage oils on the nightstand for sensuous post-bathing rubs. And have extra towels handy so the only puddles you leave on the sheets are the right ones.

To check out a fabulous bathroom scene, check out One Night Stand or the classic Bathroom Sluts.

Judging from the January 2008 poll, there’s an even division between those who wear lingerie “all the time” and those who never wear it.

A lot of guys don’t like to wear lingerie, although New York’s former mayor Rudy Giuliani posed like a diva in lingerie. And regardless, lingerie is usually a hit when guys squeeze themselves into a little corset, fishnet stockings and garter belt.

For sex, lingerie can add a dollop of romance and make what might otherwise be ordinary sex extraordinary. Even keeping on a lacey black brassiere during sex gives an exquisite tactile sensation for both you and your partner. (more…)