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Prop 8 Victory

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010
Proposition 8 Victory August 2010

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Today Proposition 8 was overturned by U.S. District Court Judge Vaughn Walker, saying that the California proposition was “unconstitutional.”

In the ruling’s conclusion, the judge wrote: “Proposition 8 fails to advance any rational basis in singling out gay men and lesbians for denial of a marriage license. Indeed the evidence shows Proposition 8 does nothing more than enshrine in the California constitution the notion that opposite sex couples are superior to same sex couples.” 

(Special thanks to Go Magazine for pointing out this salient quote.)

This ruling is worth cheering about. Even if those who oppose gay marriage want to take this to the Supreme Court, so be it. For now we have victory.

We hope New York follows suit. Could we dare to dream of a country where gay marriage is legal in every state?

Get Nasty This Summer

Friday, July 16th, 2010

Midsummer is upon us. Everything seems slow, quiet, slumbering. Time for vacation. The news reports that more people are driving to their vacation destinations this summer, and that’s an even better reason to try something new.

Our next-door neighbors took their kids to summer camp. Yesterday they didn’t come out of their house all day! We thought, bet they’re in bed experimenting like mad.

Here are three down-and-dirty suggestions for trying something new this summer vacation—

–Bend Over Boyfriend
If you haven’t tried doing your boyfriend up his butt yet, or if you want your girlfriend to do you, this is the place to start.

Already tried it but need or want some more inspiration? Try Bend Over Boyfriend 2. Or try them both in the special BOB 2-fer package and save $10.

–Female Ejaculation
If you’re even remotely curious about how to female ejaculate, go to the FE goddess herself, Miss Deborah Sundahl, to learn how and where your G-spot lurks. This is pure fun and requires no equipment. Your fingers will suffice. Enjoy!

Never done it? Start here: How to Female Ejaculate

Want to try it with your hetero partner? Try Female Ejaculation for Couples

Prefer the company of women? Then you need Female Ejaculation: The Workshop

–Catch Up on The Crash Pad
If you’ve like some people we know, maybe you never quite “got” the Crash Pad craze. Well, now’s your chance to catch up.

The Crash Pad Gift Set is perfect for the beach. If you’ve got a summer house or share with like-minded friends, these vids make the perfect basis for sexy party games

Plus, you get to choose which three Crash Pad videos you want—just put a note in the Comments section during checkout.

Our favorite remains The Crash Pad Series Volume 2, which we said was “beautifully filmed and pussy-licking good!”

Get nasty this summer…and tell us your stories!

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Remember to bring a gift when you visit! You can see all Fatale’s packaged and gift sets here.

The Wedding Issue

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

June is traditionally the month to get married. The nearby church parking lot has been packed for the last two Saturdays, and we expect it will be the next two weekends too.

It was a bit of a shock to learn that Elton John was singing at Rush Limbaugh’s wedding to wife #4. But hey, a million dollars is a million dollars. Nice fee if you can get it.

Tomorrow in San Francisco a different kind of wedding issue is coming to a head. Same-sex marriage is on trial in Perry vs. Schwarzenegger, the significant case that goes up against Proposition 8.

Proposition 8 outlaws same-sex marriage in the state of California, denying gays and lesbians the right to marry there since voters passed the law in late 2008.

Why does California matter? Because it’s the largest state in the union, and what happens in California is often a harbinger of what happens elsewhere in the U.S.

Kris Perry and Sandy Stier Plaintiffs

Kris Perry and Sandy Stier, Plaintiffs

Why does Perry vs. Schwarzenegger matter? Because what happens tomorrow in San Francisco will most likely prod the winners or losers in this case to appeal to the United States Supreme Court. Does Proposition 8 violate the U.S. Constitution? This is the first time the gay-marriage issue has been fought on the grounds that it violates the Constitution.

The full testimony from the January trial can be found at the Equal Rights Foundation.

As an appropriate aside, we find it heartening to learn that a new study shows teenaged children of lesbians are quite well adjusted, thank you very much. The study by Nanette Gartrell was published last week in the journal Pediatrics.

As for Perry vs. Schwarzenegger, don’t expect to see the daylong closing arguments broadcast on TV, however. As reported in the San Francisco Chronicle, the judge in the case, Chief U.S. District Judge Vaughn Walker, denied media outlets’ petition to film the closing arguments. It’s really too bad. Perhaps if more ordinary people could see the absurdity of the case against same-sex marriage, they wouldn’t be cowed by the religious right to vote against equality for all

Frank Rich wrote a good piece in the New York Times on Sunday, required reading if you’re more interested in the TV show “Glee” rather than gay marriage: “Two Weddings, a Divorce and ‘Glee.’

Needless to say, we’ll be following this case closely as it winds on. Your opinion? Let us know what you think here in the comments section.

Till next time, we say Happy Gay Pride! Wear it well.

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Check out Fatale’s good wedding gift sets.

Good-bye Don’t Ask Don’t Tell

Friday, May 28th, 2010

The first step in repealing the 1993 Clinton presidency compromise on gays in the military, “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell,” is at last on its way out.

Yesterday the U.S. House of Representatives voted 234 to 194 to allow the repeal of the law, which bans out gays and lesbians in the military.

Officially:  House Vote 317 – Allows Repeal of Ban on Gays in Military (New York Times article today).

Grethe CammermeyerChristi had the pleasure of sitting at Grethe Cammermeyer’s table at President Bill Clinton’s 1992 inauguration. For Christi, it was Grethe Cammermeyer who brought to light the serious issues of gays in the military and what that really means on a day-to-day basis.

It was a sad day when the “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” compromise was forced in to law. But since then, Americans’ perceptions of gays and lesbians seem to have changed for the better. We’re not the same pariahs we were then.

To that we salute the House members who voted to repeal this act.

Takin’ it to the streets—sex and the public sphere

Friday, May 14th, 2010

The street, the beach, the backseats of cars… On commuter trains, at your desk, in the office elevator… On pool tables, in bars, in public restrooms…

These are just a few public masturbation dens. Yummy!

Masturbating in a carHere are some of our favorite reader comments so far:

“I like to do it in my car while I am driving. One time I orgasmed as I was transitioning from the 15 freeway to the 805 in very heavy traffic. Now that I am a little older and live in a rural community, I like to take my convertible out for a drive in the summer evenings while naked. Could someone please spank me?”

“Bathroom at boot camp.”

“I did it in the forest while searching for mushrooms in France. I went off the track behind bushes and sat down. I had great orgasm and squirt.”

You can submit your own comment here at the blog.

What about toys? Vibrators? Almost no one has mentioned using toys or vibrators, although a couple comments specifically mention the squeezing together of legs or using a water jet to get off.

Tell us! We want to know. What’s the most public place you’ve masturbated?

We think voyeurism counts too, especially Christi, having lived in New York City for so many years. When does your apartment become a public space? What about a beach house? Same issue?

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Talk to Me BabyP.S. Need some inspiration? Put on Talk to Me Baby: A Lover’s Guide to Dirty Talk and Role Play, and just revel in the sound of Shar Rednour’s voice. Oh, sweet honey.

P.P.S. You can see all Fatale’s DVDs here.

Facebook Invite Redux

Friday, April 30th, 2010

Just when we put out a real invitation to “become a fan” of Fatale Media on Facebook, Facebook changed its language.

So now we invite you to like us at Facebook.

Please, like us.

If you’ve heard about Facebook’s new “instant personalization” program and have any privacy concerns, here is a link to an article worth reading:

“How to Opt Out of Facebook’s Instant Personalization,” The New York Times, April 23, 2010:
http://gadgetwise.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/04/23/how-to-opt-out-of-facebooks-instant-personalization/

And don’t forget to like us at Fatale Media!

Invitation to Become a Fatale Media Fan

Wednesday, April 14th, 2010

We’ve struggled with some of the technical aspects of Facebook, but we’re getting there, slowly but surely!

Would you like to become a fan of Fatale on Facebook?

This is a special invitation, because we know we have lots of fans in real life, but we want to crank up the “Facebook numbers.”

Here’s our Facebook link: http://companies.to/fatalemedia/

Here’s a huge thank-you for becoming a fan!

Happy Spring!

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

Happy Passover!

Happy Easter!

Happy Springtime!

No matter where you are in the world, no matter if you celebrate holidays or not, we hope you are happy and reveling in the change of season.

Interesting comment from Stacey on last month’s Fatale blog post “Let’s Pretend to Be Lesbians”:

“Not to mention, Jones New York is one of the worst ranked (at least by HRC) places for LGBT folks to work.”

In our opinion, any self-respecting LGBT would have fought tooth and nail against this dumb-ass image.

Okay, rant over.

We’re looking forward to having Deb Sundahl visit for Easter and a few days more, now that she’s back from her European workshops and lecture tour. We’ll get more Ask Fanny columns for sure!

If you have questions about female ejaculation, you can e-mail askfanny@fatalemedia.com. Please put “Ask Fanny question” in the subject line.

Happy Spring. Happy April.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. If you ordered a Fatale catalog to be mailed to you, hang in there. We’ve run out and are sending out photocopies, but we’re running late. So we appreciate your patience.

P.P.S. You now get super low-cost shipping and complimentary gift-wrapping and gift cards. We ship worldwide, and you can order securely online with your Visa, MasterCard, American Express or PayPal. See all Fatale’s DVDs.

Your Letters

Tuesday, March 16th, 2010

Thanks to a reader for this comment to “Skirts and Strapons”:

“Surely you’re not suggesting Marlene Dietrich was straight?”

Okay, point well taken. (Bashful gulp.)

Constance McMillanNext up, thanks to our friend Chuck for sending along the news of yet another GLBT high-school student who’s been ragged on. But this time the ACLU is coming to the rescue.  We were saddened to see that the teen’s Jackson, Mississippi, high school cancelled its senior prom because 18-year-old Constance McMillen, a lesbian, wanted to not only take her girlfriend, a student at the same school, but also to wear a tux. What’s wrong with a tux? Geez.

Apparently wearing a tux violates school policy. In 2010?! They can’t be serious. But they are. The ACLU has filed a suit on McMillen’s behalf to have the school reinstate the senior prom. According to the AP report, “Lesbian Teen Sues to Force School to Hold Prom,” a fellow student said to McMillan, “Thanks for ruining my senior year.”

Lastly, thanks to our friend Ruth for sending along this op-ed by none other than the venerable Desmond Tutu, the Nobel Prize-winning peace activist, about gays and lesbians: “Love all God’s children, gay or straight.”

Snip: “Hate has no place in the house of God. No one should be excluded from our love, our compassion or our concern because of race or gender, faith or ethnicity — or because of their sexual orientation.”

The Washington Post (www.washingtonpost.com) is not very user friendly, and you’ll have to sign in, but you can sign in using your Facebook account to access the article. Well worth the read. Thanks, Ruth.

Let’s Pretend to Be Lesbians

Monday, March 15th, 2010

Rather shocking ad, a double-page spread, in the latest Martha Stewart Living appears to advertise the Jones New York clothing line available at Macy’s. Huh?

Why are these two straight girls holding hands and looking as if they’ve just eaten forbidden fruit?

Here’s the picture (don’t choke):