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Saturday, December 1st, 2012Sex Tips: Can Porn Help You Know If You’re a Lesbian?
Friday, November 16th, 2012Are you gay?
This is a real question. Who wants to know? Parents, friends, sisters and brothers, aunts and uncles, cousins and all the rest of them. Believe it or not, knowing if you’re lesbian, gay or bisexual isn’t always obvious. Can porn help?
The benefits of watching porn, besides being a huge turn-on for many people, is that you can discern which sex acts are of interest, which sex acts you like, if you react strongly for or against certain images.
Will it help you know if you’re a lesbian? Or bisexual? Or something else?
Probably. If you like watching women have sex with each other, and you’re turned on, then there’s at least some lesbian twinges happening inside you.
Does it mean you’ll be a lesbian forever? Maybe. Maybe not. Like a lot of things, it depends on what you make of it.
Some women are only interested in women. Or they are sometimes, and sometimes with men, or multiple partners, or they’re equally turned on by men and women and others.
What about transgender impulses? There are whole cultures of transgender people who are not necessarily transsexual but who dress and behave in ways traditionally different than their given gender. In the Chicago Reader‘s blog The Straight Dope, Cecil Adams captures the essence of what psychiatry terms “gender identity disorder”: “you think you’re the wrong sex, and you’re not happy about it.”
On the other hand, “What’s So Bad About a Boy Who Wants to Wear a Dress?” the New York Times Magazine asked not long ago. Gender-fluid is the way they describe parenting boys who like girls’ stuff.
Queer pornographers such as Courtney Trouble and Madison Young prefer the word genderqueer. They’re breaking new ground in blurring the boundaries between straight and gay and queer and trans.
The V Word
Friday, September 21st, 2012
“Female sexuality around the world is targeted because through traumatizing the vagina, you can intimidate women on multiple other levels,” writes Naomi Wolf, author of a new book called Vagina: A New Biography.
Wolf’s article, “Kate’s breasts, Pussy Riot, virginity tests and our attitude on women’s bodies,” was published this week on CNN.com.
We don’t 100% agree with Wolf about porn—Porn 24/7, as she calls it. But we do agree with her in general about women’s bodies and sexuality. She writes:
In the struggle over sex, these choices are where the struggle lies: Who decides reproductive rights; who decides when and how breasts might be exposed; who decides who can say vagina and where; who decides who is a slut; and who must be punished with hard labor for asserting their right to define their own sexual and artistic identities.
The censorship by Apple iTunes, as noted in an article in The Guardian, was shocking enough. Adding asterisks so that the word vagina reads v****a.
We see actions the world over suppressing women’s sexuality and sexual expression.
Still and all, Jennifer Hough, writing in the Toronto Star, says “the widespread activism” about the trial and sentencing of Pussy Riot “suggests these young Russian dissidents are giving the movement new impetus, perhaps even tweaking feminism for a new generation.”
Why does women’s sexuality matter? Why does women’s porn matter? We say: It’s about control. Who controls women’s bodies and sexuality matters.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
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Renegrade Raging Grannies Update
Friday, August 31st, 2012Our friend Geri from Real Lesbian Porn wrote to tell us that the Raging Grannies YouTube video had been taken down. It’s still there, just in a different place, with a different link.
Watch the Raging Grannies Take On Todd Akin.
Renegade
Friday, August 31st, 2012We don’t watch a lot of politics in general, although we do like knowing the news. And yes, we read newspapers too.
The Presidential election season is upon us here in the U.S., and we’ve been rather dumbfounded by some of the ideas floating about that call into question some basic tenets of women’s health. Birth control, or contraception, is one of them. Representative Todd Akin’s notion of “legitimate rape”—versus some other kind of rape? VP hopeful Paul Ryan’s idea that rape is a “method of conception.”
Sometimes the news is too much. A good chuckle is all we need. A Fatale reader and fan sent along this video of “Renegade Raging Grannies.”
Renegade Raging Grannies Take On Todd Akin
The ending is the best part. Watch here on YouTube.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
P.S. And after you’ve had a good chuckle, check out what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”
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Cosmo Style
Saturday, August 18th, 2012
We were saddened to hear of the passing of Helen Gurley Brown this past week. While not exactly in line with Feminist Beliefs back in the 1970s, she believed in sex. Because of her belief that women could be homemakers or in the workforce and still sexy, we owe her a nod of gratitude.
She pioneered putting sexy women on the pages of Cosmopolitan. It hadn’t been done before.
It wasn’t really until On Our Backs and Fatale Video (now Fatale Media, as you know) came into being that we dykes were able to openly proclaim our sexuality.
It’s hard to imagine now, but 30 years ago there were Take Back the Night Marches in New York and elsewhere, protesting violence against women and protesting porn. The Sex Wars were in full swing.
Forgive us for taking some liberties with history here, but feminists and sex had an uneasy relationship for a while, despite what we were actually doing in bed.
Where did Helen Gurley Brown fit in to all this? Cosmopolitan was a sexist rag, some thought. But then we caught up to Cosmo in a way that we didn’t expect.
Cosmopolitan was one of the first mainstream magazines to jump on Bend Over Boyfriend and take up the issue of “role-reversal fantasy.”
Straight gals had Cosmo. Thanks to Helen Gurley Brown’s passion for sex, straight women didn’t have to be ashamed of sex.
Being out there and sexy was one thing we shared with Helen Gurley Brown. RIP.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
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Tribute to David Rakoff
Friday, August 17th, 2012
We mourn the passing of David Rakoff, storyteller extraordinaire, humorist and chronicler of gay life. He was 47 years old and had long battled cancer, specifically Hodgkin’s lymphoma. In 2011 he won the Thurber Prize for American Humor for his book Half Empty.
The New York Times’ obituary noted his style as “amiable dyspepsia with an almost palpable undercurrent of melancholy.”
We listened to David Rakoff’s stories on This American Life, hosted by Ira Glass and a show where we have long heard and begun to appreciate new voices in storytelling and humor.
“Our Friend David,” the current edition of This American Life, is dedicated to David Rakoff’s life and stories. We urge you to listen—on the radio, as we do, or online.
New Poll: Your Ideal in Life?
Thursday, March 1st, 2012Last month, we asked if romance was for you. Romance rules! Check out the results.
There’s been some mumblings about monogamy in the Twitterverse and the news lately, which got us to thinking:
What’s your ideal in life?
Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page and is completely anonymous. We’ll give you the results next month.
Until next time, we wish you deliciously hot sex,
Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com
P.S. Check out the new Courtney Trouble DVD Live Sex Show.
Starring Nina Hartley and Jiz Lee, this is one hot tamale from the evermore interesting Courtney Trouble.
Etta James
Saturday, January 21st, 2012
Etta James died yesterday. She was part of the soundtrack of our lives, and of our life together. We are grateful for her music. As Gwendolyn Thompkins noted in her beautiful tribute to Etta James on NPR this morning, Etta James kept love going through good times and bad.
Raise a Toast!
Tuesday, January 1st, 2013Because we’re driving, we’ve packed up our own Champagne and are celebrating the New Year as a romantic getaway…with some obligations thrown in, but romantic nonetheless. We even brought our own Champagne flutes! Pink, in case you were wondering.
We wish you all the best for the coming year. May all your hopes and dreams come true.
Happy New Year!
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
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