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Happy Fisting Day 2013

Monday, October 21st, 2013

International Fisting Day #fistingday

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happy Fisting Day!

Celebrate! It’s the third anniversary.

Celebrating Fisting

Friday, October 18th, 2013

Fisting has come out of the closet. October 21, 2013 marks the third anniversary of International Fisting Day, a celebration of a sexy sex act that bothers the hell out of a lot of people.

The imagery of the fist means revolution. It means boxing. It means violence. It means success, “hell, yeah, we did it.” It means a fist bump.

The hand curled into a fist. Tight or loose, it’s the way some people hold drumsticks or baseball bats. Grab a line on a sailboat. A dog’s leash. The tethers on a hot-air balloon. Whips.

Jiz Lee and Nina Hartley fisting in Live Sex Show

Fisting means loving your lady with your whole hand. The feeling is exquisite. Whether giving or getting, it’s an intimate gesture that surpasses nearly all others.

We’re not sure of the history of the hidden nature of fisting, but we do know that the law in the some areas, here in the U.S. and other places, isn’t real fond of images of women fisting. Fisting each other, specifically. Gay guys have their own culture of fisting, and their own porn around fisting. Lesbian fisting sex is different, although it may seem the gesture is similar.

Thank you to @JizLee and @CourtneyTrouble for standing up for fisting, for bringing fisting out of the closet and into the open with its own legitimate “International Day.” And Twitter hashtag – #FistingDay

Jiz Lee has a good post, “Fisting Day.”

On Monday, fisting images, art, blog posts and more will go live at this official Fisting Tumblr page. Grab your gloves and lube and go!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

@FataleMedia

P.S. Want to see some? Check out Nina and Jiz in Live Sex Show, or Courtney Trouble’s Hard Femme.

Spontaneous O

Friday, October 4th, 2013

Full Load laundry room sceneThe verdict is in. Science has confirmed the ability to achieve spontaneous orgasms via fantasy alone. This is big. We’ve known about Tantra for a long time, and Tantra practitioners always seem to have the secret smile that says, “I have the best orgasms ever.”

Women do it more and better than men, according to “I’ll Have What She’s Thinking.” Surprised?

Where does porn fit into this whole schema? It wasn’t mentioned. During the scans of the orgasm participants’ brains, volunteers were told only to fantasize.

But what is porn if not fantasy come to life on the screen? We’re willing to bet purveyors of porn are high on the list of those gifted with spontaneous Os!

Are you a spontaneous O? What do you like best about it?

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. For some spontaneous Os of your own, check out all Fatale Media’s videos!

The Clit Gets an Ad Campaign

Friday, September 13th, 2013

Cliteracy by Sophia Wallace

We didn’t realize the clit needed its own ad campaign. But according to Sophia Wallace, that’s exactly what the clit—unappreciated, undervalued in the world—needs. And she’s out to make sure the world knows about it in a new “Cliteracy” campaign.

Why cliteracy? Why now?

This is about much more than just women’s sexuality, Wallace maintains.

“Cliteracy is about not having one’s body controlled or legislated. Not having access to the pleasure that is your birthright is a deeply political act,” she told the Huffington Post.

A Tumblr campaign has gone viral, and Wallace plans to take her Cliteracy street ad campaign beyond New York City, where she posts the posters touting Cliteracy.

At base is Wallace’s “100 Natural Laws of Cliteracy,” and the art installations are pointblank: “The clitoris is not a button. It is an iceberg,” reads one declaration.

And if the idea of a “Clit Rodeo” tickles your fancy, you won’t be disappointed.

Wallace says that even in (straight) porn the clit is considered “optional” and “kind of freaky,” we say the clit is rarely ignored or dismissed in the real thing, real dyke sex, between lesbians.

What do you think? Does the clit need its own PR?

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Check out all Fatale’s sexy lesbian and adult-education videos.

3 Things You Should Never Say to Your Lover

Saturday, August 17th, 2013

Not that every day brings romance, chocolate, flowers, Champagne, to a relationship, but there are some things that are just plain wrong to say face to face to your sweetheart.

Dress makes you look fat

 

 

 

 

 

 

1. That dress makes you look fat.

 

Our Anniversary?

 

 

 

 

 

 

2. It’s our anniversary!??

 

The Real L Word XXX San Francisco

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3. Did you come yet?

 

Tell Us What You Think

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Toronto Porn Weekend

Tuesday, April 16th, 2013

Tristan Taormino, Shar Rednour and Nan Kinney at #FPCon

We’ve been traveling the last couple of weeks, off to Toronto for the first annual Feminist Porn Conference, where Nan and Shar Rednour gave a great presentation on lesbian porn from the 1960s – 2000s, “Lesbo Retro: A Dyke Porn Retrospective.”

But best of all, Nan received the Trailblazer Award at the Feminist Porn Awards on Friday night!

We’ve posted some pictures and will post more.

For our friends who weren’t there or couldn’t make it this year, here are some completely subjective notes, and links to more resources. Don’t miss the piece in the Daily Beast.

The 8th annual Feminist Porn Awards were held on Friday night, April 5, 2013, at the Capitol Events Theatre in Toronto. Good for Her, the sponsors, put on a stellar show. There were performances by Coco La Crème, Lena Love and Axel Blows & Mahogany Storm. Friends from near and far were all in attendance, including Courtney Trouble, whose Lesbian Curves won Hottest Dyke Film.

The FPA Trailblazer Award given to Nan was a complete surprise! Shar Rednour presented it, and you should have seen the smile on Nan’s face!

To see the entire list of award-winners, check out Good for Her. Kudos to Good for Her diva Carlyle Jansen for a spectacular party.

For an excellent overview of the Toronto weekend, don’t miss the Daily Beast article by one of our favorite people, Rachel Kramer Bussel (www.rachelkramerbussel.com), “Organic, Fair Trade Porn: On the Hunt for Ethical Smut.”

For the weekend told in Tweets, check out Storify, a compilation by Tristan Taormino of #FPCon tweets that really does express the excitement of the weekend!

You know where we’ll be next year for the 2nd annual FPCon for sure!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Come visit the Toronto Porn Weekend 2013 Pinterest board to see more photos!

Moments from FPCon

Saturday, April 13th, 2013

Kelly Shibarri at #FPCon 2013

 It was a pleasure to meet Kelly Shibari from Hot Movies for Her at the first annual Feminist Porn Conference in Toronto. She wrote a nice review of the conference.

Kevin Heffernan, Shar Rednour and Nan Kinney at #FPCon 2013

We were thrilled because she commandeered the churchy-like entryway of the University of Toronto building where the conference was held, nabbed SMU prof and friend Kevin Heffernan and corralled Shar Rednour and Nan Kinney to do an interview. We look forward to the video interview and will post a link as soon as it’s up.

More stories…and thanks to Tristan Taormino for the story of the conference #FPCon in Tweets at Storify.

 

Feminist Porn Conference 2013 Review

Saturday, April 13th, 2013

The first annual Feminist Porn Conference, masterminded by Tristan Taormino, took place at the University of Toronto on April 6, 2013. We were thrilled to be there, amid the hundreds of attendees and presenters academic and porno alike.

Nan Kinney and Shar Rednour at Lesbo Retro #FPCon

Nan Kinney and Shar Rednour were a hit with the presentation of “Lesbo Retro: A Dyke Porn Retrospective.”

Here is the press release Tristan issued about the conference…what a wealth of talent and intelligence in one place! Sexy, fun-loving, interesting people!

The 1st Annual Feminist Porn Conference Draws Hundreds to University of Toronto

TORONTO (April 8, 2013)—The First Annual Feminist Porn Conference was held at the University of Toronto on April 6, 2013 and drew nearly 250 attendees. This one-day conference brought together academics, cultural critics, performers, directors, producers, sex workers, activists, students, and fans to explore the emergence of feminist porn as a genre, industry, field of study, and movement. The event, the first ever conference devoted exclusively to feminist pornography, featured 45 different presenters from around the world.

Presenters included leading professors whose work spans multiple disciplines from history, sociology, film and media studies to comparative literature, sexuality studies, and feminist studies, including Kevin Heffernan from Southern Methodist University, Lynn Comella of University of Nevada-Las Vegas, Ariane Cruz of Pennsylvania State University, Jill Bakehorn of UC Davis and UC Berkeley, Nicholas Matte of University Toronto, Emily Nagoski from Smith College, and York University’s Bobby Noble as well as scholars from CUNY, UCLA, Northwestern, and Ohio University.

Several panels featured some of the most well-known producers and performers working in feminist porn today, including Jiz Lee, Courtney Trouble, Madison Young, Sinnamon Love, Dylan Ryan, April Flores, Carlos Batts, Loree Erickson, James Darling, Carrie Gray, Tobi Hill-Meyer, Tina Horn, Arabelle Raphael, Quinn Cassidy, Jes Sachse, and Bianca Stone.

The international conference drew presenters from around the world, including Liesbet Zikkenheimer and Marije Janssen from Dusk TV, an erotic TV channel for women in the Netherlands, and Australian webmistress and director Ms. Naughty of ForTheGirls.com. Carol Queen, PhD, co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture and Good Vibrations’ sexologist, spoke on two panels: “Conspicuous Consumption: If We Sell It, They Will Come,” about the connection between feminist porn and sex-positive retail stores and “Feminist Perspectives on Sexual Identity and Sexual Health in Educational and Feminist Porn.”

Award-winning filmmaker Shine Louise Houston of Pink and White Productions screened her documentary Shiny Jewels to a huge crowd.

A screening of Lesbo Retro: A Dyke Porn Retrospective, a clip show of lesbian porn from 1960-2000, was followed by a question and answer session with its curator, Shar Rednour and special guest Nan Kinney, co-founder of On Our Backs and Fatale Media and recipient of the 2013 Trailblazer Award at The 8th Annual The Feminist Porn Awards on April 5.

The keynote was delivered by feminist pornographer Tristan Taormino and Professors Constance Penley and Mireille Miller-Young (both from University of California-Santa Barbara). As three of the four co-editors of The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure, recently published by The Feminist Press at CUNY, they discussed how feminist porn has shifted sexual representation and pondered what the future holds for feminist porn.

“The goal of our book was to put academics and sex industry workers into conversation with one another to discuss critical issues about feminism, sexual media, representation, sexual agency, and labor. This conference took those conversations to the next level,” said Mireille Miller-Young.

“We hope it mobilizes academics and sex industry workers to create coalitions to support each other’s work,” said Constance Penley.

“The event exceeded my expectations,” said Tristan Taormino, who produced the conference. “I was inspired by the diversity of voices from professors and students to performers and fans. The enthusiasm for dialogue about feminist porn issues was overwhelming, and I am already planning next year’s conference.”

The Feminist Porn Conference was sponsored by the Mark S. Bonham Centre for Sexual Diversity Studies, Good for Her, The Feminist Porn Awards and The Feminist Press.

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Call for Your Opinion – Dutch Magazine Zij ann Zij

Friday, March 1st, 2013

Ronete CohenThe wonderful writer Ronete Cohen is asking for comments from women about their opinions about sexy movies. The article, which Nan will be interviewed for too, is for the Dutch lesbian/bisexual magazine Zij aan Zij.

Here is Ronete’s tweet to us:

RT @rainbowcouch: @FataleMedia Writing article about women and porn. What kind of porn do you like? Anonymity guaranteed. ronete.cohen@gmail.com

Learn more about Ronete at her Web site, http://www.rainbowcouch.co.uk/

You can follow Ronete @rainbowcouch and follow us @FataleMedia

 

 

Hookups and Dating – Call for Comments

Thursday, February 14th, 2013

Hookups and Dating

We’re writing a Sex Tips piece on hookups, dating and the current social scene.

Intrigued by a New York Times article, “The End of Courtship?” we thought we’d get your ideas and opinions first.

“The word ‘date’ should almost be stricken from the dictionary,” wrote one 30-year-old single. “Dating culture has evolved to a cycle of text messages, each one requiring the code-breaking skills of a cold war spy to interpret.”

Do you agree?

We want to hear from people outside the U.S. too. Don’t be shy! Tell us what you think.

Tweet your comments to @FataleMedia

Or post them on Fatale’s Facebook page, www.facebook.com/FataleMedia

Or post your anonymous or signed comments here and clicking “Submit Comment.”