Not everyone loves Valentine’s Day, but for us romantics, it’s a perfect excuse to give flowers and chocolate, heart-shaped cookies decorated in red and white frosting and, of course, to exchange Valentine’s cards.

When we were kids, everyone in school made Valentine’s Day cards for their classmates. We suspect they still do, but everything changes once you’re really in love. Valentine’s Day becomes a midwinter break, and in fact the holiday was fused from the celebration of spring in Italy. (We read the whole history here at The History Channel.)

After intending to stay home and cook up a romantic dinner, we’ve now got new plans! Instead, we’ll be making our own whoopee at our favorite hotel on Valentine’s night. Surprise, surprise! This was Nan’s idea, and terribly romantic! An intimate dinner with just the two of us, some serious butch/femme flirtation, and a sexy DVD up in the room…

We’re still going to be watching Sugar High Glitter City, but we’ll also bring along Shine Louise Houston’s DVD, The Crash Pad Series Volume 1.

They’re both sexy as all get-out, and inspiring. We can’t wait.

What are you doing this Valentine’s Day? You can tell us here.

Happy Valentine’s Day!
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Valentine’s Day arrives in less than two weeks—picture Eros with his arrow of love getting ready to zoom into your life for a day. Are you ready?

Romance counts. It makes the hard times softer, easier to get through. In any relationship, ours included, wooing keeps love alive. The thrill of the chase may be just beginning or already over, but the extra courtesies and kind gestures that fuel romance also fuel abiding love for each other. Valentine’s Day is a day to remember and honor romance.

So if you haven’t already, now’s the time to plan a wonderful, romantic Valentine’s celebration. Perhaps it’s flowers and chocolate and an evening out on the town. Perhaps it’s a long weekend at a romantic getaway.

And if for some reason you have to be alone, treat yourself to an evening you’ll remember. Do something different. Try something you’ve never done before. Do something you’ve promised yourself you would.

We’re going to be staying home on Valentine’s Day. We’ll cook a special dinner—perhaps lamb chops with a salad of red lettuce and a lemony vinaigrette. There’s a chocolate ganache cake we both love. Decorated with raspberries, it’ll be the perfect accompaniment to watching Sugar High Glitter City, our favorite sexy movie to watch when romance comes knocking on Valentine’s Day.

What’s your Valentine’s Day romance quotient? You can comment here.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

Got the dvd on the gspot, but I’m confused…You say many women can’t ejaculate with something inside them… How do you play with it for them to ejaculate if that is the case? Please explain in simple man’s terms.

JB, via e-mail

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Dear JB,

Most women, but not all, find it difficult or impossible to ejaculate with something inside their vagina - at the moment of ejaculation. Some women ejaculate with a gush, but it is of course impossible to arc the ejaculate out of the body when close contact such as intercourse is occurring.

Therefore, you play with it - that is, stimulate the G-spot - before she ejaculates. Using toys, fingers, penis, you have ample time to play with the G-spot before the moment of ejaculation.

When you feel her G-spot engorge and swell, then withdraw your penis (or toy or fingers) and allow the ejaculate to flow.

Hope that was simple enough. Good luck.

Fanny

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

We hope you had a good holiday season and are ready for 2008. We sure are. Not everybody likes making resolutions, but we do. They’re like a rough map for the future and a way to measure progress. We keep a book with our goals, and it’s satisfying to look back and see how far we’ve come. This year, we thought we’d share ours with you.

Here’s our list of top 5 New Year’s resolutions for the coming year:

1. Have more sex

2. Continue to be kind to each other

3. Make and produce more sexy movies

4. Carry and distribute more good movies starring real dykes

5. Keep the love in all interactions with friends, customers and family

We’ve already started on one of these resolutions…number 4, to carry and distribute more good movies starring real dykes. The red-hot gals at The Crash Pad have continued to shoot scenes in the crash pad, the secret room where only some are given the keys.

Now they’ve put the first five episodes together in a new DVD called The Crash Pad Series, Volume 1, directed by the inimitable Shine Louise Houston. There’s a little something for everyone here—butches and femmes, bois and transfolk.

You can read more about it here.

See all Fatale’s sexy DVDs here.

And next time we write we’ll have a new DVD out from G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, so stay tuned.

Happy New Year!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com

Buying lingerie, not unlike buying lube or condoms, doesn’t have to be embarrassing. You can stride right over to the sexy underclothes area of the department store and ooh and ahh at the silky offerings. Or you can duck your head, pretending you were looking for flannel PJs, and blush.

Buying lingerie online isn’t tactile—what online buying is?—but you can find a wider variety of fabrics, sizes and styles than in most lingerie or department stores. Hard-to-find sizes are a real bonus with online shopping.

We don’t like the models’ styling in here, but if you dig deep you can find some unusual pickings with lace and silk and satin, and a good selection of plus sizes, at Lingerie Diva. The blog’s not bad either. Like Mistress Cobra’s corset in Full Load, similar designs abound here.

If your idea of fun includes leather and latex, don’t miss JT’s Stockroom for a wide selection of panties, corsets, stockings and more. It’s one of our favorite shops.

Want to know the best uses for lingerie? Next time, in Lingerie: Part 2, we’ll talk about how and when to wear lingerie and what else it’s good for.

We want your opinion on how you wear and use lingerie. You can comment here.

Giving good tongue is fun, but it’s even more fun when you’ve got something in your mouth while you’re going down on her.

Caution first: no hot spices or ground chili pepper of any kind, nothing too hot, nothing sharp, nothing small enough that you might accidentally choke on.

Fun things to put in your mouth:

Ice cubes are one of our favorites. You get the cool, slippery, crackly sensation of the ice cube in your mouth, and she gets the utterly clit-blasting experience of hot and cold at the same time. Keep the ice in your mouth and try licking the rest of her, too! (more…)

What is it about spanking that is so deliciously titillating? Certainly spanking—like a lot of previously taboo delights—has come out of the closet. There are Web sites and Web communities and blogs dedicated solely to this new old art.

One of our favorite sites is Vintage Spank. Old photos of women getting spanked by other women, in a variety of settings, hint at the lesbian liaisons to come. The women are for the most part dressed, too, another titillation. What lies underneath? The stages are set so that you can’t help but make up your own stories about the players, the spanked and the spanker.

The lesbians in our movies delight in spanking—as a tease and prelude to sex in Turn Me Up Over and On, as role-playing “punishment” or just giggly fun in Full Load.

Spanking is fun! Let’s admit it. And in the right setting, spanking can make you feel like you’re on fire…and not just your bottom!

What do you think? You can comment here.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. If you signed up to receive the new Fatale catalogue between October 16 and October 24, 2007, would you kindly e-mail us your name and address, or simply sign up again here. Due to a technical glitch, those requests were lost. Thank you!

Sex parties or play parties even today are usually still quiet affairs…meaning you don’t advertise, you don’t tell your neighbors, you don’t tell all your friends.

If you want to host a sex party, remember to provide plenty of room for sex play and space too for downtime. Be selective about who you invite and determine your own rules, but don’t make too many rules that will stifle spontaneity.

As at any party, you provide the food and drink. It’s a good idea to buy extra lube and condoms, but your guests should bring their own toys. Turn the heat up if it’s cold outside. You don’t want to see your guests freezing and covered with goose bumps as they try to get in the mood for sex. (more…)

You may have noticed that you can now comment on any story in the newsletter. You should still feel free to e-mail us, but we encourage you to share your stories and experiences with others at the blog.

In last month’s poll, we asked: Do you enjoy anal sex with a strap-on dildo?

Surprise, surprise! Not all of you like anal sex. But for those who do, big ones anyone?

See all the results here.

This month we ask: Do you like spanking during sex?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com

We’ve been in the business of lesbian sex movies for a long time, over 20 years, but this was a new one on us: scissoring. Supposedly a sex act where two lesbians interlink their legs to form two sets of “scissors” and rub their girl parts together, not only the term but the act itself is one we’ve never seen or done!

What gives? Is this some new position lesbians have suddenly “discovered”? Is it a term made up by some guys who haven’t really witnessed lesbian sex in the flesh or movies?

An article, “It’s Lesbian Sex 101 with Professor Tam,” first clued us in to this odd expression. And no, scissoring is not the same as tribadism, which is our experience is usually done face to face.

The idea of using a double-headed dildo in this scissors position crossed our minds, but women’s insides aren’t shaped like shotgun apartments. That’s why most double-headed dildos are shaped like the letter U.

Besides, what fun is sex if you can’t kiss each other, play with each other’s nipples and watch her face as she comes?

What do you think? You can comment here.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com