We’ll write more about this in a future issue of the Fatale Media Blog, but we want to clarify what we mean by “queer porn,” which is at this point mostly lesbian but not 100%.

Some of you have asked, for example, about Roulette by Courtney Trouble , with it’s boy-boy scene smack dab in the middle of the lesbian scenes.

Queer Manor, the new DVD by Madison Young, however, is by our definition pure lesbian. Don’t be fooled by the title.

We went to Courtney Trouble and asked her how she defines queer. Here’s what she said:

“Queer Porn can be any combination of boys, girls, transfolk and genderqueers, doing any combination of things, be it sweet, romantic, vanilla, kinky, experimental or rough. Queer is a word used by those whose sexuality does not fit so easily with what society has given us to choose from. For instance, I don’t fit into a lesbian description because I am attracted to more than just women in my sexual fantasies and in my daily life.

“As well, I don’t feel ‘bisexual’ because I like more than two gender identities. I try to mix a little bit of everything into my films, proving that the diversity of desire is more than just LGBT, and sometimes, who we are does not dictate what we watch to get off.”

Stay tuned for more from Courtney Trouble, director most recently of Seven Minutes in Heaven: Coming Out .

Do gay girls like anal? We’ve been surprised at how many people are trying to find the answer to this pressing question.

In our experience, lesbians like most anything, assuming the act is approached with a level of communication and not just plunged in. If you get our drift… There are a lot of options down there, and women are no different than anyone else when it comes to enjoying sex.

We’re headed to Washington, D.C., next weekend to see Christi’s sister and her wife. Yes, you read that right. They got married in Massachusetts last summer and are now hosting a weekend-long party for friends and family. Too bad we just missed the March on Washington.

We always figured we’d get married…and then we realized we already were—in spirit and form and function. Our rings still do mean something and represent our decade-plus commitment to each other.

Does this mean some lesbians simply want sex and others need and/or want marriage and others just want to watch episodes of The L Word? Nothing against The L Word, mind you. Or maybe all three?

Courtney Trouble wrote a good piece exploring these notions in “Hot ’n’ Heavy” for this month’s issue of Curve Magazine.

Tell us: What do you want? Click on the Comments below and tell us!

Meanwhile, any suggestions for where to find fun, sexy dykes in D.C., let us know!

“Kick open that door to your temple and let people in!”

So says Karen Williams, and watching once again her 2008 live show from the Knitting Factory in Hollywood is a good wakeup call.

We say yes! It’s time. Forget that moan-and-groan, I-don’t-wanna-have-sex attitude. Sex is good, and good for you. Sex is fun. Sex is real.

So quit whimpering and get inspired. Dress up. Get loose. Strap on. Try something you’ve never tried before.

And if you need some true inspiration, watch a sexy DVD. You won’t regret it.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

We had the amazing good fortune to see the delicious Amanda Palmer recently. It was a small club, one we’d never been to before.

If you don’t know this dazzling performer with a big, big voice and biting wit (not to mention concert-hall-worthy piano-playing), we recommend you check her out. Formerly of the Dresden Dolls, Amanda Palmer has been out on her own promoting Who Killed Amanda Palmer, and what an album it is.

Now, not everybody likes to make love to cabaret, but Amanda Palmer makes us shiver, producing major clit jolts in us.

Most of our lesbian friends in New York adore her. They’d no doubt get down on the floor and do most anything for this woman, given the chance.

And yes, we have a six-degrees-of-separation situation with Amanda Palmer. Apparently she’s good friends with Kim Airs, the woman who introduced us.

Amanda looked lovely in a long green gown with skinny straps. She wandered into the space and through the audience strumming a little ukulele. Given the profusion of porkpie hats in the room—a tribute to the cabaret style of Dresden Dolls’ Brian Viglione–we weren’t sure which porkpie was going to bow down first.

What we did notice was the effects of the music on the packed crowd. Wandering through a nearly empty backroom to hit the ladies’ room, Christi noticed a big boy in a suit—he could have been Tony Soprano risen from the dead, from the looks of him.

Tony there was sitting back in the shadows at a corner table…a look of pure bliss on his face as he glanced at the ceiling. Then, the slightest movement from his lap. Dark hair.

Ah, Christi had wondered why he was wearing his overcoat. He was getting a little head while Amanda Palmer sang “Coin Operated Boy.” She is good music for sex.

Here’s Amanda Palmer performing “Coin Operated Boy”:

(Or, if you can’t see this, watch Amanda Palmer here at YouTube.)

What about you? Have you ever had public sex? Take the public sex poll on Fatale’s home page.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. To see Fatale’s latest DVD—with rockin’ original music and just nominated for the Feminist Porn Awards—check out One Night Stand.

We read with interest Daphne Merkin’s “Butch Fatale” piece about Rachel Maddow in the New York Times Women’s Fashion Spring 2009 magazine a couple weeks ago.

It gave us a chuckle to think of Rachel Maddow as “fatale” anything, because she’s clearly a good-looking, sexy butch who whets our news whistle each evening on MSBNC.

Then we stumbled upon Jen Sabella’s rebuttal on AfterEllen: “The New York Times Tackles ‘Butch Fatale.’” It’s an excellent essay, and we commend Sabella’s skewering wit and astute commentary.

We were uneasy too when we read “Butch Fatale.” As a proud butch/femme couple, we found it rather odd to see “lipstick lesbians” equated with femmes, the femmes in question barely acknowledged. According to Merkin, there are only two “Sapphic archetypes” and “both categories (butch and femme)” derive from “gender-influenced dichotomies of beauty.”

Give us a break.

Sabella also pulled out this zinger: “In one of [Daphne Merkin’s] books, Dreaming of Hitler, she says that even lesbians ‘wish to be filled with something hard and penislike and not-female.’” 

Our favorite comment came from Jenna DQ, and with her permission we’re quoting her comment nearly in full:

“I might get eaten alive for this, but, yeah, obviously there are plenty of lesbians who enjoy penetration. Even straight men like penetration (those who’ll admit it anyway). What vagina wig is missing here is the same thing stupid people (excuse the gross generalization) miss all the time. It’s not strictly a genital thing. Half of sex occurs in the mind! So ask a lesbian who enjoys penetration if there’s a difference between being f*ed by a man or a woman…Ask a gay top if there’s a difference between f*ing a woman’s butt or a man’s…Ask a straight man if there’s a difference between getting a beej from a man or a woman! You are making love to a sexuality, not a genital.

“Come on. Get with it…not to mention that there are plenty of women who do not enjoy penetration, so where does her generalizing, dismissive statement fit them in?”

We couldn’t have said it better. Thanks, Jenna!

We recommend reading this intelligent article and equally intelligent comments at AfterEllen.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. To see Fatale’s latest DVD with lesbians who like penetration, check out One Night Stand. For guys who like it, Bend Over Boyfriend is the sex-ed gold standard.

We were curious to see Charles McGrath’s review of Daniel Bergner’s new book, The Other Side of Desire (Ecco, $24.99). Subtitled Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing, the book is about “people most of us would call perverts or weirdos.”

Ah! Pervs and weirdos. That’s us.

So imagine our surprise to see the next day, a week ago, the cover story of the New York Times Magazine: “What Is Female Desire?” by the very same Daniel Bergner.

Our first thought: Nobody asked us!

But after reading this fascinating article about women sexologists exploring the inner reaches of female sexuality, we were sold that they’re doing good work.

But we know there are lots and lots of women who know exactly what they want. Is this still an issue? Apparently so.

Here’s the letter Nan sent to the New York Times:

To the Editor:
As someone who has catered to women’s tastes for sexually explicit material for 25 years, I read with interest Daniel Bergner’s article “What Is Female Desire?” and applaud the work of Meredith Chivers and the other sexologists. Although I am not a scientist, I nonetheless have observed over these past 25 years that women will seek out and spend money on sexually explicit material that they know turns them on. In other words, there are plenty of women who know exactly what they want.

Sincerely,

Nan Kinney
President
Fatale Media, Inc.

Tell us what you think women want!

Deborah Sundahl – a.k.a. Fanny Fatale – headed to Las Vegas last week for the Adult Entertainment Expo at the Consumer Electronics Show (CES).

“For three days,” she says, “I sat in seminars and listened to important discussions about the women’s market for porn. Yet when the Big 4 executives—from Hot Movies, Hustler and other big companies—sat down at a panel, not one word was mentioned about women or the women’s market. It’s like women don’t exist for them. Only the Internet and men.”

What does this mean? Deborah thinks the big boys are out of touch, that women do represent an important factor in the adult market. Since the days of the anti-porn crowds, many, many years ago, women have come into their own vis-à-vis adult.

Friends Deborah ran into in Las Vegas include Nina Hartley, Tristan Taormino, Kim Airs and the gals at Babeland. 

Two more pictures of Deborah in Las Vegas:

We were in New York not long ago, and over an Italian dinner in Chelsea, a friend told us this story:

“Years ago, I was living down in the West Village with my boyfriend. We had an apartment on Bleecker Street between Christopher and Grove. One Saturday morning we were out grocery shopping. On the way home, climbing up the stairs, we got as far as the second floor. Suddenly we just dropped the grocery bags and did it right there in the hallway of our apartment building. Five minutes! And it was utterly invigorating.”

It struck us that December is a month filled with holiday parties, racing around, shopping, more parties, gift-wrapping, family dinners…did we say parties? When so much holiday activity is swirling around, it’s easy to forget to treat yourself.

Quickies are the perfect escape…and so invigorating, as our friend discovered that day in the hallway.

Give your sweetie a quickie this season, and you won’t regret it!

Need some inspiration? Check out the dykes in the red bathroom in One Night Stand.

Happy Hanukah! Merry Christmas! Enjoy your December!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Speaking of quickies, you get free, fast shipping on all Fatale titles. No minimums. Promise. Check out the holiday shipping schedule to make sure you get your gifts on time. 

The SexGeek has written a blow-us-away most excellent review of Fatale’s latest DVD, One Night Stand.

“The film’s various scenes are downright delicious, definitely a cut above what I’ve come to expect of queer porn… The chemistry in the final scene is electrifying… Really the whole film is beautifully shot, with lots of great angles, especially impressive considering it’s a DIY… All in all, One Night Stand is a true treat, and definitely a must for the collection of any queer porn connoisseur.”

Read the whole review: “Finally a One Night Stand.”

Check out the sexy lesbian DVD One Night Stand.

Is Halloween your favorite holiday? Is dressing up part of your wildest fantasies? Or maybe it’s just the profusion of candy and little trick-or-treaters at your door.

When we were kids, no grownups dressed up except one  holiday? Is dressing up part of your wildest fantasies? Or maybe it’s just the profusion of candy and little trick-or-treaters at your door.

neighbor lady who always dressed as a witch…in full regalia and green pancake makeup, one or two large warts on her nose. Scariest grownup we ever saw.

Of course, Wicked has become one of our favorite Broadway plays.

Here’s Christi’s Josephine Baker fantasy costume:

About a far a cry from Sarah Palin masks – sure to be popular this year – as we can imagine.

No matter what you think of Sarah Palin, the Republican Vice Presidential Beehive who’s now “dressing down” in jeans, Josephine Baker epitomizes sexy.

Sexy, sultry, playful. What’s your fantasy? 

If you could be anyone, anything at all, for Halloween, what would you be? Tell us here at the blog comments section. 

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. One Night Stand got a fabulous review in AVN. Three and a half stars for Fatale’s latest DVD! Read the One Night Stand review.

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