Spring has sprung, and it seems that the sweetness in the air is translating to a renewed sexual desire to experiment, to play, to surrender to the senses.

May used to be devoted to masturbation, but we haven’t seen a whole lot going on nationally this year. Still, we were curious to see a question put out there on another Web site about the “most public places” you’ve masturbated. So that’s the basis for our main poll question this month: How often do you masturbate?

(You can vote on Fatale’s home page.)

After you vote, you get a bonus question: What is the most public place you’ve ever masturbated? Tell us! You can be as anonymous as you want to. Simply put only your first name or a pseudonym in the “Name” section of the Comments when they come up. Your e-mail and Web address (if you have one) will not be published.

Don’t be shy! Vote now.

We’ll see you in a couple weeks. For now, we’re headed off for a sexy weekend away to celebrate Nan’s birthday. Whether or not you’re in the mood for a weekend away, we hope you have some sexy fun alone or with your partner(s)!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. One of our favorite masturbation solo acts in a lesbian video is in The Crash Pad Series Volume 3. Dylan, having watched from inside a curtained closet the steamy sex scene between two lovers, throws herself on the bed after they leave. It is still, in our opinion, the best scene in the movie.

Here are the top 5 bestselling DVDs from Fatale for the first four months of 2010 – get ’em while they’re hot!

1. Bend Over Boyfriend

– “Many straight guys love anal penetration because it allows them to relax and receive passive pleasure.” – Playboy.

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2. Bend Over Boyfriend 2

– “It’s rare that an ‘educational’ movie is able to straddle the line between information and hot sex, but BOB 2 does it.” – Sexilicious.com

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 3. One Night Stand

– “The porn for you if you like your lesbians real, your fucking diverse, your pussies wet and your tranny boys hung.” – Slutgrrls

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4. Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels

– “Dyke drama at its finest, Hard Love is the story of two former girlfriends who can’t resist a last roll in the hay….The plot’s climax between the exes—[Jackie] Strano and newcomer C.C. Bell—is genuine, explosive, and one of the best lesbian sex scenes ever made.” – Tristan Taormino, Village Voice

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5. Coming Home

– “The first of this series of vignettes features a big, curvy butch-femme couple: the deliciously hot women we never get to see in mainstream porn…” – LesbianLife.About.com, “Best Lesbian Porn”

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See all Fatale’s sexy DVDs.

Thanks to our friend Chuck, who sent this link along with the comment, “Who in the hell are these people? This law should be gone. This is a 50-year-old law. There are laws in many states being removed every day. The laws were wrong then. It is still wrong in 2010.”

“Law to ‘Cure’ Homosexuality Refuted.”

Datelined Sacramento, California, no less.

Thanks, Chuck. We do appreciate the clips and links!

And in case you missed this gem, check out “Can Animals Be Gay?” by Jon Mooallem in the April 4, 2010, issue of the New York Times Sunday Magazine, about “The science of same-sex pairings in the wild.”

The first time might be a little scary, but don’t worry. If there’s a musky aroma at first, it goes away the more you lick and suck and her natural juices come to life.

Each woman is different, and she may or may not like what you’re doing, so you can always peek up and ask, “Do you like this? Is this all right?”

Some women like to experience a finger or two or three inside while you suck her clitoris, but for some the sensations are so different that some women prefer to focus. Start with the clit, then gently ease a finger in and see if she still likes it. As she becomes more aroused, her G-spot may start begging for some curved finger action inside. Go for it!

As for her butt, some women like a finger inside her butt, and for some women it distracts from the main event. Just remember never to put a finger in her butt and then in her cunt. That’s a no-no. You want to avoid infection. You can go in the other direction, from her vagina to her anus, but don’t reverse direction.

Wear gloves. That’s always good advice. But we know that even the best-intentioned lovers don’t always come prepared. And longtime lovers may think foregoing gloves is okay. It may be; just be aware of what you’re doing and where you are.

Lick to your heart’s content! The taste should be clean and delicious as she becomes more aroused. Ditto the smell, as mentioned above.

If she has her period, you can still perform that most delectable act of cunnilingus if she wants it and if she permits it. Move the tampon string aside and keep your fingers out of her unless she specifically requests it.

Be gentle, and let her moans of pleasure guide you.

To see one of the loveliest lesbian cunnilingus scenes on film, check out One Night Stand. And the scene with Anja and Eva in Coming Home features a great scene with real lesbian 69 with close-ups.

“One Night Stand is the porn for you if you like your lesbians real, your fucking diverse, your pussies wet and your tranny boys hung.”

So says Slutgrrls’ Miss Zooey, and we couldn’t agree more.

Check out One Night Stand.

An old friend and customer wrote to us lately asking for statistics on strapons.

He wants to know how many butches are out there really—he calls butches “manly women,” but he may well mean exactly that, straight women who wear a suit and tie. We don’t know of too many straight women who go in men’s clothes. Been a while since Marlene Dietrich did her thing.

He also wants to know how many older women are out trolling for younger men. And how many women who wear strapons like to stroke their strapons.

For all these questions, we have no answers, not being sociologists or even sexologists but rather pornographers.

Here’s our favorite question:
“Are skirts still popular, or are they going out of style? They seem old-fashioned to me. I would prefer to a woman in a pantsuit any day.”

For this we must ask a femme…or a drag queen. And the answer is resoundingly no! Skirts are not going out of style.

The most popular butch/femme DVD we carry is Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels by the gorgeous femme Shar Rednour and her handsome lover Jackie Strano.

Anybody check out Fashion Week last month? “Calf-grazing skirts.”

Of course, don’t tell Lady Gaga.

Or her Muppet skirt.

If you have answers or commentary, please let it all out! Click the Comments button here.

We want to know what you think, too.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

We hope you had a nice, romantic weekend, perhaps a long one like we took, to honor Presidents’ Day here in the U.S.

We started the weekend out slow, watching the opening ceremonies of the Olympics in Vancouver on TV, talking with friends back in New York and Washington, D.C., who were still digging out of the snow.

Valentine’s Day was lovely. Instead of fighting for a spot at one of our favorite restaurants, we decided to make our own romance at home. We lit new candles, dressed up the table and opened a bottle of sparkling wine we’d been saving for just this occasion.

Nan gave Christi beautiful pink and red long-stemmed roses.

Christi baked Nan’s favorite cake, a chocolate sponge cake that seems light as air when you take your first bite.

Here’s the recipe for Julia Child’s chocolate sponge cake , also called Le Marquis. We don’t frost it, preferring just to sprinkle some powdered sugar on top.

Yes, it is terribly romantic to feed each other this delightful, simple chocolate cake. Which of course led to even more romance…in the bedroom…

Yes, it was pure indulgence.

Today, we wish we were in New Orleans, celebrating Mardi Gras, eating King Cake and joining the party!

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. There’s a great food scene in Hungry Hearts, where Pepper and Reeva feed each other strawberries, which would also be good on this chocolate cake! And in Queer Manor, the cupcakes come out to the tune of “Let them eat cupcakes!”

By Shar Rednour

Shar’s Confessions once again. I just like confessing to the Fatale audience. I don’t know why.

This article does include some tips for romance. I have been known as a lesbian romance and sex expert, giving advice for years. Let’s get down to it: there’s a line in the sand, my friends–the romantic planning people and the rest of us. Which side are you on? And which side is your love on? Yes, wake her up and read this to her.

For those of you who are just the best organizers and such romantic planners, why are you even reading this? YOU are the person who my wife, Jackie, points out to me, “Veronica is taking her love to Amsterdam.” “Denise has made her love a shadowbox full of ANTIQUED photos and is giving it to her on a ferry going under Golden Gate Bridge!!!”

I think I am being romantic when I remember to send her a nasty text for her lunch hour. Yes, laugh at me. Go ahead. I am laughing at myself. Sometimes even though I am the femme I relate to the guys on those daytime talk shows who think a fuck and buying you a glass of champagne is good enough. “Whaa?”

To be fair to myself, I should explain that oftentimes one’s weakness can be one’s strength because we are aware of it. I overcompensate to make up for my lack of natural romantic planning. Now, I call my friend Veronica and simply ask HER what’s she’s doing, then I copy it. Don’t tell Jackie.

But I am good at keeping intimacy and sex alive in a lesbian coupledom.

Please copy me and I won’t tell on this part.

1) Skip the Dinner
For Valentine’s Day most people go out for a fancy dinner. If you never get to go out and this is your big treat, then by all means go for it. For me, though, I find the fastest ticket to opening up and creating intimacy with your lover doesn’t always start with a heavy meal.

2) Plan where you can be intimate.
Do you live alone? Will you have the house to yourself? If not, instead of spending that money on a big meal, plan for a hotel. On the Internet these days you can get all kinds of bargains in your price range. Get a hotel even if you can’t take advantage of it for more than a couple of hours. And most importantly, get a room with a bathtub. Even if you get a cheap room, get one with a bath.

3) A) Plan sexy food. B) Plan after-sex food.
Obviously it’s freezing in most places so this is up to where you live. Get your and your love’s favorite appetizers. Wine, champagne, whatever drinks or smokes you want. Also water. For after sex, pick up something filling and yummy–your favorite comfort food. Couple of burritos, whatever. Keep them warm and hide them.

4) Pack the Love Bag.
If you are at home, get it all ready. Remember the lube, candles, sex toys, music, DVD player, favorite sexy movies, etc. If you can set up the hotel room ahead of time, without her there, all the better.

5) Pack the after bag.
Comfy clothes, favorite bath salts, lotion.

6) Thoughts and love.
Think ahead of what is special about her and about you two together. Write down your thoughts in a card. Picture how you are going to express yourself to her.

7) Make the Connection.
Start with your tasty bites…I meant the hor d’oeuvres but yes, nibble on her or offer your body for the nibbling. Don’t process the bad times or the old days or–especially if you are a new couple, please don’t process about your Ex! (See Hard Love for that.) Talk about what you like about yourselves as a couple and her and the future. Then start kissing. Don’t wait for her to start stuff. Go for it. Get in there. If you have time do a striptease for her or demand that she do one for you. Fuck your brains out. I mean it. ESPECIALLY if you are moms or caretakers or overworkers or or or not had sex in a while. FILL UP YOUR SEX GAS TANK!!!

Having sex creates vulnerability and also sets off excellent hormones and body responses that make us feel good. Being vulnerable creates a special bond between you and your love.

8 ) After sex and vulnerability.
Lay back and watch more porn, but this time pick out one with humor too. Like Sugar High Glitter City. No, not Lost. Sorry, that’s for a different night. Take a bath. Eat comfort food and get turned on again or laugh and discuss the positions. This time you might just kiss and kiss since your bellies will be full.

Or you’ll be reenergized for round two.

By Shar Rednour

Jackie and I used to always have a big Valentine’s Day party every year with invitations that read “To Singles, couples, multiples that we like or that we will like once we meet you!” No Wendy Whiners allowed.

Many people hate or dread Valentine’s Day. It is made up by Hallmark, after all. Those very people loved our party. We put on the love for everyone. It was a great excuse to get dressed up and dance and hug and be schmaltzy and share the love. That whole couple Valentine’s Day article I wrote is actually what we do on our private anniversary. We always put on a public Valentine’s Day so that everyone has a good time sharing our fun and love.

I could write some fun and sassy masturbation or group-sex article. But actually I think that you should throw a Valentine’s Day party even if it’s small and for only a few people. We had a pink potluck party one year where everyone had to bring a pink food. Some of it was yummy; most of it was hilarious. My friend Patrick made a pink Jello mold creation from his mom’s 1973 recipe that we couldn’t stop laughing over and finally threw the leftovers out into the gutter in the San Francisco rain. IT NEVER MELTED! I walked past it for days, and it was still there jiggling!!!

If you want to take your party up a notch, make a porn potluck theme–Positions You Would Like to Try. Dyke Porn Stars You Would Like to Do.

Or play truth-or-dare porn. Watch Full Load or Special Delivery and get your friends to confess to what they have done, will do and would never do. The ideas are endless. The point is, anyone can stick her nose up at a created holiday and sit at home eating microwave popcorn, or you can decide it is a good time in the cold winter to have some laughs, share your affections with your friends and get heated up from the inside out.

The best kind. Long and lazy days. Slow sex that makes us smile.

It’s a three-day weekend here in the States; we honor Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. on Monday.

We’ve also been watching the horror in Haiti from the earthquake earlier this week. We gave a donation to Doctors Without Borders/Medecins Sans Frontieres. All donations to them now go to their valuable work in Haiti.

Our hearts and prayers are with the people of Haiti and the caregivers and rescue squads that have come from all over the world. We salute them.